Greetings and peace be with you noor grant;
In seeing the state of our marraiges in the west at least,
Well, today is my thirty second wedding anniversary. But like you I am deeply saddened that so many marriages seem to suffer violence and end in divorce.
I am not sure I agree with being assertive as a recipe for a happy marriage, I feel it is about trying to bring out the best in your spouse, and to earn respect. Life is a journey, always one day at a time and we both change over the years. At times it can seem like a battle ground, life throws a lot of problems at you, and rather than trying to win an argument, I try and find a solution where there are no loosers.
I have found that we are much stronger together than we would be apart. Staying married is one of the toughest thing we do in life, it can seem like a continuous struggle.
Just my two cents worth.