Asalamualykum,
I believe it is a balance of fear and hope. My general attitude to life is positive but realistic too. I am very hopeful and i plan for the things that i want/need but ultimately i know everything lies in the hands of Allah swt.
I found a relevant article addressing your question. Please have a read but also ensure the site follows your school of thought:
Praise be to Allaah.
Belief in al-qadar (the divine will and decree) is one of the pillars of faith, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, when he answered Jibreel’s question about faith: “(It means) believing in Allaah, His angels, His Books, His Messengers and the Last Day, and to believe in al-qadar (the divine decree) both good and bad.”
What is meant by al-qadar is that Allaah has decreed all things from eternity and knows that they will happen at times that are known to Him, and in specific ways, and that He has written that and willed it, and they happen according to what He has decreed. [al-Qada’ wa’l-Qadar by Dr ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Mahmoud, p. 39].
Belief in al-qadar is based on four things:
1 –
Knowledge, i.e., that Allaah knows what His creation will do, by virtue of His eternal knowledge.
2 –
Writing, i.e., that Allaah has written the destiny of all creatures in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz.
3 –
Will, i.e., that what Allaah wills happens and what He does not will does not happen. There is no movement in the heavens or on earth but it happens by His will.
4 –
Creation and formation, i.e., that Allaah is the Creator of all things, including the actions of His slaves. They do their actions in a real sense, and He is the Creator of them and of their actions.
Whoever believes in these four believes in al-qadar.
If you wish to read more please visit
https://islamqa.info/en/20806