Originally Posted by -arisa-
Sister, you have no clue whatsoever. When you are in a gathering or even among 2 other women. They both are gossiping about somebody else. Go and set them straight by telling them something so they stop gossiping they will look all annoyed at you becuse you stopped that which easily connects people..that is gossiping. Ponder about such things and why people do that. Isn't this suddenly become a MUST in cultures? When people are annoyed by what you try them to stop doing.
Hate one another. People look down on you in cultures (been there, done that), when you forgave somebody and see that as being a loser by forgiving them because they also hate that person for example.
For your own shallow perspective it is ridiculous but when you open your eyes you see indeed that such evil and negative practices have become some what a norm. In my own culture in the past by majority but these days still it is practices that men (brothers/fathers) do not attend the wedding of their sister/daughter..because somehow it is shameful. I mean sub'han'Allah look at the backwardness and how sheytan has made it place home in it..
I am not sure how old you are, but i hope you are fairly young..10-18 years old. If not, then you have without a doubt a lot of catching up to do when it comes to pondering about things. Learn to analyze things and ask questions in your mind and ask Allah for guidance and wisdom behind those answers.
With music, tight clothes, study human psychology and what is happening to people. You are living in your own world and because of that, you do not see beyond the reach of your eye sight. Here in the west i see ALL those things Allah has made forbidden for us and a part of the wisdom why He has made forbidden for us.
There is a story of a frog and a sea turtle. The sea turtle arrives at the well that the frog is in. The frog tells the sea turtle to join in as this is the best place to be in. The sea turtle says there is a whole world around you, how can you say this is the best place to be in while you have never left this well. Still the frog insisted that the well was the best place to be in.
What am i trying to say with this story? You have seen and pondered very little about why some thing are what they are and rejects them or have doubts about them, while Allah has even given you the ability to see beyond your own "well" using the internet to talk to other people and ask their experience.
Knowledge is not what you need, understanding is what you need. Knowledge and understanding are two complete separate things and understanding is when you go towards imaan in'sha'Allah. Ponder about things and ponder deeply about it. Study, learn read Islamic books and perspectives. Ponder about what you have seen, heard, read and even have typed/said. Because often you will see that your own mouth is the source of understanding.
"And those who strive for Us - We will surely guide them to Our ways. And indeed, Allah is with the doers of good." Qur'an 29:69
what is striving? What is guidance? What are good things? If you ponder about such things you will come to know. When you hear a lecture often you hear the person speaking saying, the good that i say comes from Allah and the evil that i say comes from me. How come such people say these thing? Is it true? If not, how come it is not true, if yes, how come it is true? Ponder..ponder..ponder..
"Indeed, in the creation of the heavens and earth, and the alternation of the night and the day, and the [great] ships which sail through the sea with that which benefits people, and what Allah has sent down from the heavens of rain, giving life thereby to the earth after its lifelessness and dispersing therein every [kind of] moving creature, and [His] directing of the winds and the clouds controlled between the heaven and the earth are signs for a people who use reason.
" Qur'an 2:164
"Indeed, in the creation of the heavens and the earth and the alternation of the night and the day are signs for those of understanding.
" Qur'an 3:190
"Who remember Allah while standing or sitting or [lying] on their sides and give thought
to the creation of the heavens and the earth, [saying], "Our Lord, You did not create this aimlessly; exalted are You [above such a thing]; then protect us from the punishment of the Fire." Qur'an 3:191
"Say, [O Muhammad], "I do not tell you that I have the depositories [containing the provision] of Allah or that I know the unseen, nor do I tell you that I am an angel. I only follow what is revealed to me." Say, "Is the blind equivalent to the seeing? Then will you not give thought?
"" Qur'an 6:50
"Do they not contemplate within themselves?
Allah has not created the heavens and the earth and what is between them except in truth and for a specified term. And indeed, many of the people, in [the matter of] the meeting with their Lord, are disbelievers." Qur'an 30:8
"Then do they not reflect upon the Qur'an
, or are there locks upon [their] hearts?" Qur'an 47:24
Do not see Qur'an only as calmness of the heart, it is much more than that. Also try to taste the sweetness of the prayer, because if you say you get all calmness when reading the qur'an then my question to you is, don't you get that when praying?