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We often come across people asking for advice and help on personal issues, and this is even more common in online media such as facebook and forums. While it is good to give advice and offer our input on the matter, I think a few things should be kept in mind inshallah.
Firstly, the person giving the advice should realize that if they are not in the same category as the OP then their advice may not be as fruitful. By category, I mean like if the OP is married the advice coming from those married (category) would be more insightful then those not married. That isn't always the case, but often is.
Secondly, good advice comes from those who have experience or applicable knowledge. So unless a person has the experience (such as a married person) or has the applicable knowledge (such as islamic knowledge on the topic) the person should avoid giving the advice. An advice given based on what " I think" and is based on personal opinions is not a good advice and may do more harm then good.
Thirdly, if enough information is given then advice should be given based on that but also keeping in mind that information may be one sided and the OP may not have considered looking at it from different angles. So for example if someone says they had a fight with their partner and want to leave, we should not be cheering them on to leave that person but rather try to find the root cause of the problem. Also, one should not be making speculations or assumptions based on the information given, if it is not clear then ask for more information, while at the same time, enough information should be asked to answer the question and not asking for all the unnecessary nitty gritty details.
Lastly, one should be very cautious in giving advice on matters related to the deen. This is because what you are doing essentially is issuing a fatwa. If someone asks something in relations to the deen, one should speak from knowledge or do proper research on the topic and then relay that information with he source to that information. One should avoid saying what they think or believe a person should do or be quick to reply and just to have their say. This is not a competition to see who replies first or who replies the most to these types of threads. The article below elaborates more on this.
Danger of Issuing Fatwas
Ibn al-Qayyim said:
The salaf, the Sahaabah and Taabi’een, used to regard it as makrooh to rush to issue fatwas. Each of them would wish that someone else would take care of it, but if he realized that he had no alternative but to answer, he would do his utmost to find the ruling from the Qur’aan and Sunnah or the words of the Rightly-Guided khaleefahs, then he would give his fatwa.
‘Abd-Allaah ibn al-Mubaarak said: Sufyaan told us from ‘Ataa’ ibn al-Saa’ib from ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn Abi Layla who said: I met one hundred and twenty of the Companions of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) – and I think he said, in the mosque – and there was none of them who had to speak but he wished that his brother would take care of it; there was no one who had to give a fatwa but he wished that his brother would take care of it. Imaam Ahmad said: Jareer told us from ‘Ataa’ ibn al-Saa’ib from ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn Abi Layla that he said: I met one hundred and twenty of the Ansaar from among the Companions of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and there was no man among them who was asked about something but he would wish that his brother would take care of it, and there was none who had to speak but he would wish that his brother would take care of it.
Maalik said, narrating from Yahya ibn Sa’eed that Bukayr ibn al-Ashajj told him, narrating from Mu’aawiyah ibn Abi ‘Ayaash that he was sitting with ‘Abd-Allaah ibn al-Zubayr and ‘Aasim ibn ‘Umar, when Muhammad ibn Iyaas ibn al-Bukayr came and said, A man from among the desert people has divorced his wife three times, what do you think? ‘Abd-Allaah ibn al-Zubayr said, This matter is something about which we know nothing; go to ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas and Abu Hurayrah, for I have just left them with ‘Aa’ishah the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), then come and tell us (what they say). So I went and asked them, and Ibn ‘Abbaas said to Abu Hurayrah: Give him the answer, O Abu Hurayrah, for here there is a problem. Abu Hurayrah said: one talaaq makes her divorced, and three makes her forbidden to him until she has married another husband.
Maalik narrated that Yahyaa ibn Sa’eed said: Ibn ‘Abbaas said: Everyone who issues fatwas to the people concerning everything that they ask him about is crazy. Maalik said: I heard something similar from Ibn Mas’ood. This was narrated by Ibn Waddaah from Yoosuf ibn ‘Adiy from ‘Abd ibn Humayd from al-A’mash from Shaqeeq from ‘Abd-Allaah; and it was narrated by Habeeb ibn Abi Thaabit from Abu Waa’il from ‘Abd-Allaah.
Sahnoon ibn Sa’eed said: the most audacious of the people in giving fatwas is the one who has the least knowledge; a man may have a grasp of one branch of knowledge and he thinks that all the truth is to be found in this branch.
I say: being audacious in giving fatwas may be because of a lack of knowledge or because of an abundance thereof. If he is lacking in knowledge he gives a fatwa on everything concerning which he is asked without knowledge. If his knowledge is abundant he will be able to answer a lot of questions. Hence Ibn ‘Abbaas was one of the Sahaabah who issued the most fatwas. We have mentioned above that his fatwas were compiled in twenty volumes. Sa’eed ibn al-Musayyib also issued a lot of fatwas, and they used to call him
al-Jaree’ (the Bold), as was mentioned by Ibn Wahb from Muhammad ibn Sulaymaan al-Muraadi from Abu Ishaaq, who said: I used to see a man at that time entering and asking about some matter, and the people would divert him, sending him from one gathering to another, until he was sent to the gathering of Sa’eed ibn al-Musayyib, because they did not like to issue a fatwa. He said, And they used to call Sa’eed ibn al-Musayyib, al-Jaree’ (the Bold).
Sahnoon said: I memorized some issues concerning which there would be eight opinions from eight of the leading scholars, so how could I hasten to answer before I am certain which one is correct? Why should anyone blame me for not giving an answer? Ibn Wahb said: Ashhal ibn Haatim told us from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Awn from Ibn Seereen who said: Hudhayfah said: The one who gives fatwas to the people is one of three: either he knows what has been abrogated of the Qur’aan, or he is a leader who has no choice (but to issue a fatwa) or he is a fool who is doing something that is not his job. He said, perhaps Ibn Seereen said: I am neither of the first two, and I do not want to be the third.
https://islamqa.info/en/21018