Triple talaq

[Cameelahk]

My husband and I recently had a dispute because I denounced Islam. I was very confused in the moment and didn't know what religious path I was on. He said, "I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you". Later when speaking about it, I told him I was just confused but I am still staying a Muslim. I sought forgiveness from allah and asked him to have mercy on me and I realise now that I don't want to be anything other than a Muslim. We are both young and love each very much and we both feel regret about the situation but my husband says that he doesn't think there is anything he can do. I looked into this issue and found a lot of contradictory sources.
Some scholars have said that triple talaq all at once only counts as one talaq and the husband may still take the wife back.
Some have said that it has to be done over a period of time, I.e. One talaq after every menstruation. Therefore giving time to calm down and reconcile.
Some have said that allah would not let a strong bond between wife and husband be irrevocably ruined in a matter of seconds and that he encourages forgiveness.
Some have quoted hadiths where the prophet said that a triple talaq all at once only counts as one and he let a couple stay married if they wished.
We really love each other and both regret our actions and have learned from them but neither of us want to do anything haram. We are both confused because we don't know which source is correct and what to follow so we are seeking expert advice. To sum it up, my question is, is it permissible for us to stay together?

[AbdurRahman.]

i'm afraid triple talaq means divorce and the only way you can marry him again is if you marry another man and after divorce from him, you can marry him, however the second marriage has to be with intention of being permanant as temporary intended marriages are not valid

not sure if there's other valid opinions though!

[AbdurRahman.]

it seems there is a consensus on the opinion i have given above:

(2) Imam Shafai has no different in the ruling of three talaqs. Three talaqs also take place as per Imam Shafai by giving in single meeting like majority of Sahaba, Tabiyeen and Tab’e Tabiyeen etc and the other three Imams: Imam Abu Hanifa, Imam Malik and Imam Ahmad ibn Hambal (رحمهم الله). It is not so that only one talaq takes place or no talaq takes place. (For detail see the Arabic booklet: مجلة البحوث الإسلامية المجلد الأول العدد الثالث حكم الطلاق الثلاث بلفظ واحد compiled by هيئة كبار العلماء).
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best
Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband

http://www.askmuftionline.com/3-tala...o-all-madhabs/

the above four schools and the view of the 'majority of scholars/salaf' is considered a consensus

[*charisma*]

Assalamu alaikum,

You should consult a scholar about this matter as it depends on the situation itself. For example some scholars say that the talaq does not even count if the husband is so angry he isnt awake in what hes saying.

So it all depends on what happened exactly, and no one here is qualified to give you that answer especially since its a very important matter. Please consult with those who have knowledge inshallah.

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[azc]

My husband and I recently had a dispute because I denounced Islam. I was very confused in the moment and didn't know what religious path I was on. He said, "I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you". Later when speaking about it, I told him I was just confused but I am still staying a Muslim. I sought forgiveness from allah and asked him to have mercy on me and I realise now that I don't want to be anything other than a Muslim. We are both young and love each very much and we both feel regret about the situation but my husband says that he doesn't think there is anything he can do. I looked into this issue and found a lot of contradictory sources.
Some scholars have said that triple talaq all at once only counts as one talaq and the husband may still take the wife back.
Some have said that it has to be done over a period of time, I.e. One talaq after every menstruation. Therefore giving time to calm down and reconcile.
Some have said that allah would not let a strong bond between wife and husband be irrevocably ruined in a matter of seconds and that he encourages forgiveness.
Some have quoted hadiths where the prophet said that a triple talaq all at once only counts as one and he let a couple stay married if they wished.
We really love each other and both regret our actions and have learned from them but neither of us want to do anything haram. We are both confused because we don't know which source is correct and what to follow so we are seeking expert advice. To sum it up, my question is, is it permissible for us to stay together?

It's a serious matter so you're advised to consult well qualified mufti.

[AbdurRahman.]

it seems there is a consensus on the opinion i have given above:

(2) Imam Shafai has no different in the ruling of three talaqs. Three talaqs also take place as per Imam Shafai by giving in single meeting like majority of Sahaba, Tabiyeen and Tab’e Tabiyeen etc and the other three Imams: Imam Abu Hanifa, Imam Malik and Imam Ahmad ibn Hambal (رحمهم الله). It is not so that only one talaq takes place or no talaq takes place. (For detail see the Arabic booklet: مجلة البحوث الإسلامية المجلد الأول العدد الثالث حكم الطلاق الثلاث بلفظ واحد compiled by هيئة كبار العلماء).
Allah (Subhana Wa Ta’ala) knows Best
Darul Ifta,
Darul Uloom Deoband

http://www.askmuftionline.com/3-tala...o-all-madhabs/

the above four schools and the view of the 'majority of scholars/salaf' is considered a consensus

yes thats right check with a scholar, and sorry i gave the wrong link;

http://www.darulifta-deoband.com/hom...-Divorce/44767

[Simple_Person]

i'm afraid triple talaq means divorce and the only way you can marry him again is if you marry another man and after divorce from him, you can marry him, however the second marriage has to be with intention of being permanant as temporary intended marriages are not valid

not sure if there's other valid opinions though!

Brother please delete this comment or correct it again. The divorce and remarry can be done twice and the THIRD time THEN she first has to marry some other guy first.

So if two people married, then first time (divorce). After divorce they can remarry again. Then second time divorce, then again remarry, the third time divorce, they cannot marry again until she marries another guy and divorces him.

What you said is after the first time divorce she has to marry somebody else before remarrying. This is incorrect. Do please change your comment.

[AbdurRahman.]

Brother please delete this comment or correct it again. The divorce and remarry can be done twice and the THIRD time THEN she first has to marry some other guy first.

So if two people married, then first time (divorce). After divorce they can remarry again. Then second time divorce, then again remarry, the third time divorce, they cannot marry again until she marries another guy and divorces him.

What you said is after the first time divorce she has to marry somebody else. This is incorrect. Do please change your comment.

​OP said he said, "i divorce you, i divorce you, i divorce you". If the husband issued three talaqs in one sitting then a permanently irrevocable divorce takes place. It is not permissible to reconcile without undergoing the procedure of halala.

http://islamqa.org/hanafi/askimam/102558

[AabiruSabeel]

:salam:

Matters related to Talaq are serious in nature and must be discussed personally with qualified scholars. Discussing it online or looking for Fatwas related to someone else will only confuse you further.

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