format_quote Originally Posted by
huss20
Aslamualikum. My problem is that my sister before her marriage was so caring about her family but after marriage she does not even bother anymore she only cares about her husband who does not come to see us or have little interest in us at all! My sister was my only friend but now she does not keep in contact with me at all. And her husband does not even bother to have a good relationship with us at all when he came last time he was just sat down looking moody and went after 10 mins. I just want my sister to be as she was before because I'm so lonely and my brother does not care about me either I don't have no friends either
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Most people I know changed after marriage. Our friends with whom we used to spend most of our days change after marriage. The contact from very frequent becomes very rare. Daughters might contact their mothers, in who's house they spent the previous 20 years, once a year.
Your sister still loves and cares about her family, but this marriage must mean a lot to her. I suppose this is just her way of showing that by fully concentrating on her marriage only.
Please let them live their lives in privacy. Sometimes the further a married couple are from their families, the less problems they have. Families may interfere or the couple themseves might unnecessarily disclose their personal problems. This is another reason why she may prefer to stay more distant.
Try to find new ways of spending your time. Find new friends e.g. from the mosque, read (e.g. business or any topic that interests you), memorize the Qur'an. learn a language, learn to draw, cook, lose weight if overweight and so on. Do not ever depend on others to fill your time. She is now married, and will soon have her own kids etc. You should get married as well if you have a degree, ask her to help find you a girl.