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EgyptPrincess
Well my father isn't that type of person to threaten someone and my brother is only 12.
I don't think she would do anything it's probably just threats to try to get him to leave me alone.
Thank you muslimah_B for the support. Inshallah I'll stay steadfast :) it's really nice to have this forum to ask for advice because often it's hard to discuss certain things with my friends in real life and my friends are not very pious so they're not that strict and the advice they gave me sometimes is not the best advice in the eyes of Islam.
Ignoring him like he don't exist is so brutal... I can't possibly put someone through that kind of treatment but I'll do my best inshallah god knows my intentions here.
Your welcome sis, any time xxx
I dont mean for your dad to threaten him lol but have a "man 2 man" talk it usually helps.
Its not about being strict sis, its about pushing ourselves to worship Allah the way He deserves to be worshipped, to follow the commandments of Allah the way they deserve to be followed.
We can always be doing something better eg
You dont wear hijab, push yourself to wear it, then push yourself to wear it so perfectly fully covering, then push yourself to niqab, then push yourself to wear gloves, then push yourself to burka etc etc
If you dont pray all 5 push yourself to pray all 5, when you do pray on time, push yourself to do witr, then push yourself to do all the sunnahs, then push yourself to wake up for tahajjud, then naffl just for the sake of Allah.
In all honesty and im not trying to be brutal or horrible, but sometimes we all need to check our companions who we turn to for advice, if they dont remind you of Allah or the advice is at best islamic, most of the time its better to find others, when you want to be better you will be dragged down further and left in a rut (im saying this from experience
Sis sometimes its just best to act like he doesnt exist, its better for him and most importantly you, he has to learn the hard way if he will not accept it the easy way.
The moment you give him time, in his head it means "yes she still loves me there is still a chance, im going to keep trying untill she gives in)
Trust me sis its the best thing to ignore their existance, he will get tired eventually lol
If you knew the struggles iv had to go through with these types of things, youd immediately do what i say and be like "i dont want a bar of that" lol
Just for a giggle il tell you one story before i came to islam i was with this "muslim" guy and he was a utter jerk things happend and i left him he botherd the life out of me and i changed everything to get away (during this time he had spread so much rumours about me to other people it became funny the things being said, he wanted to pretend he was a "big man" and wasnt hurt.
3 years later i saw somebody who i thought was from college but it ended up being his friend and he was behind me, i immediately lost control and cussed him down to the ground and walked away, they both followed me asking to speak to me.. for what i didnt care... he followed me down the whole long high street... we argued again as he wouldnt leave me alone and i wanted him out my face and to not hear his silly voice.. i got so angry i was going to smash his head with a brick..his friend got in the middle and had to seperate us, he finally got the message to move from me and walked away, his friend who i had no problems with looked at me with despair and was like hes sorry and to take care (Honeslty he looked like he wanted to cry from stopping a crazy girl killing his friend whooops)
Ahhh the times when i could act reckless LOL not anymore now i have to think and then react not just react
(I just told you this so you could laugh, in sha Allah this doenst happen to you lol)