This situation reminds me of a story I read. Perhaps it may be of some use.
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Once, a certain Disciple undertook a long journey in order to pay a visit to Hazrat Shah Abul-Hasan Kharqani (Rahmatullah Alaih).
After this long and arduous journey, he finally reached Khaarqaan.
After making enquiries, he finally reached the house of his Shaikh.
He knocked on the door. At the time, Hazrat Shah Saheb (Rahmatullah Alaih) was not at home. He had gone to the forest to collect wood.
From inside the house, Shah Saheb's wife enquired: "Who is there?"
He replied: "I am a traveler, who has traveled a long journey with the sole purpose of visiting Shah Saheb".
The wife was a woman of a bad and bitter temperament.
When she heard about the traveler’s love and confidence in the Shaikh, she became very angry and said:"Didn’t you have anything better to do than to undertake such a long journey with so much difficulty for something so useless?”
She then continued to criticize Hazrat Shah Saheb (Rahmatullah Alaih) in such insulting words that it would be inappropriate even to mention them.
The traveler then departed from the house and inquired from the people about the Shaikh.
He was informed that the Shaikh had gone to the forest to collect wood.
In the love of the Shaikh, he went in that direction.
On the way, he thought to himself: "Such a great and famous Shaikh and he has such a bad-tempered wife. I do not know how such a bad-tempered wife can be blessed with the company of such a man".
While those thoughts were passing through his mind, he saw someone coming on the back of a lion with a bundle of wood.
It was none other than the saint of that time, Hazrat Shah Abul Hasan Kharqani (Rahmatullah Alaih).
When the Shaikh saw the Disciple he burst out laughing. He realized that the words of his wife had sadden and depressed him. He said:
"If my patience did not bear the bitterness of a bad-tempered woman, then why would this lion now carry me around?
I bear the many heavy burdens and difficulties caused by this foolish woman, and these are all borne for Allah Ta’ala's sake as mujahadah.
Because I am beloved and accepted amongst men, and the honor of men causes pride to be created in me.
Thus my pride and arrogance is treated for me by this woman, through her insulting ways and ill-tempered manner."
Taken and adapted from
MA’AARIF-E-MATHNAWI: A Commentary of the MATHNAWI Of Hazrat Maulana Jalaluddin Rumi (Rahmatullah Alaihe), pp. 108 - 113