:bism: (In the name of God, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful)
Hello, respected sir. Hope this message finds you in good health and good spirits.
I'm very sorry to read your story, and I sympathize with how difficult it must be to care for your wife who is practically an invalid. I would tell you that you are a hero, but I know that heroism in this life comes at a price and is little consolation as it is because you're also a human being who is also suffering due to your wife's condition. To be honest, I think you be benefited by maybe find a support group in real life that has meetings in London to discuss the struggles of caring for a person who requires full-time attention and nurturing.
The reason I say this is because I once read about how a woman had suffered miscarriage; people of course told her that she would become pregnant again and she should not worry and had would give her the reassurances that is typically afforded to women in her situation. However, she did not feel better because in some indefinable way she felt her real pain was not being acknowledged and people were simply expecting her to get over her real grief and loss. However, after finding a support group for women like herself, she was able to understand her own self and her fears and her loss better and cope with that in a healthier manner.
Also, if you have a very close friend, you should request that close friend write a story about you and your wife and then have GoFundMe page set up so that people are able to contribute in some way to whatever of expenses that you acquire or that which can afford you at least a part-time nurse. And then make that link available on FaceBook or whatever other social media is available to you. It is just a thought. This is something of course you too can do on your own; however, I thought a friend doing it might invite more people to help you as then your story and struggle is from a third-person standpoint.
Both Christianity and Islam ask us to turn to God with our burdens and struggles and ask for relief and alleviation of our suffering; so, you must do the same, turn to God in your prayers fervently and ask God to help you with your burdens and struggles: "Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest!" (Quran 13:28).
Also, I apologize for suggesting this; however, since your wife is in this condition, have you thought about maybe setting her up in a nursing home? Please do not misunderstand me as I consider what you're doing very noble; however, as much as I admire your compassion and your caring for your wife, I also recognize that you are a human being and also deserve to pursue some measure of your happiness for yourself despite your circumstances. You have already stated that you hardly get any sleep as you are responsible for her care 24/7 and that cannot be physically, mentally, or emotionally healthy for you, though I definitely acknowledge that this caring is infinitely rewarding in God's eyes. However, I also know that as human beings we are not saints and therefore might not be able to martyr ourselves beyond our capacity and everybody's capacity is different.
As far as the solicitors go in your wife's case, I would suggest that you do your own research online about what solicitor you can trust to hire for your wife's case; as I'm sorry to say that being a solicitor in some cases is a money-making business and some people do not honor the ethics of the profession in providing due diligence to their client as their best form of serving their clients' interest.
I do not have further words of consolation or advice, but I do wish you to know that God has promised that "God is with the patient" (Quran 2:153).
Originally Posted by colinberry1