Thank you all for your replies so far. I appreciate your kind words and your time.
Originally Posted by keiv
KIEV, my whole life has been compared to other people. Indian parents tend to be like that. Well mine are. I was always compared to friends who were outgoing, had better results at school and gained better jobs. Unfortunately, I have ended up comparing myself to others.
I'm generally compared to two of my best friends from the past. Both of whom ran off with girls for weeks on end. One was just a bad boy and did it regularly. One's Mother said she was getting him married to his first cousin, so he packed his bags and did a runner. I wonder what my parents would have said if I did that? Hmm indeed.
Originally Posted by BilalKid
BILALKID, I do already and thank you. Can I ask how this would help?
Originally Posted by GINGERBEARDMAN
GINGERBEARDMAN, why thanks for your kind words. That is one of my problems, I am a really shy person so I don't like talking to new people. I have always been like this. I know I am going to have to change my ways, but it's easier said that done. I wish my Dad was still and / or he made more of an effort with us when he was alive. He never seemed interested in us at all. It was always his sisters/nieces/nephews over us and my Mother. But hey, I need to let go of the past and move on with my life.
Originally Posted by Kiro
KIRO, aww thanks. I am an OAP in Indian culture. When a guy goes over 30, it's like danger zone. People start talking about you, is he not well, has he mental issues etc.
And thanks for making dua for me. Also make dua for my 2 brothers who are older than me who are also looking to get married.
I think I would make an OK husband. I am definitely not the handsomest man on the planet, but I don't think it's all about looks. I have good manners and etiquettes and I think this shows because I look after my Mother, and looked after my Dad too when he became ill and then died. I go to the Masjid regularly. I know I have had big issues with my faith as of late, but if it was not for the people who live next door, none of that would have happened.
There is a girl who I work with who I quite like, but she an athiest and has made it perfectly clear she would never convert for a man, and she would never stop eating pork and drinking alcohol, so I think that's a no no.
May I ask, are all of you guys and girls married? Would you care to share how you met your other half?