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Bobbyflay23
Ok so I know I've been posting on this website allot if for help I'm not trying to be a attension seeker but I have another question my dad was backbiting my aunt and I was with him so and I didn't stop it and I even believed it (it was mostly false) and now I realized it was technically backbiting and I want to apologize but my dad doesn't want her to find out but I don't care if she finds out so I want to ask her for forgiveness without causing drama because my dad says I'm not gonna forgive you if you cause a drama and you should just forget about it but I don't want to carry the weight of a major sin I have no clue how to fix this situation without my dad being mad at me and then also carrying the weight of a major sin
Asalaamualaykum
Dear brother in islam:
Please consider the following before going to your aunt:
1. The first thing you need to understand is the definition of backbiting. If you don't understand the Shari definition and explanation of backbiting then all actions to follow from yourself will be based on a misinformed base principal (in this case, backbiting) which in turn might lead to a greater Fitna. (in this case division & discourse in the family)
2. In
certain cases whereby a Muslim regards the exposing of information as backbiting - you might be surprised to learn that depending on the situation it won't be considered as backbiting but rather it will hold the status of being wajib to actually expose that information.
You will only understand the wide spectrum of this commonly used term "backbiting" if you take time to speak to an scholar in great length.
So the precis of it is that if you don't know the Shari definition & explanation of backbiting then for you to act upon your fathers actions will be unjustified - simple because if you dont truly know the principal of the word it will logically mean that all actions to follow will be put to question. Simply put, if you dont know the difference between MPD & Schizophrenia (in psychology) then logically you can never diagnose a patient with either or.
Wasalaam.