format_quote Originally Posted by
Umm Abed
Ws
No you shouldnt be attending such events at all, so many haram things go on there, the food is haram, the mixing and socializing, all not good.
Every year during the new year or short after the new year many companies have a sort of a party that the people working at the company with their spouses or alone join. I have pondered about all kind of excuses to not go, as often it is all surrounded with music and stuff. However i did not think about the mixing part and socializing with the other gender, Jazakallahu khairan for mentioning it.
Lately, i have been reading how a woman should seduce a man she likes (in the western life style kind of mentality). Why reading this? So i know how to counter those signals and behavior. As women feel very offended/hurt if they declare to you that they like you and you as a man refuse them. As Allah(swt) even confirms this in the Qur'an.
"....
[then if they persist], forsake them in bed; ..." Qur'an 4:34
When mixing takes place, this gives them a opportunity to have a private chat with you. Thus when you refuse her, she might get offended and MAYBE will try to hurt you (even maybe as blackmail or revenge). I mean if she should claim i have touched her and would say no i did not, ..it is my word against her. In the west, the man is by default guilty until proven innocent. So not given her any opportunity to have a private chat with me to let me know of what she is feeling or thinking.
Many women in the present day (non-religious ones) think just because they find themselves "beautiful" or "showing off their body" every man would automatically want to be with them. I THINK that many of these kind of women will resort to someway of revenge if a man would refuse such a woman. Very twisted mentality indeed.