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aymen
Salam all,
I am 27 years old and already am in a destructive relationship from the past 1 year. I get beaten and abused. Yet I cannot take divorce as I am even more scared of my future or my brain has been feeded in such a way. I think that too has something to do with my husband. He has lowered my self-esteem to the extent that now I think I am useless person. I am an MS environmental science yet I am not allowed to do job despite our financial conditions being poor. Just recently, in the latest of minor skirmish I got slapped multiple times again and I closed myself in a room and hurt myself with knife. But then I controlled myself and let the thought go. The person I am turning into is giving me goosebumps so I just signed in to seek help before I turn into a Psychological patient. I am really unable to make any witty decisions right now and need sincere help.
(Cant turn to my parents for help)
Desperate and hurt
A muslim sister
Get your family involved, of course you can turn to your parents for help...they are your parents!. Tell them of this sick man's actions. If he then says even something bad or hurts you in anyway, run and divorce.
If you don't have kids, you're saved. Don't have kids until this man sees the wrong of his ways and treats you better for years.
Divorce is looked bad upon in Islam but that doesn't mean you have to endure torture and physical beating. What kind of man beats his wife after 1 year of marriage.
Sister, it is nothing but a sign of bad things. If you were to have kids and this wife beater would then be a father, he would make his kids lives hell.
If you have a brother, tell him and make him beat him to a pulp till he understand you are not to be hurt in anyway. I kid you not, there was a guy in our neighborhood who used to beat his wife and the girl told his brother who came and beat that man, beat him and beat him, made him cry and now he's a loving husband. Some men need some good beating before they learn to respect someone's sister who are given to them in wedding.
And if he doesn't start treating you better, don't be afraid of divorce especially at this early in marriage. You will get remarried and if not, so what...what kind of life is living with a wife beater? No self-respecting man would raise hands on his wife. Put your trust in Allah.
Why does he beat you?