May Allah swt guide them, Ameen.
Alhamdulillah, Allah has guided some to stay away from that and we should be thankful to Allah for that.
But some hijabis may not know/understand why it is not advised.
And there are some despite having perfect knowledge about rules on modesty and the reasons may still find it a big struggle to give up/stay away from.
Its a battle for some whilst for us its easy to stay away from.
May Allah swt guide us all closer to Him, Ameen.
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noraina
It isn't haram to look at a woman's face, however, and this applies to women as well, staring at someone of the opposite gender unnecessarily and then developing feelings of attraction for them should be avoided because it can lead to greater harm.
That's why some level of segregation is encouraged in Islam and, if you are speaking to someone of the opposite gender for some necessary reason, you maintain modesty in your behaviour and words as well as the way you dress.
Its about our thoughts in our mind when we talk with opposite gender. Ok, we can't control the thoughts of men we talk to out of necessity about us but we can make it obvious that the talk is only strictly business...personally, think its better for men to think you're some serious ice cold, romance killer then for them to think that you are being nice cause you like them.
LAst thing you want is someone you work with to think you may like them in romantic way and they think they may have a chance when you are really not interested at all and would never merry them in million years.
Its not just down to muslim men to lower their gaze...its also down to muslim women to make it clear that they don't play that game...hijab on the head alone is not enough to do that. Its about character. You can be nice and have strict character and everyone will know that you don't get involved with men at school or work. Its about the character and reputation you hold in the surrounding you work in.