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Or maybe he needs a good punch in the face and his teeth knocked in by the woman's father or brother.
On the authority of Abu Dharr Al-Ghafari, of the Prophet (peace be upon him) is that among the sayings he relates from his Lord is that He said:
"O My servants! I have forbidden oppression for Myself and I have made it forbidden amongst you, so do not oppress one another. O My servants, all of you are astray except those whom I have guided, so seek guidance from Me and I shall guide you. O My servants, all of you are hungry except those whom I have fed, so seek food from Me and I shall feed you. O My servants, all of you are naked except those whom I have clothed, so seek clothing from Me and I shall clothe you. O My servants, you sommit sins by day and by night, and I forgive all sins, so seek forgiveness from Me and I shall forgive you. O My servants, you will not attain harming Me so as to harm Me, and you will not attain benefitting Me so as to benefit Me. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all as pious as the most pious heart of any individual amongst you, then this would not increase My Kingdom an iota. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all as wicked as the most wicked heart of any individual amongst you, then this would not decrease My Kingdom an iota. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all to stand together in one place and ask of Me, and I were to give everyone what he requested, then that would not decrease what I Possess, except what is decreased of the ocean when a needle is dipped into it. O My servants, it is but your deeds that I account for you, and then recompense you for. So he who finds good, let him praise Allah, and he who finds other than that, let him blame no one but himself."
My dear sister, part of guidance is protecting ourselves from abuse and maintaining our stability and sanity, and trusting in Allah that He will help us and provide for us when we carry out a step for His sake. These matters are an amanah/trust from Allah including our children (born or unborn) and we are responsible for upholding our trust. Allah does not require or expect a woman to be patient with such domestic voilence and even more so when it starts to negatively impact her deen. It is ignorance to think that one has to be patient upon matters such as these when Islam has allowed them a way out via divorce.
Allah has enough in his kingdom to provide for everyone, and grant a woman a better husband should she need to get divorce. A woman should not be made to live in domestic voilence, especially when she is pleading for a way out, her situation should be looked into and she should be supported and helped.
May Allah guide us and ease our affairs. Aameen.
I agree 100% too many times due to "cultural" [emoji19] these issues are sweeped under the rug like it doesnt exist , it is not ok at all, it is not part of islam or the sunnah for a man to lay his hands on a woman at all in such a manner.
i dont understand if your parents know how your dad, brothers, uncles would stand idly by while he pummels your sister in such a disgusting way. What is wrong with the men these days subhanAllah, they would dare strike the women who gave them birth and the women who beared their children la illaha illah !!!!
She is a grown woman, to have gotten married and had kids, she is grown enough to make decisions by herself if she chooses divorce due to extreme circumstances and these are those circumstances which divorce is valid, then she can divorce him without her parents permission. I will say again SHE DOES NOT NEED HER PARENTS PERMISSION TO DIVORCE if that is what she chooses
Yes divorce should be the last resort but we are not talking about small things, like petty arguments, or the husband being a bit controlling, we are talking about domestic violence which when advice is given they are told to "bare with patience" "its nothing" and all these people have not experienced one day under those circumstances, a woman is not a punching bag or a means to release ones anger.
There should be more support available for women in these circumstances and the lack of support and softness towards men of this nature is astounding astagfirllah.
Dear sis be strong, i know it's hard, but if no-one else will, be strong for your sister and be there for her, she will need you
May Allah make it easy for her and find for her a way out of the ordeal she is going through... ameeen