Husbands: Guard against these Ten Ugly Habits

[Khalid Saifullah]

Ten evil habits all good husbands should never do to destroy their marriage:

1. Being Over-Critical
Please don’t ever get caught in the trap of criticizing your wife all the time. She is not your student and you are not her supervisor. Choose to see the good in her instead. Compliment her on all the things she is doing right. So the next time you have the urge to tell her something you don’t like about her, switch it around and pay her a sincere compliment. She will love it and in time, that habit will die down on its own.

2. Controlling
Believe it or not, you aren’t always right. Your beautiful wife is actually very good at making her own decisions, and you need to trust her maturity and judgment. So stop feeling like you need to control where she’s going, what she’s doing, how much she’s spending and more. Instead of stressing about that, work together as a team, encouraging and supporting each other. Let your wife be her own person, give her wings to fly and allow her to develop as a person.

3. Treating her like an object
Please husbands! your wife isn’t an object or glamour queen to be displayed to all and sundry. She is your wife, your best friend and your queen. She deserves your utmost respect, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. Always respect her and her body, and work on establishing emotional connection and trust before thinking about sharing sexual intimacy with her. Sex can be the most unifying, fulfilling and beautiful thing in marriage when you both treat each other respectfully.

4. Do not give her enough time
You have a wife, you lucky guy. Please don’t forget about her, even whilst working. Don’t be too busy to call her, text her or recognize her when she walks in the room. The next time you see her, give her a big hug and tell her you love her. Let her know she is your top priority by putting her first — ahead of work, time with your buddies, or watching that game. Sit on the couch and talk to her. Tell her about your day, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny experiences. Invest in her.

5. Don’t uses crude or dirty language
Husbands, come on, you aren’t teenage boys anymore. Watch your mouth. Work to cut the swearing habit, and remove crude, rude and dirty language from your vocabulary. You may be amazed at all the other words available for use in expressing your feelings. Your wife deserves to hear words that a gentleman would speak.

6. Pornography
This is one sure way to ruin your marriage, your life and your future. Simply put, don’t view pornography and let your eyes linger everywhere you go. Look inward and decide to choose a better path. If you are entrenched in the ugly habit of pornography, seek out professional help. Find a counselor who can help you begin the process of becoming free from this addiction. You have to want change for yourself and for those you love. So dig deep and decide what kind of life you really want.

7. Having too high expectations
The last thing your sweet wife needs to hear is that she doesn’t measure up to your unrealistic expectations. Please don’t compare your wife’s body, budgeting skills, or parenting skills to so-and-so down the street. Your comparisons will, over time, crush her self-esteem. Decide to be kind, to be patient, to be forgiving and to be flexible. The more you emphasize all of her positive qualities, the more she will naturally start living up to those positive compliments and become the woman you describe, and more.

8. Doesn’t help out around the house
You may bring in the dough (income), but that doesn’t mean you can chill on the couch while your wife cleans, tidies and washes dishes day-in and day-out. Kick it up a notch and offer to help out. Clean the wardrobes, mop the floor, carry in the groceries or unload the dishwasher. Hire a domestic to make life easier if you can afford it. Your wife and yourself are a team and ought to work side by side creating the home of your dreams.

9. Losing your temper often
You are a grown man. Yelling at your wife is not appropriate, effective or helpful. Hitting is completely off limits. Rage, lashing out, throwing things around and threatening are all forms of abuse. You can learn to control your temper. You can learn to respond calmly and with love. As you do, your wife will feel safe with you, desire to grow old with you and love being around you.

10. Lying and cheating
If you think you can sneak off with that babe from work and your wife will never know, then you’re kidding yourself and in for a very rude awakening. Honestly, even if your wife never found out, it’s still wrong. Don’t throw away everything that is truly meaningful for a fleeting moment of pleasure. Choose to be honest. Choose to be loyal. Live up to those promises you made to your bride. She deserves all that, and more.
Now, if you find yourself guilty any of these ugly habits, don’t beat yourself up. Rather decide to be better and make changes. Chart a course todaythat will lead you, and your wife, to that happily-ever-after marriage you have always wanted.

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[strivingobserver98]

:jz: for sharing.

4. Do not give her enough time

This is common. Instead of sleeping all day after work, spend quality time with your family :).

[lonewolf007]

This is a good reminder jazakallah khair for sharing, I see this quite a bit in my culture I just wish Muslims would learn their rights before they get married.

[noraina]

Great reminder, jazakAllah khayr.

Imagine if both the husband and wife would fulfil their rights and obligations towards one another how perfect would the marriage be.

That point about temper is right on, sometimes a man will use his wife to vent out his frustrations about work, family, whatever, only because he believes she has no choice but to listen and is in not position to do anything.