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Mustafa16
02-22-2016, 09:39 PM
I am 16, and a brother, and I have been lusting after pre pubescent children, mostly girls, ever since I was 13...... i am about to turn 17, and i thought this was just an adolescent phase, but it hasn't gone away......I know that what I want so badly can never be satisfied, as it would ruin a child's life, and put me in prison.....I know that these feelings are wrong, but in order to deal with the frustration I masturbate.....I know it's haram and I sometimes repent, but honestly, I feel like I shouldn't repent because it (masturbating) would prevent me from hurting an actual child in real life. The attraction is mostly to older young girls, but now it has expanded to older young boys astagfirullah........I dont know if I could get into trouble for writing this, but I want to know if there is a cure and why Allah swt make me a pedophile, and if this does not go away, should I not have children after marriage, so I don't end up molesting them? also, i still enjoy talking to young girls, and i feel conflicted, because i do it when other people are around and i stay appropriate, and I have autism so i cannot relate to people my own age.....so i talk to young girls and boys, as well as adults.......but i know its wrong because its only fueling the fire...what should i do???
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M.I.A.
02-22-2016, 09:51 PM
Masturbation is a gateway drug apparently..

Go figure.

Change before the wind does and you may be OK.


Bad analogies today..

Rationalising your actions as a lesser sin, not sure what to think about that but for a time it may be OK.. Alright.

But if it leads to depravity of thought.. As it does with "normal porn" then its probably just as bad.

But yes you could turn it around and that rational thinking gives you hope.

Your lucky your not a thief.
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Search
02-22-2016, 10:03 PM
:bism:

:sl:

Sorry to hear of your struggles and situation. That said, how can you be sure you're a pedophile? Have you never been attracted to older women? Also, from what I've been told, some level of attraction to younger people is scientifically proven, or at least that's what a psychologist had told me who'd worked with rapists when she'd come to give a lecture to our class. I am not very knowledgeable about this; so, I'll simply ask that you consult a professional and also make duas to Allah.

:wa:

Originally Posted by Mustafa16
I am 16, and a brother, and I have been lusting after pre pubescent children, mostly girls, ever since I was 13...... i am about to turn 17, and i thought this was just an adolescent phase, but it hasn't gone away......I know that what I want so badly can never be satisfied, as it would ruin a child's life, and put me in prison.....I know that these feelings are wrong, but in order to deal with the frustration I masturbate.....I know it's haram and I sometimes repent, but honestly, I feel like I shouldn't repent because it (masturbating) would prevent me from hurting an actual child in real life. The attraction is mostly to older young girls, but now it has expanded to older young boys astagfirullah........I dont know if I could get into trouble for writing this, but I want to know if there is a cure and why Allah swt make me a pedophile, and if this does not go away, should I not have children after marriage, so I don't end up molesting them? also, i still enjoy talking to young girls, and i feel conflicted, because i do it when other people are around and i stay appropriate, and I have autism so i cannot relate to people my own age.....so i talk to young girls and boys, as well as adults.......but i know its wrong because its only fueling the fire...what should i do???
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Mustafa16
02-22-2016, 10:09 PM
yes, I am attracted to teenage girls and young women.......but I am also attracted to children so by the technical definition i am not a pedophile as I am not exclusively attracted to kids....but im still a pedophile...my therapist has confirmed
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Serinity
02-22-2016, 10:13 PM
:salam:

First things first, one thing, you need to make it your aim to stop all haram. Lower your gaze in front of kids, etc. Try to move yourself to a higher standard.

Excerise! It will work with the help of Allah, as it helps lowering those hormones or urges.

Tire yourself out in workout! Study! busy yourself.
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Search
02-23-2016, 12:11 AM
:bism:

:sl:

Please get a new therapist. I don't like the sound of what the therapist has told you if he/she is also not a clinical psychologist. Also, I don't like the therapist confirming anything to you without a clinical psychologist giving you specific tests and/or actually officially diagnosing you as having this problem. Anything else seems far too premature to me, and this is just my untutored instinct-based opinion.

Originally Posted by Mustafa16
yes, I am attracted to teenage girls and young women.......but I am also attracted to children so by the technical definition i am not a pedophile as I am not exclusively attracted to kids....but im still a pedophile...my therapist has confirmed
:wa:
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Finding Peace
02-23-2016, 02:06 AM
Originally Posted by Mustafa16
I am 16, and a brother, and I have been lusting after pre pubescent children, mostly girls, ever since I was 13...... i am about to turn 17, and i thought this was just an adolescent phase, but it hasn't gone away......I know that what I want so badly can never be satisfied, as it would ruin a child's life, and put me in prison.....I know that these feelings are wrong, but in order to deal with the frustration I masturbate.....I know it's haram and I sometimes repent, but honestly, I feel like I shouldn't repent because it (masturbating) would prevent me from hurting an actual child in real life. The attraction is mostly to older young girls, but now it has expanded to older young boys astagfirullah........I dont know if I could get into trouble for writing this, but I want to know if there is a cure and why Allah swt make me a pedophile, and if this does not go away, should I not have children after marriage, so I don't end up molesting them? also, i still enjoy talking to young girls, and i feel conflicted, because i do it when other people are around and i stay appropriate, and I have autism so i cannot relate to people my own age.....so i talk to young girls and boys, as well as adults.......but i know its wrong because its only fueling the fire...what should i do???
As salaam brother,
The best advice I can give is to stay at home away from the desires of the outside. You need to pray, make dua, recite the Quran, pray qiyaam al layl, listen to the Quran. Play a sport or hit the gym. If being around guys won't help you, then just play or exercise at your house.
Masturbating is not a good idea, it will only make your iman worse, it has greater bad effects. You must try not to do it.
And what got you to this stage, did anything happen in your childhood?
Just know that these are desires from Shaytaan, you must fight through this sickness. When you get a thought, seek refuge with Allah from whatever is in your mind. You need someone to talk to. A strong muslim brother that can talk to you face to face. And help you get through this. Spend all your free time in the Masjid. You can't let this get you, you got to be strong and ask Allah for guidance. Inshallah you can heal from this sickness and get on the right path.
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Kiro
02-23-2016, 07:04 AM
make lots of duas and dont stop and please doing other haram things like masturbating because it is helping making the root stronger.

Try praying Tahajud to get rid of this desires and make dua at tahajud

fast consistently


and finally, try doing ruqya as it is also a sort of medicine to cure. Ruqya is not just for Jinn related stuff but also things you need to be cured of.
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hisnameiszzz
02-23-2016, 10:24 AM
Would fasting help? Isn't that what is advised to people who are attracted to people of the same sex?

OP - please don't go there. Think of all the shame you will bring on yourself, your family, your neighbourhood. Acting upon these things can ruin people's lives.

With regards to the autism, can't you go to your GP for help or even support?

I hope things work out for you.
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