Life is confusing, help me...

[Afif Rusli]

Assalamuailikum waramatullahi wabarakatuh,

I live in Singapore, where everything is very competitive, i have no job and i cant handle jobs, always clueless, weak and no idea of my duties during work, i do not know how to handle a simple task, i am a slow to catch things even in socialising, everyone is miserly and they have this mindset, to each his own, basically everyone is not a friend when comes to work, as they say in my country, "save your ricebowl", so whenever i try to get a work i only survive for 3 months due to people hating me, i feel useless, cant help myself, right now im depressed , if i start studying again , i will feel like not a muslim anymore due to studying WORLDLY matters than the knowledge of islam, meaning i have prioritize this world over my religion, i have parents who still feed me and im still 21 years old, am thankful to Allah SWT who provided me shelter and food , people has it worse than me, but i cant grow myself out of this, and feel guilty for not studying and trying to secure a job, and im afraid if my parents got old i have failed to provide for them for they have provided for me till now if i do not have any JOB or CERTIFICATION.

i have trust in Allah SWT , but i cant repay back my parents even if i try to, i feel like im restrained in seeking bounty of allah ,before i embrace islam, i always had some social problems when i was young, always saying inappropriate things in a unappropriated manner, and keep embarrassing myself, so i isolated myself due to the bad incidents , i have isolated for YEARS most of time at home like for nearly 7 years playing online games and telling myself its ok to keep doing this, i can type my thoughts online but in real life, my thoughts just disappear, i realize that i have brought forth my own destruction, i have lost my social abilities, i cant recover due to my weak mindset. Right now i'm afraid of abandoning my salat and praying on time and choosing work and studies, my parents say you can just make it up after you finish work, they have this believe that Work is Worship(IBadah). But i think you need to pray on time regardless if you are working or not, basically this country doesnt allow people pray during work, if they do allow, they are not sincere about it, im afraid i have failed in returning back to my parents cause they are sacrificing their self over religion to keep this family fed. and also my ties of kinship with my cousin is not that good as well, i avoid them as much as i feel humiliated , as they are quite wealthy people, i avoid doing mischief and isolate myself from making my cousins feel negativity.

I always want to believe Allah SWT is planning good for people who sacrifice themselves for islam. But sometimes i feel like i took islam seriously but i feel like i have ignored a duty towards my parents and also cousins. but i keep thinking i have no way out of this, Its a choice of worldly life over my religion.. i have no sense of responsibility , maybe its a test of allah swt. All i can think of is asking Allah SWT forgiveness . EVERYTIME i pray due to matters that i neglect. Sometimes i get super restless inside my chest, tighten feeling. I feel suffocated. anxiety like i have not done something right. i keep turning to Allah SWT for forgiveness but it feels like im harbouring more pain. i can be patient, but some days are good and some days are bad. im afraid of my fate.

[Reminder]

Sell a product from Aliexpress online.

There are tons of tutorial videos on YouTube.

Choose an expensive item, $500+ to make $100/ea.

[Little_Lion]

I do not know how such things are handled in Singapore, but have you considered seeing a psychiatrist for help with your anxiety and depression, especially your social anxiety? Here in the US there is very little social stigma any more over seeing a doctor for such things, and being on medication helped me to remain employed for several years . . . unfortunately I have gotten so bad that I was recently given disability status by the US government. But for you, it might allow you to remain working and being more comfortable at work.

I compensated in my faith by studying Islam as much as I could when I was not at work. I do not have family nearby where I live so I was able to dedicate almost all of my time to it. I was not allowed to pray at work either - in the US it is supposed to be protected but my boss hates Muslims and I would be fired - so I combined prayers when I got home. I worked part time because I could not handle full-time, but it was enough to pay my bills.

Insha'Allah you will find a way to stay mentally healthy while retaining both your faith and your ability to work.

[Afif Rusli]

Sell a product from Aliexpress online.

There are tons of tutorial videos on YouTube.

Choose an expensive item, $500+ to make $100/ea.

It is definitely riba to sell an same item you bought for a higher price, just saying.

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[Afif Rusli]

I do not know how such things are handled in Singapore, but have you considered seeing a psychiatrist for help with your anxiety and depression, especially your social anxiety? Here in the US there is very little social stigma any more over seeing a doctor for such things, and being on medication helped me to remain employed for several years . . . unfortunately I have gotten so bad that I was recently given disability status by the US government. But for you, it might allow you to remain working and being more comfortable at work.

I compensated in my faith by studying Islam as much as I could when I was not at work. I do not have family nearby where I live so I was able to dedicate almost all of my time to it. I was not allowed to pray at work either - in the US it is supposed to be protected but my boss hates Muslims and I would be fired - so I combined prayers when I got home. I worked part time because I could not handle full-time, but it was enough to pay my bills.

Insha'Allah you will find a way to stay mentally healthy while retaining both your faith and your ability to work.

No i have not seen one , am totally broke to even see one, glad there was someone experiencing similarly , just have to rely in allah swt , we are still alive till now it shows that allah swt is our provider and protector. Just had a worry in my future affairs regarding my parents and my ties maybe we should keep firm and patient and keep on relying on allah swt.
I ask allah swt to not give us more than what we can handle in our affairs.
Inshallah , may allah swt rectify our affairs and forgive the excess in our affairs. Forgive our inconsideration in our concerns. May allah keep us safe and steadfast. Ameen.

[islamirama]

wa'alaikum as'salam wr wb

In addition to what lion said, start spending more time outside. Go to a park often, go to some cafe to socialize, look up some group for people to get together to help in their social skills. What you did by isolating yourself can be undone by un-isolating yourself. you won't become super duper over night, you have to start interacting with people and the more you do the better you will become at it. It's a learning process.

[Ibn Yaqzan]

It is definitely riba to sell an same item you bought for a higher price, just saying.

haha, really?
I guess you didnt even study the fundamentals of islam.
That is business, not riba.
Next time, just say nothing.

[Afif Rusli]

haha, really?
I guess you didnt even study the fundamentals of islam.
That is business, not riba.
Next time, just say nothing.

Astaghfirullah, may allah forgive my ignorance, inshallah, im new to to islam, only 8 months, next time you should be careful too and say nothing and advice a brother/sister before becoming arrogant about your faith, brother becareful dont be boastful about the knowledge you have. At least advice a fellow brother rather than shunning him.Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful. Quran 4:36

ive looked online and it seem it says it is ok. i know nothing of business, i only remembered a hadith and i thought it applies to it

Abu Hurairah said:
"The Messenger of Allah said: 'Dates for dates, wheat for wheat, barley for barley, salt for salt, exchanged hand to hand. Whoever gives more or takes more has engaged in Riba unless they are of different types."

Sunan An-Nasa' 4559

[eesa the kiwi]

everyone has deeds they find easy and deeds they find hard
someone might be a pro at prayer but they find fasting hard, or they can do lots of dhikr but cant sit through an islamic talk

apply this prinicipal to your dunya, you just need to find something you are good at and is easy for you
it may take a bit of thought but inshaallah something is there for you

welcome to islam btw barak Allah fiq

[Afif Rusli]

everyone has deeds they find easy and deeds they find hard
someone might be a pro at prayer but they find fasting hard, or they can do lots of dhikr but cant sit through an islamic talk

apply this prinicipal to your dunya, you just need to find something you are good at and is easy for you
it may take a bit of thought but inshaallah something is there for you

welcome to islam btw barak Allah fiq

Alhamdullillah, thank you brother , dua for me, inshallah, jazakallah khair.

[Reminder]

Astaghfirullah, may allah forgive my ignorance, inshallah, im new to to islam, only 8 months, next time you should be careful too and say nothing and advice a brother/sister before becoming arrogant about your faith, brother becareful dont be boastful about the knowledge you have. At least advice a fellow brother rather than shunning him.Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful. Quran 4:36

ive looked online and it seem it says it is ok. i know nothing of business, i only remembered a hadith and i thought it applies to it

Abu Hurairah said:
"The Messenger of Allah said: 'Dates for dates, wheat for wheat, barley for barley, salt for salt, exchanged hand to hand. Whoever gives more or takes more has engaged in Riba unless they are of different types."

Sunan An-Nasa' 4559

"i know nothing of business"


​You ignored my advice how to solve YOUR problem.
If you do not care, that is one thing, but don't tell us we are wrong for correcting you when you know nothing about what you talk.
Peace.

[Afif Rusli]

i know nothing of business


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as in i do no how to start a business and i know nothing of it...

[Afif Rusli]

"i know nothing of business"


​You ignored my advice how to solve YOUR problem.
If you do not care, that is one thing, but don't tell us we are wrong for correcting you when you know nothing about what you talk.
Peace.

Brother thank you for giving your advice, i am grateful, but we too as muslims have to careful of riba when dealing with business.

[Afif Rusli]

"i know nothing of business"


​You ignored my advice how to solve YOUR problem.
If you do not care, that is one thing, but don't tell us we are wrong for correcting you when you know nothing about what you talk.
Peace.

no one said anyone was wrong, just advicing one another, if you feel hurt then you have an ego problem.

[Afif Rusli]

"i know nothing of business"


​You ignored my advice how to solve YOUR problem.
If you do not care, that is one thing, but don't tell us we are wrong for correcting you when you know nothing about what you talk.
Peace.

the reason why its called ADVICE and SUPPORT and i did not call anyone wrong, allah knows best who is wrong in the matter.

[Reminder]

no one said anyone was wrong, just advicing one another, if you feel hurt then you have an ego problem.

No wonder you are confused. You do not even consider our advice. "You can lead a horse to water, but cannot make it drink."

[Afif Rusli]

No wonder you are confused. You do not even consider our advice. "You can lead a horse to water, but cannot make it drink."

You are the confused one , i have already said that i am broke , how am i suppose get that $500.. Please think before posting brother..