i have a problem (again)

[Bobbyflay23]

Hey guys i came back to islamic board because im struggling with somthing new as i said in previous posts my iman has been sinking rapidly and now im at the point where ive become addicted to masterbation and porography again i dont really know what to do ive tried to fight it i always repent but i know allah doesnt accepet it like i know you guys say allah is the all merciful but obiously if im not truly sorry hes not going to forgive me i can just tell i myself am not scincere i mean the proof of it is im getting punished so much like how i got fired from a job or how i got hit extremly hard in my nose and all this different stuff im kinda confused i dont really know how to bring my iman back im trying to be scincere in sallah and its hard for me to do nawafil i feel as if i had way less pride when i used to be jahil and when i wasnt a muslim infact back then i had no pride please give me advice i want to get rid of this habbit its really hard and i also want to fix my relationship with allah because i know its been screwed up before i even was addicted to this sin why do i say this because i always felt as if im a better muslim then over people i had allot of pride also i never really felt any spirtuality anymore which is somthing i really miss i just miss being pure people keep telling me oh "iman fluctioates" but it never came back and i ended up in a hole please give me some advice

[Simple_Person]

To do Tuwbah (repent), i have come to understand it is not simply to "repent" and that is done. What is repenting?

- Acknowledge that it was wrong
- Feel sorry for doing it
- Asking forgiveness from Allah
- Promising never to do it again
- (some sin done to others) ask forgiveness from them/(in case of theft) return the goods if not possible give it away so you do not possess it anymore.

However these are simple "to-do" tasks, while actually they are NOT "to-do" tasks they are deeper than that. I have pondered lately about this ayaat.

"[Iblees] said, "Do You see this one whom You have honored above me? If You delay me until the Day of Resurrection, I will surely destroy his descendants, except for a few." Qur'an 17:62
"[ Allah ] said, "Go, for whoever of them follows you, indeed Hell will be the recompense of you - an ample recompense." Qur'an 17:63
"And incite [to senselessness] whoever you can among them with your voice and assault them with your horses and foot soldiers and become a partner in their wealth and their children and promise them." But Satan does not promise them except delusion." Qur'an 17:64
"Indeed, over My [believing] servants there is for you no authority. And sufficient is your Lord as Disposer of affairs." Qur'an 17:65

So if we read those ayaat it says certain servants(humans) iblies will not be able to set astray. Who are those servants? So far i have come to the conclusion is that to be a servant of Allah or to put yourself in the category is to ask Allah help in every aspect. What i means by that is in case of sheytan to seek refuge from sheytan. We know from hadith that first look for example is from sheytan and the second one is from you. We also know if you get certain thoughts being questioning your religion to having haram thoughts is to seek refuge in Allah from sheytan (although this case if you already have logically, rationally and reasonably CONFIRMED Islam is the truth and Allah is true, one would never have such questions as even to questions is to question the question itself..is it relevant for me to even know the answer..how will my life change..(remember the people of the cave with people guessing how many they were and the last one being their dog - in other words rubbish questions with non-beneficial answer even if one would knew it). Have you ever experimented with it by observing your own feelings/desires at that moment? Because i have, the moment i have done that suddenly those thoughts(desiring thoughts) go away which is strange right?..so why not do it more often. The more often you do that the less you will be able to "HEAR" the whispering. If i am correct the moment you seek refuge in Allah from sheytan and spit to your left sheytan will burn or something like that. So logically speaking burning(feeling pain) well that is not a pleasant feeling to have each time. The more often you do it to sheytan, after some time he will indeed "give up" as each time he is burned(feels pain) when he does the whispering. The moment your imaan drops or better said the moment YOU drop your guard he tries again.

So to do repentance is to take necessary steps. What are those?..(well they depend on each case). If you have bad friends, you leave them and save yourself. If you have certain habit, leaving the habit might be hard, but REPLACING it, might be easier. Often the habit it self is when we "make time for it", while the time can be filled up by something else and much more in that direction of change. So to repent is to take necessary steps and not simply say well "ooh Allah i promise not to do it again, but you put yourself as a candidate to be again go through the same sin. As when you are in the environment that caused you the first time to fall in sin, well the same environment will do that to you again..be it at home and at 19:00 watching certain tv-show to have once a week a chat online with a girl or to visit certain store that is filled with alcohol..as to which sin you have done.

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you Bobbyflay23;

Oscar Wilde famously said, I can resist everything.....................except temptation. Sadly in this modern world, there seems to be temptation almost everywhere we look.

We all sin and we seem to keep repeating the same sins over and over again. Life is a journey always one day at a time, so this might be a constant battle you face daily, maybe for another fifty years. Despite all our weaknesses, the most important thing, is never to give up hope in Allah. Keep praying, keep repenting, ask for help from Allah and keep trying, we have times of strength and times of weakness in our lives.

The hardest part about giving advice, is that we should apply this same advice to ourselves first and overcome all our own sins, none of us are perfect.

May you be blessed in this life and the hereafter.

Eric

[Muhammad]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته brother,

Hey guys i came back to islamic board because im struggling with somthing new as i said in previous posts my iman has been sinking rapidly and now im at the point where ive become addicted to masterbation and porography again i dont really know what to do ive tried to fight it i always repent but i know allah doesnt accepet it like i know you guys say allah is the all merciful but obiously if im not truly sorry hes not going to forgive me i can just tell i myself am not scincere i mean the proof of it is im getting punished so much like how i got fired from a job or how i got hit extremly hard in my nose and all this different stuff im kinda confused i dont really know how to bring my iman back im trying to be scincere in sallah and its hard for me to do nawafil i feel as if i had way less pride when i used to be jahil and when i wasnt a muslim infact back then i had no pride please give me advice i want to get rid of this habbit its really hard and i also want to fix my relationship with allah because i know its been screwed up before i even was addicted to this sin why do i say this because i always felt as if im a better muslim then over people i had allot of pride also i never really felt any spirtuality anymore which is somthing i really miss i just miss being pure people keep telling me oh "iman fluctioates" but it never came back and i ended up in a hole please give me some advice

We should remember that Allaah سبحانه وتعالى is the most Merciful and Compassionate, and we must never despair of His mercy. He likes the sinner to seek His forgiveness and repent to Him, but the shaytan likes it when despair fills a person’s heart and prevents him from repenting and turning to Allah. It was said to al-Hasan: Shouldn’t one of us feel too shy to ask his Lord to forgive his sin, then do it again, then ask for forgiveness, then do it again? He said: The Shaytaan wishes that you would have this attitude, so do not tire of asking for forgiveness.

Islam teaches us to have a good opinion of Allaah سبحانه وتعالى. So think that Allaah will honour you, have mercy on you and give you happiness in this world and in the Hereafter, because He loves His righteous slaves, and honours His pious slaves.

Ibn Abi Shaybah (7/105) narrated with a saheeh isnaad from Ibn Mas‘ood who said: Verily Allah grants worldly gain to those whom He loves and those whom He does not love, but He does not grant faith to anyone except those whom He loves. If Allah loves a person, He grants him faith.

It was narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

“Some prisoners were brought to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم,and there was a woman among the prisoners who was searching (for her child). When she found her child she embraced him and put him to her breast. The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said to us, ‘Do you think that this woman would throw her child in the fire?’ We said, ‘No, by Allah, not if she is able not to.’ The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said, ‘Allah is more merciful to His slaves than this woman is to her child.’”(Agreed upon)

Yes, eemaan does increase and decrease, so strive to do those things which will help increase your eemaan. Read the Qur'an, make du'a and remember Allaah, keep good company, listen to beneficial lectures, etc.

No matter how great or how many one's sins, they can never be greater than the forgiveness and mercy of the Compassionate, the Merciful, the Forgiving, the Oft-Relenting. So don't give up and never stop turning back to Allaah. Allaah سبحانه وتعالى says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say: ‘O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily, Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful’” [al-Zumar 39:53]

On the authority of Anas (RadhiyAllahu ‘anhu) who said:I heard the Messenger of Allah (SallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) say,

“Allah the Almighty has said: ‘O Son of Adam, as long as you invoke Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and you then asked forgiveness from Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the Earth, and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it [too].’ ” [Reported by Tirmidhi who said it is a hasan sahih hadith]

One of the important lessons from this last hadith is the importance of Tawheed (affirmation of the Oneness of Allah). The key to forgiveness is adhering to Tawheed and avoiding any form of Shirk.

So, brother, strengthen your resolve and make du'a to Allaah سبحانه وتعالى to keep you steadfast and overcome all of your weaknesses. May Allaah سبحانه وتعالى make it easy for you and all Muslims, forgive us and keep us steadfast, Aameen.

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[Shahi]

Dear friend salam,
I had that same problem for a week and I m now totally ok with help of Allah Alhamdulillah.
You will think how? When i see porn(without reason.) I didn't feel goood or satisfaction. Or even not interested. But I did it badly.
First of all while you do it ask Allah to help to not to do it. And it promise yourself and Allah that "I will not do it again"

But you will do it again. It is nature. Surely shaitan will tell you to do it again. So I started to tell Bismillah and every dua everytime. AND I STARTED TO INSULT SHAITAN WITH ANGRY.
YOU MAY UNDERSTAND THAT SHAITHAN WILL NOT HAVE POWER TO WIN MAN IF WE WILL NOT CARE HIM.

SO,I insulted him and I said him I will not care your words or will not hear you. So always blamed iblis and avoided doing it.
You have to go to masjid and stay there. Shaitan will not come to the place where angels come. And when close your door say Bismillah. Follow zikrs.
"Ya mukeeth" make a habit to zikr.
Always stay with a elderly educated person with thaqwa. Find a friend like that.
I know shaitan will tell you something bad. But if you got such thoughts tell with a good person. Or here we will help you inshaAllah.
Dnt do the wrong again. Make a sheild for your heart with thaqwa every time and ayatul qurshi will help you.

After that you you can repent as he tells okey?.

[STN]

Hey guys i came back to islamic board because im struggling with somthing new as i said in previous posts my iman has been sinking rapidly and now im at the point where ive become addicted to masterbation and porography again i dont really know what to do ive tried to fight it i always repent but i know allah doesnt accepet it like i know you guys say allah is the all merciful but obiously if im not truly sorry hes not going to forgive me i can just tell i myself am not scincere i mean the proof of it is im getting punished so much like how i got fired from a job or how i got hit extremly hard in my nose and all this different stuff im kinda confused i dont really know how to bring my iman back im trying to be scincere in sallah and its hard for me to do nawafil i feel as if i had way less pride when i used to be jahil and when i wasnt a muslim infact back then i had no pride please give me advice i want to get rid of this habbit its really hard and i also want to fix my relationship with allah because i know its been screwed up before i even was addicted to this sin why do i say this because i always felt as if im a better muslim then over people i had allot of pride also i never really felt any spirtuality anymore which is somthing i really miss i just miss being pure people keep telling me oh "iman fluctioates" but it never came back and i ended up in a hole please give me some advice

Get married.

And you can't bear the punishment of Allah, none of us can. Instead of thinking it is punishment, have you ever thought it is mercy from Allah ? Think positive of Allah

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8G4VSxQ9vQ

The solution is very simple. Pray salaah regularly everyday and read the Holy Quran with translation and tafsir.

And stop giving weight to your thoughts, they are nothing but whispers from Shaytaan. You can't win from the shaytaan if you argue with him. Do a lot of Astaghfar, all day long and think positive of Allah.