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Merciful
[I tried pming you but I don't have a sufficient amount of posts]
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I have invested some time (a very small amount) into pondering about your predicament (with your neighbours). I am saddened to hear that they deliberately(?) mistreat you by making excessively loud noises. My advice to you is to be direct and firm when you approach them without being abusive. If they are Muslims, quote to them this short hadith:
The Prophet :saws1: said: 'Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honour his neighbour.'
If they are indeed Muslims and they fail to take heed after such a peaceful approach, then thank Allah :swt: for it is clear that this is a trial and it is much lighter than the trials and tribulations of some of your predecessors and even those living among us (Syria crisis). There is no doubt that this is a form of oppression so I would like you to note this hadith:
The Prophet :saws1: said: Be afraid from the curse of the oppressed for there is no screen between his invocation and Allah.'
If they aren't Muslims and the authorities refuse to scrutinise their behaviour then patience is all I can advise. I want to reiterate that you should refrain from retaliation by doing what they are doing to you or losing your temper as that wouldn't make you any better than them (with regards to honouring one's neighbour). I am so saddened to hear that it brings you to tears and by Allah :swt: it brings me to tears. May Allah :swt: bless you and relieve you of this hindrance.
Be happy, this trial could mean Jannah! :alhamd:
Hi Merciful,
Thanks for your time and for your really helpful message.
(I've copied and pasted this bit from another thread I wrote on yesterday, sorry just being lazy). They are definitely Muslim. The father normally wails each morning, I think he is trying to pray the Qura'an. And the whole family have Muslim names so I guess that's a dead certain they are Muslim.
They won't listen to us if we go speak to them. We have tried that numerous times in the past. We ended up with dead rats on our car and even more noise.
I've previously spoken to an Imaam. He actually did two back to back Jummah sermons on the rights of neighbours. The ignorant father from next door was in both of them but it made no difference. He wouldn't speak to them direct when I told them who they were. The family are quite rough and do what they want. Not even the Police scare them!
Since then we have had numerous big Aaalims come to our Mosque (Moulana Fadhlur Rehman Azmi, Sheikh Touqueer Choudhury and someone from South Africa) - each of them have always spoken about the rights of neighbours but alas, the penny never drops. I know the ignorant mother from next door has the receiver on at home (it transmits sermons from the Mosque to homes so females can listen) but again, she is just more ignorant than ever before.
Last month, Moulana Saleem Dhorat from Leicester did the same bayan. Ignorant father and ignorant son from next door were at the lecture but hey, guess what, it made no difference whatsoever.
I am at my wits end now. I've prayed everything people have told me to pray and still nothing. I know I probably sound really impatient, ranting and raving like a lunatic, but non stop abuse and harassment on a daily basis takes its toll on you. It really does. I ate not too long ago and then threw it all up because I was so anxious and worried.
I understand the bit about tests and the possibility of entering Jannah. My problem is I am weak. I know the people of Syria are suffering 1 million times worse than me, but I am weak and I cannot take anymore. Sometimes I wonder if I should just slit my wrists. I have previously tried overdosing on sleeping tablets, but not even they worked. I was still wide awake all night.
Do you think Allah won't help me because I am such a bad person? If so, I might as well just slit my wrists and end up in hell forever.