May Allah swt protect us from depravity of thought.
Maybe our answers will be better one day.
..one things for sure, don't blame the children.
What we "pious" do in public and private only Allah swt knows.
...read a hadith on ib not too long ago,
Allah says: "O you who have believed, if there comes to you a disobedient one with information, investigate, lest you harm a people out of ignorance and become, over what you have done, regretful." [Qur'an 49:6]
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said that, “A believer is a mirror of the believer.” [Abu Dawud, from Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him); sound (hasan)] So what you see in your brethren is a reflection of what is within you–so beware.
...not a dalai lama story