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Artimis
It is easy to say talk to your parents but the way i will be disrespected and humiliated in whole family. You wont understand that. My family already once tried to emotionally blackmail me to marry him last year but at that time i just resisted and resisted because at that time i was not ready for marriage at all. And i still get taunts for that from my family so this time they wont understand. I know my situation if there were even 1% chance of them understanding me, beleive me i would have talked to them. There is no way out that is why is relied on miracle.
I see people around me happliy getting married and wonder what did i do wrong to desrve this misery
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I do not consume haram food Alhamdulillah. And i know my faith is very weak right now so you think i might have lack of faith when i made dua but i had full faith when i made dua i even felt happy and peace in my heart at that time as my heart was convinced that this dua will be answered by Allah but it didn't happen. I feel sad and depressed by just thinking about this marriage i dont know what will happen to me after this marriage and i will have to act all my life that i love my husband. MISERY!!
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I did ask Allah help me i made dua that if he is better for me Allah then put love for him in my heart but sadly i still dont have any feelings.
And you dont need to say sorry i dont just need support i want real advice which you gave me so thank you :)
I feel for you sis, really. Alhamdulillah if I could help even a tiny bit. I don't think I did much though, I wish I could do more :/
You seems to be in a sticky situation with your family, so I understand now that saying no to your family is very difficult. I was thinking though now you don't love your futur husband but maybe Allah will put the love in your heart after marriage. Sometimes we want something now, but Allah delays it, because He's the All-Knowing. We are miskin and ignorant, we want things t happen exactly how we want it, so we become angry and go into depression when it doesn't happen the way we want. The thing is our point of view is biased, but Allah is the Most Wise.
Please don't think that your life is over, there is so many things that can happen, yet you can't see them because you are trapped in your sadness. Besides, you've been making du'a for few months if I'm not wrong, but what is few months in Allah's timing? To us it's hard to accept that du'a made for several months are not answered but timing is relative. Some wait 10, 20 years to blessed with a child for example.
We are on this earth to be tested, some are tested by loosing their child, some by sickness, etc... I truly believe that THIS IS your test dear sister. I know it must be infuriating that someone who's not living your situation is telling you this. The purpose of this test is to get your closer to Him inshaAllah, for that you need to accept your test and work towards Allah by any means.
Surely you can find refuge and some comfort by reading some Quran. Ponder these verses sis:
أَحَسِبَ النَّاسُ أَن يُتْرَكُوا أَن يَقُولُوا آمَنَّا وَهُمْ لَا يُفْتَنُونَ - 29:2 -
Do the people think that they will be left to say, "We believe" and they will not be tried?
وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُم بِشَيْءٍ مِّنَ الْخَوْفِ وَالْجُوعِ وَنَقْصٍ مِّنَ الْأَمْوَالِ وَالْأَنفُسِ وَالثَّمَرَاتِ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ الصَّابِرِينَ - 2:155 -
And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient,