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ham4zah
01-22-2017, 11:07 PM
Hi all, i am new on here. Just wanted some advice. I met someone and we got talking (for marriage obv) this person i felt was my soul mate! Anyways i found out after 7/8 months her mum wanted to marry her elsewhere and her engagement was done. this woman did not even mention it to me. Now she is going to be someone elses bride. Im really struggling to cope with this. I feel really hurt. I am trying to forgive and forget but its hard.... everytime i think about her it bothers me. She wasted my time! Any good duas for a better proposal as i do wish to marry but only hoping allah gives me better.
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:08 PM
Forgive them and move on. Rejection do hurt people. Its just a test from allah. As per pyschology it will take atleast 6-8 months to get over with such experiances. Give some time for it. Be patient. Everything happens for a reason. Allah is the one who knows whats best for you. Pray to allah and believe that he will bring something better for you in return for your patience.
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 01:16 PM
Im scared that i will have to marry someone i dont love or something abd this thought bothers me alot. I do believe its a test and i trust allah so i am being patient. I hope this woman also realises.
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:21 PM
You are scared coz you don't trust that allah will listen to your prayer. We need to pray and trust him blindly. And dont worry about love. Love in between couples are created by allah, i think there is verse or hadees mentioning that. It leaves no space for you to worry.
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:24 PM
The love before marriage is always haram. So bother yourself about love. If you are right in what you are doing,allah will do everything for you,
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 01:25 PM
Yh i guess if i trusted him completely i would be scared or worried. I should trust him fully. One last question so was this a test for me or her aswell? I feel like im the only one suffering here...
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:25 PM
**dont bother
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 01:25 PM
Honeslty i thought id be married like 3 years ago but still waiting... sigh
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:26 PM
Haha
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 01:27 PM
Lol honestly i did think i would be married ages ago ... i never thought inwould be strugglig to find someone....
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:33 PM
Btw whats your age?
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 01:34 PM
27 lol
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 01:35 PM
Its fine, just going to be patient. In sha allah i will find a great person someone that is right for me.
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:41 PM
Oh you have a lot of time, enjoy your single life man. There are alot of things to do. You know what ,i'm living in russia. And i desperately want to get married coz where ever i go there are russian beauties. We are taught to lower our gaze when we see them, but the sad thing is ,even if lower my gaze the thing which i can see their white legs. Hahaha
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:42 PM
So i hope you are in a more better condition than mine. So dont sigh about your life. Everything has its own time
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shabab.bafakyh
01-23-2017, 01:44 PM
**is their
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 03:25 PM
Yh i guess everyone has their own time still think those that marry young are kinda lucky. Its super hard to see your mates married and u still waiting .... and hoping it happens for you
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Maya7
01-23-2017, 10:45 PM
If you guys want that bad to get married, then do Salat 'Al haja'. Honestly, I thought only women rush to get married :lol:
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 11:34 PM
Whats salat al haja? Please provide details and has it worked for you? Lol
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Maya7
01-23-2017, 11:45 PM
It's a prayer that you perform when you need sth (so bad).. 'The prayer of need'. I've never done it, but I guess you shoudn't have doubt about it. Perform it with yaqeen that Allah will answer your prayers :)

For more informations, you can check that link: http://seekershub.org/ans-blog/2009/...salat-al-haja/
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ham4zah
01-23-2017, 11:47 PM
Oh i think i know its abit like tahujjud. Its really hard waking up before fajar to perform this. I struggle to make fajar!
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Maya7
01-23-2017, 11:57 PM
Well if you think you struggle less being single, then don't be bothered :statisfie
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ham4zah
01-24-2017, 10:44 AM
Lol thanks sister i hear u
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azc
01-24-2017, 12:16 PM
Originally Posted by ham4zah
Whats salat al haja? Please provide details and has it worked for you? Lol
http://hadithanswers.com/salatul-hajah/
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