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Mustafa16
Im only 17, im still in high school, I dont have a job, and in our community they expect men to be college educated and/or be making enough money before marriage...that means i have to wait until im 21 (that is, if i can finish college in 3 years by taking summer classes), or I would have to ditch college in favor of a two year degree, or a job straight out of high school, but knowing her family, they would probably want her to be college educated first....so even if I dont get a college education, her getting one will get in the way, and the way it works in the United States is that if you are going to college in another state (say you live in Florida and decide to go to college in Georgia), then you would have to pay MUCH more tuition, and that is a burden, unless you are an exceptional student or borrow riba loans.... i asked my mother over the phone while she was at work after you gave this advice if i could ask her father for hr hand in marriage, and she said, "we'll talk about it when I get home," but knowing my mother, she is probably just saying that so I don't bother her while she's at work, and when gets home she'll say no, and yell at me for obsessing over marriage.
So you want to marry her, but because of the expectations in your community you have to finish college, which means 4 years from here.
Can you ask your dad to ask her dad about marriage? Perhaps you could ask for her dad, and make a plan for you to marry her (if she wants) AFTER you finish education.
Like, marry now, and live seperately till you finish education, or (if halal Idk if this is) ask her dad through your dad, to delay marriage, and to keep him in mind, and to not approach another man, untill you finish education, so you can marry her.
Idk how old the girl you seek is. But do not become depressed if she rejects you. If I were you, I'd ask her dad for his daughter in marriage, and perhaps delay it, till you finish college.
Put your trust in Allah. Make dua to Allah, and do istikhara. may Allah help you, and do what is best for you. Ameen.
Do not seek help from anyone or anything in a supernatural way except for Allah!
And Allah :swt: knows best.