Originally Posted by xa_xa_ft
Originally Posted by xa_xa_ft
Iyad ibn Himar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Allah has revealed to me that you should be humble, such that none of you transgresses or boasts against another.” I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what do you think about a man who reviles me in a lowly assembly and I respond to him; am I sinful?” The Prophet said, “Two people who revile each other are like two devils accusing and denying each other.”
Source used: http://dailyhadith.abuaminaelias.com...er-are-devils/
Always respond with which is better. Based on my observations and pondering about the results and my behavior in both the situations (responding with the same..ie insulting back or responding with wisdom, calmness and respect) i have concluded that indeed responding with wisdom, calmness and respect although that individual insulted you, one achieves more.
What am i talking about?
Let's say somebody insults me in a gathering, by responding with good back, people in the gathering will respect you even more because they see somebody that responds with patient and wisdom, also that individual that insulted you might even learn from your response. If they have even a ounce of of fitrah left in them, they will see and understand your response. They will see that they themselves are the transgressors and people by default (according to their fitrah) acknowledge when they have done bad and regret immediately. Be the constructor of relationships between people and yourself not the destroyer. Remember, people with principles and wisdom have almost vanished from the face of the earth these days. The most impatient and disgusting people are the elderly these days if you ask me (majority of them). Why do i say this? When somebody has lived their life, gaining life experience one should have learned from it and been shaped to be the best amount people. To be role models as they have taken the time during their lives to KNOW and UNDERSTAND what is important (character, wisdom, patience, fear of Allah), while these days the elderly LESS patient, have LESS wisdom, practice the deen as a routine thing, what comes out of their mouths is mostly rubbish (politics, money, women, boasting, arrogance, pride..)
This indeed can also be explained. Every process consists of three activities.
Input --> Processing --> Output
In the past when somebody had a conversation with you (Input) you thought about what you just gained as knowledge (processing). After processing you could wring the wisdom out of it (Output). Thus every piece of information that you gained was processed and the output was given. Thus after so many years through out their lives one had ONLY output left..(ie wisdom and patient).
These days, when somebody does not talk to you (input), somebody is listening to music (input), when that does not happen, one is watching tv (input), when that is not happening, one is sleeping. Thus somebody is being programmed as there is no time left to process the input. Which as outcomes means, there is not wisdom to be made.