format_quote Originally Posted by
ardianto
Jazakillah khayr, for your response.
In this case there's no difference between remind someone openly or through PM. I am afraid he/she would be offended if I remind after he/she tried to be kind to me. To be honest, one of my biggest fear is being hated by someone or some people. This is what often make me hesitate to remind someone. But I realize, this is not good because it can make me let someone doing something wrong.
Brother ardianto, I think it is really valuable when someone who is older, or who has more experience, gives their advice to someone who may be doing something wrong or erring unintentionally. Even if they gave you a like, it means they appreciated your words, and no doubt they would appreciate your gentle advice as well. You are very polite and kind, ma'sha'Allah, so I know you would never give advice harshly or as a way to make someone feel bad, and it may be that person genuinely does not know what they are doing wrong.
Also, the person receiving advice must also have certain etiquettes, just as the person who provides it. So long as it is given privately, and in the most gentle, understanding way possible, they should receive it graciously and with humility. In the unlikely case they started to 'hate you', then the fault would be with them, not you.
I at this moment in life have much to learn, and if someone advised me, in private, and with valid reasons in a gentle manner, I would certainly take it into consideration and if I saw it as right, then act upon it inshaAllah. :)