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greenhill
That aside, is there a way you could say what you feel to him? What would you do better from what you have learnt?
why should she say to him what she feels? she is a stranger to him like any other man. These are things in life that are learnt too late when you are rash in your actions and also don't go to counseling or elders and think you know it all. This is as much his fault as hers, this is not a game to be throwing the word 'talaq' around so carelessly. Allah made marriage a sacred bond. The whole point of her marrying someone else first and getting a divorce and then coming back to him is so they know they can't break up and get back together whenever they please like the kuffars do. And that marriage to the 2nd person also has to be a genuine marriage where you put your 100% in to make it work. IF it doesn't work and you end up getting divorce only then can the old ex come back and marry again. Marrying someone else for sake of getting with the old ex is not a loophole.
OP: I guess you should take this as a hard learned lesson and work on things that made your marriage fail. Such as, how to take care of a house, cook, clean, control any temper issues, rights of husband/right/inlaws, etc. Even if you were to go back to him, regrets is not enough to make that marriage last. You need to change yourself and become a better person and home maker and he needs to become better himself, or he'll be throwing that word around carelessly again.