Originally Posted by Umm Abed
Thanks for your kind words, I really do appreciate them, and thanks for taking time out to reply to me. May Allah bless you.
Mom's sister is lovely but she has dementia and her husband is also not well. It may sound like I am making excuses but they are no longer that close. They have a daughter and they were very interested in my brother getting married to her, but he married someone else and well there is bad blood there now. Uncles also had daughters they wanted my brother to marry, but he didn't marry any of them. I am Indian, and it's common that people will hold grudges until they die over marriage and things like that.
I rarely go to my auntie's house but when I do she weirds me out by saying things like "your Dad came over the day" when in fact he died about 7 years ago. And even if she did allow us to sleep there once in a while, there are 5 of us here, I doubt she would agree to that!
I look at Zoopla, RightMove, Local Properties etc every single day. You won't believe how keen I am in moving out. I will do 3 jobs in 1 day to try and finance it. I will sell my clothes and shoes too! I'm desperate to get away from here but it is not my time yet I guess. Everyone at work knows what is happening also, they also are on the lookout for properties for me and give me sound advice all the time. There is an old man at work and he has offered for me to go and stop at his if I wanted. His wife and daughter are OK with it. There is another man who has a 4 bedroomed house and he has a spare bedroom and has said I can go and stop over. But both of them drink a lot, both have dogs and it's just not for me I guess.
Yeah, the family next door are Muslims. The man comes to the Mosque a lot. He prays the Qura'an every morning really loudly! (I much prefer listening to the young boy who lives on the other side, he has a fabulous voice and prays really well). It really freaks me out that 99% of the sermons on Friday and when big scholars from other places come (Moulana Saleem Dhorat from Leicester, Moulana Fazlurrehman Azmi from Africa) are all about Huquqool Ibaad and how to respect others and treat neighbours/fellow members of the country etc, and the man from next door is always there but he still does not follow what he is told. The sermons are in English and Urdu and Gujerati so he has no excuse.
I don't know what their problem is. We have done nothing wrong to them. We are a quiet family, we mind our own business. Maybe that's where we are going wrong and we should become the scum of the Earth and then finally, Allah will like us and things will start going right for us. I don't know if I believe it or not, but the more I think about it, the more it makes sense.
It's my day off work today and I actually wish I was at work. I got woken up by the bedrooms being hoovered and then have been treated to a melee of door slams. Way too tired to go to the Mosque today. I could literally fall asleep on the streets, I am that tired!
About the sound proofing, I am a forum member on a few other sites (noisyneighbours.net amongst one of them) and I have had a discussion about sound proofing. Not only is it very costly, but it's not just walls that would need sound proofing but also floors and ceilings. This house has really thin walls, and noise travels not just through the walls but also through the floors. For instance, when the son and daughter in law wake up next door, they are in the attic. When they slam their wardrobe and bedrooms doors, the noise can be heard in my bedroom which is one floor down and also in the front room which is two floors down.
Off for a cry now I think. My head hurts.