Originally Posted by Ummshareef
Salaam alaikum and many thanks for your response.
Do you think a 7 year old is going to understand what it means when I say you will have to remember it for life? I started when I was about 9 and not a single person (not my Dad or the Molvi who pushed me to join) mentioned that I would have to remember it for life. When I got to Supara 15 and realised I would have to remember it for life, I wanted out but Dad made me to go to the head Imam's house and he persuaded (well forced) me to stay and finish the next half which I did but I struggle now. The first 20 I can remember but the next 10, well, let's not go there shall we.
A very strict ustad is essential. We were in a class where the ustad changed yearly so there was no one to look after us properly which was such a shame. I remember one ustad used to sit and talk about his travels to Barbados and India and various other exotic places practically every day. We used to love him because we wouldn't have to do our sabak supara and dowr, but in hindsight, it's a shame no one reported him that he was not taking our class seriously.
Mashallah to your daughter. Good for her.
PS. I am not saying people should not become Hafez or Hafeza. Go for it, it's a wonderful thing to do, but I genuinely one hundred per cent think that people wanting to join should have a 2 week introduction where everything is explained to them and their parents, so everyone fully understands it's something for life and not just a few years.
Just recently, I bumped into someone who was in my class and we ended up discussing if we did dowr and could still remember. Well he says I can remember the first 5 suparah but that's it. He said he could not sit down and re-learn it all because his life is too busy and he has kids now. I didn't really know what to say to him so conversation just ended after that.