Raising tomorrows leaders (18 tips)

[Ridwaan Ravat]

By Mufti Ismail Menk

1. Praise your child, even if they get 4/10 in exam, praise your child in front of others.

2. Never make your child feel that he is useless. Never favour one child on the other.

3. Every time we speak with our children speak with respect, say "thank you", etc. Don't use slang i.e gimmi instead say 'please give me'; use clear words, be polite and never swear. (Prophet said, do not use slang as it will decrease your respect).

4. You need to bare in mind when your child is young that this is just a child, don't take away there playing time by treating them like an adult. If we do this, they will rebel in life.

5. We need to assist our children to make decisions. He or she must be taught to make decisions. Acknowledge them, guide them by talking to them, if they want to go for something, organize the plan for them.

6. Whenever you have decisions to be made ask your child of his or her opinion. For example, if you are going to buy a car, ask there opinion, where they like to eat, or what colour they like for a car, this develops habit of consultancy in them.

7. Depending on the house we are living in, we would perhaps have a corner; write the name of the child there, as it be there territory. Put there certificates on wall; this makes them confident of themselves.

8. Teach your child to follow you to read salah. Lead them rather than instructing, it's a more powerful way. What your child sees you doing they will remember forever. Start instructing them to read salah at the age of 7, this will help them and make it easy for them to follow when they reach puberty when it becomes compulsory on them.

9. We need to teach our children how to put forward their opinion, how you would disagree to a point. Don't use swear words when you disagree on anything as this will inculcate in your child as he is watching you being aggressive. Children have much more grasping power than us and they pick up things very fast.

10. Encourage your child to ask question, and try to answer each question they ask else they will get it from a wrong source. Praise there questions at times.

11. Always fulfill your promises on to you children. Do not make big promises which you cannot fulfill; this makes them develop a habit of making false promises. If you fail to fulfill any promise, explain.

12. Very important to teach our child is how to develop skills of being a member of a group. Team work is very important; this teaches them to give chances to people in life rather always competing.

13. Make dua for your children. Even if they have gone astray, pray for them.

14. Tell them you might fail once, but never lose hope. Teach them how they should react to a failure.

15. Apologize to your child if you have made a mistake, this teaches your child to repent to Allah. Don't rise ifs and buts when you are wrong; there are no ifs and buts when it comes to repentance.

16. Have a few surprises for your children, to praise there deed of good, give them recognition at home, that this surprise is for your so and so good you did.

17.We need to make sure that we train our children to read a portion of Quran daily, according to there capacity.

18. Tell your child repeatedly that you love them, tell them how gorgeous they are and how important they are to you, hug them, its a sunnah to kiss your children.

[Kiro]

yeah, talk to talk to them and spend time with them even if it is simple as "how was your day" with a smile or "do you want to eat junk food with me"

and teach them to love Allah from an early age so it will make it easier for them to be practicing :)

[strivingobserver98]

"how was your day"

Yes true, any kind of communication is good.

Here are some better questions rather than "How was your day" that a kid back from hard day at school would answer to :).

Questions a kid will answer at the end of a long school day:

1. What did you eat for lunch?
2. Did you catch anyone picking their nose?
3. What games did you play at recess?
4. What was the funniest thing that happened today?
5. Did anyone do anything super nice for you?
6. What was the nicest thing you did for someone else?
7. Who made you smile today?
8. Which one of your teachers would survive a zombie apocalypse? Why?
9. What new fact did you learn today?
10. Who brought the best food in their lunch today? What was it?
11. What challenged you today?
12. If school were a ride at the fair, which ride would it be? Why?
13. What would you rate your day on a scale of 1 to 10? Why?
14. If one of your classmates could be the teacher for the day who would you want it to be? Why?
15. If you had the chance to be the teacher tomorrow, what would you teach the1 class?
16. Did anyone push your buttons today?
17. Who do you want to make friends with but haven’t yet? Why not?
18. What is your teacher’s most important rule?
19. What is the most popular thing to do at recess?
20. Does your teacher remind you of anyone else you know? How?
21. Tell me something you learned about a friend today.
22. If aliens came to school and beamed up 3 kids, who do you wish they would take? Why?
23. What is one thing you did today that was helpful?
24. When did you feel most proud of yourself today?
25. What rule was the hardest to follow today?
26. What is one thing you hope to learn before the school year is over?
27. Which person in your class is your exact opposite?
28. Which area of your school is the most fun?
29. Which playground skill do you plan to master this year?
30. Does anyone in your class have a hard time following the rules?

https://www.parent.co/30-questions-t...-was-your-day/

[Kiro]

Yes true, any kind of communication is good.

Here are some better questions rather than "How was your day" that a kid back from hard day at school would answer to :).


https://www.parent.co/30-questions-t...-was-your-day/

I liked the zombie apocalypse one, that would be a good discussion/topic. IT would be cool or really cool if your children played video games with like you could be playing a first person shooter like Battlefield or play a fighting game with them.

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[jameelash]

Raising tomorrows leaders (18 Tips)

By Mufti Ismail Menk, raising tomorrow's leaders:

1. Praise your child, even if they get 4/10 in exam, praise your child in front of others.

2. Never make your child feel that he is useless. Never favour one child on the other.

3. Every time we speak with our children speak with respect, say "thank you", etc. Don't use slang i.e gimmi instead say 'please give me'; use clear words, be polite and never swear. (Prophet said, do not use slang as it will decrease your respect).

4. You need to bare in mind when your child is young that this is just a child, don't take away there playing time by treating them like an adult. If we do this, they will rebel in life.

5. We need to assist our children to make decisions. He or she must be taught to make decisions. Acknowledge them, guide them by talking to them, if they want to go for something, organize the plan for them.

6. Whenever you have decisions to be made ask your child of his or her opinion. For example, if you are going to buy a car, ask there opinion, where they like to eat, or what colour they like for a car, this develops habit of consultancy in them.

7. Depending on the house we are living in, we would perhaps have a corner; write the name of the child there, as it be there territory. Put there certificates on wall; this makes them confident of themselves.

8. Teach your child to follow you to read salah. Lead them rather than instructing, it's a more powerful way. What your child sees you doing they will remember forever. Start instructing them to read salah at the age of 7, this will help them and make it easy for them to follow when they reach puberty when it becomes compulsory on them.

9. We need to teach our children how to put forward their opinion, how you would disagree to a point. Don't use swear words when you disagree on anything as this will inculcate in your child as he is watching you being aggressive. Children have much more grasping power than us and they pick up things very fast.

10. Encourage your child to ask question, and try to answer each question they ask else they will get it from a wrong source. Praise there questions at times.

11. Always fulfill your promises on to you children. Do not make big promises which you cannot fulfill; this makes them develop a habit of making false promises. If you fail to fulfill any promise, explain.

12. Very important to teach our child is how to develop skills of being a member of a group. Team work is very important; this teaches them to give chances to people in life rather always competing.

13. Make dua for your children. Even if they have gone astray, pray for them.

14. Tell them you might fail once, but never lose hope. Teach them how they should react to a failure.

15. Apologize to your child if you have made a mistake, this teaches your child to repent to Allah. Don't rise ifs and buts when you are wrong; there are no ifs and buts when it comes to repentance.

16. Have a few surprises for your children, to praise there deed of good, give them recognition at home, that this surprise is for your so and so good you did.

17.We need to make sure that we train our children to read a portion of Quran daily, according to there capacity.

18. Tell your child repeatedly that you love them, tell them how gorgeous they are and how important they are to you, hug them, its a sunnah to kiss your children.