Feeling sorry for yourself

[Nk01]

How does Islam tackle this subject of 'feeling sorry for yourself?'

Especially, in circumstances where you do an act which gives an impression of yourself and you then regret it?

This is between an husband and a wife. When they get into a argument and the wife says stuff, later regrets it and apologises for it. She then does her tantrums and dramas again and thinks an apology will suffice. This continuous acts of hers has put the husband off and his family.

The husband then refuses to accept the wife and tells her to go back to her parents but she refuses not to. The husband wants no relationship with her and has clearly stated that to her in person, her parents and his own parents. The girls parents refuse to have her back and told her to work on her so called 'relationship''.

The wife just sits there feeling sorry for herself, and is stubborn not to fix up nor go back to her parents.

Who is sinning in this situation?

[M.I.A.]

wife.

...because she has already lost.

parents.. dont believe in her.

husband.. doesnt believe in her.

if she turns it round shes a winner, although i fail to see how..

if what is done and said angers her.

what does she want done and said?

and if what is done and said is better than what she wants done and said..


then she should bear it.

...for a somebodies better tomorrow.

the island.

[aaj]

Based on your first post, the brother already gave her talaq numerous times, so if that is the case then she no longer is his wife. Whether parents want her back or not is something she needs to discuss with them. They need to realize she may no longer be married and is a divorced person living in his house. She needs to confirm this with the imam rather then "fix" herself up for him. The girl and all those failing to admit this marriage has already ended in divorce may be sinning by trying to force her on him if she is no longer his wife. If she's feeling sorry for herself then that won't help her, her stubbornness is the cause of her problems. She needs to wake up and see the reality.

[Scimitar]

How does Islam tackle this subject of 'feeling sorry for yourself?'

Repentance.

Scimi

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[azc]

It's better to consult a mufti in place of asking to random people. He will tell if divorce has taken place or not

[greenhill]

Repentance.

Scimi

Yup!

Repentance also means that we do not repeat the act again (tantrums and all)… if it is repeated time and again, then it is not repentance… then the sorry and apologies really means nothing as it will likely be repeated..


:peace:

[azc]

Yup!Repentance also means that we do not repeat the act again (tantrums and all)… if it is repeated time and again, then it is not repentance… then the sorry and apologies really means nothing as it will likely be repeated..:peace:

This is the human nature of committing sin after repentance. Who is in this world that never commits sin after repentance..? Allah swt like those sinners who cries for forgiveness. If nobody commits sins, Allah swt will raise another group of people who will seek forgiveness after committing sins. (Allah swt knows best)

[azc]

^ Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “By Him in whose hand is my soul, if you did not sin Allah would replace you with people who would sin and they would seek the forgiveness of Allah and He would forgive them.”(Source: Sahih Muslim 2749)....But it doesn't mean we should commit sin, rather, despite refraining from sin, we shall commit sin because of our human nature. We should repent and should not persist on commiting sins deliberately