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*charisma*
Walaikum Asalaam
No, this isn't true. In the Quran (An-Nur 24:31), it lists the mahrams of a woman, which includes her brother. There is nothing in Islam which states that a brother and sister cannot live together. If this were the case, then brothers and sisters would be separated and living in separate homes as they grow up since there will often be times where they will be alone together. A brother is there to protect his sister and bear the responsibility if his father is not around. It is completely valid for a brother and sister to go to umrah together because in order for a woman to go to umrah, she must have a mahram. Her brother falls under the category of mahram (considering he is of age).
Jazak allahu khayran, that is indeed what goes through my head and that is why i rejected it. This annoys me so much that they do not think for themselves, but blindly follow something or even just assume things without proof and in the end making things for themselves haram and thus hard what Allah has made halal and easy. Even in the past my sister said i take "too long" to do my wudu (5-6 minutes). I was confused by this as well as we know we must do our Wudu carefully, but sub'han'Allah after i came back to the west i read this hadith.
" (Ahmad) I asked, 'O Messenger of Allah, which city?' He said, 'and when I heard that I was aghast,' - Abd'Allâh ibn 'Amr said, "
I went to the Prophet (peace be upon him) one day whilst he was performing Wudu' (ablution) slowly and carefully. He raised his head, looked at me and said, " (Ahmad, Muslim.)Abû Hurayrah said, "The Prophet said, (Ahmad)Hudhayfah ibn 'Ubayd said,...."
Source used: https://www.facebook.com/notes/sisters-with-taqwa/the-signs-before-the-day-of-judgement-ibn-kathir/10150167375039510/
With this i have seen other things as well, not rinsing their mouth during Ramadan, my sister not cleaning her nose ever for wudu because she says she can't (although i don't know of any condition she might have), not brushing their teeth if they forgot after the sun has risen, doing their prayer even faster than i do (while me being at 2 rak'at they starting and finishing faster than i do. I take about 6-8 minutes to do the prayer (4 rak'at) ).
I am not sure how to handle such a people, so i mostly just abstain from going in to argument with them, as because they themselves are Muslims longer than me, look at me as if i don't know or understand anything i am talking about.
I
WOULD like to distance myself on many matters including these away from them, but i am being forced by Allah to follow His will because i say i am a Muslim.
"
O you who have believed,
protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded." Qur'an 6:66
My brother is easier to reach because as a man we follow logic and rationality better than women as they tend to follow their emotions more. Do you have any tips to reach them as you yourself are of their gender?