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cinnamonrolls1
Yep I totally agree. At the end of the day its their choice to dress/act the way they do and its mines to be modest. Thank you for the lovely message above!
Yes exactly. Each to their own...nothing wrong with being shy and modest and there is nothing wrong with being outgoing and extroverted...people should stop trying to change the nature of people by insulting and advising them to be "more confident & extroverted" or "should be more modest and shy".
There is nothing wrong with being an extroverted muslima as long as she's not flirting and going out on dates with boys.
Some muslim men are so idiotic that they think that just because a muslima has an outgoing and extroverted personality, she's immodest but that is ridiculous, they can be loud and bubbly around their family/friends...there's nothing immodest/wrong with that. I have many extroverted muslim girl friends like that who are outgoing and modest who know their boundries.
It's only immodest if a muslima is joking and flirting around with a boy for no reason other than just flirting and getting herself into a emotional relationship with a boy which then leads to haram romantic relationship.
Introverted girls and boys can get themselves into that situation as much as extroverted ones and they can't say "we were just friends...didn't mean for it to end up in romantic relationship"...come on, no one is that naive, not even the most innocent shy girls knows what happens when you get friendly and flirt with a boy and those girls are not fooling anyone. People have eyes and they will spread what they see.
Only a really good muslim would overlook the behaviour, keep quiet and intentionally not speak about what they witnessed just to defend/not tarnish another muslim's reputation...the reward for conciously not backbitting & gossiping about fellow immodest muslim behaviour/acts they witnessed is from Allah alone. But the thing I have learnt is that I may try to defend them with million excuses/innocent lies but the Society won't and such gossip spread like wild fire in communities. May Allah swt guide us all away from all evils including evil commited by our tongues, Ameen.