Will parents be punished for oppressing their children?

[anonymous]

Salam

If a father curses his children, makes dua against them and abuses them, would that come under oppression? Would that father be punished for oppressing his children or do parents have the right to oppress their children? Should children have sabr and put up with oppression from their parents or should they stand up against it and let their parents know they won't tolerate oppression? Is it permissible for a child to make dua to Allah (swt) against their parents if they're oppressive?

[Alpha Dude]

You haven't mentioned specifics of how the parents have been abusive or oppressive.

Unless you're being beaten silly or sexually abused or having some other extreme form of mental or physical pain meted out on you - and provided that your parents are taking care of your physical needs, i.e. feeding you, giving you a roof over your head, keeping you warm, clothing you etc., then doing this: "let their parents know they won't tolerate oppression" is a bad idea. It's unappreciative and rude and smacks of entitlement attitude. I repeat, I don't know your specifics because you haven't stated, but respect for parents is very important in Islam and you shouldn't let relatively minor things turn you against them to such a degree.

Until you become capable of standing on your own feet, you are under their care. They have responsibility over you and a position of authority which you should respect.

Is it permissible for a child to make dua to Allah (swt) against their parents if they're oppressive?

If you are going to make dua, why make it a bad one? Why not make dua that Allah opens their heart and gives them understanding? When you make dua for your brother in his absence, angels make the same dua for you. It's mutually beneficial to make a good dua for someone.

[Alpha Dude]

If your parents are being oppressive, then of course, judgement is with Allah.

[noraina]

Wa alaykum assalam,

Well, to curse your own child without reason, or wish bad for them, isn't a particularly parental or affectionate way to go about things. I'm not sure if it would be classed as oppression on its own, unless it was coupled with other behaviours.

And no, Allah swt does not permit oppression against *any* living creature, whether it be humans or animals, strangers or your own blood. It's forbidden to oppress your wife and children or anyone dependant upon you. And you will be called to account for your behavious, Islam's quite clear in its stance on oppression.

That said, try to have sabr with your parents if they are like that, the reward will be great inshaAllah. And, all things aside, they brought you into this world and cared for you when you were a helpless infant. But you do have a right to try to explain to them and make them see the errors of their ways, or for the sake of peace move out or something, but always keep in mind they deserve your respect, at least don't ever disrespect them.

And, rather than make dua against them, make dua for their guidance.

And Allah swt knows best.

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[aaj]

Wa'alaikum as'salaam,

Parents have rights over their children and the children must obey the parents and give them their rights.

That is about how far most Muslims go with Islam. What they forget is this:

Children have rights over their parents as well, and parent must give the children their islamic right. This right starts even before they get married. One of the first rights is for your parent to choose an islamic and Allah fearing partner. And it goes from there.

Anyone who does wrong to another creation will be held accountable for it on Judgement Day