Walaikum Asalaam
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DyingLight
Is it true that is very hard to find a girl if you are not arab?
What does being Arab have to do with it? Are most nonArabs single? :D I think not...
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DyingLight
Is it true that you need to pay mahr and it is usually 5.000-10.000 euros/dollars?
Not unless you're arab ;D
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DyingLight
What actually do they require in general?
Depends on the girl you marry. Also you don't need to pay the mahr all at one time. You can make arrangements with the girl and her guardian on how to pay it. Also it doesn't have to be money..it can be anything. As I said, it depends on what was agreed upon during the time of the marriage contract.
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DyingLight
If you see her on the street and you like her,do you just go and ask her wali or what? How sisters want to be approached?
I don't suggest that unless you know the girl. If you were working with a girl you were interested in for example, you may respectfully ask her or better yet a third party who knows the both of you and can facilitate a meeting between you and her family.
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DyingLight
I know how it should be but I am curious how it is in real life
The reason why it may seem that its easier for other cultures to find suitable spouses is because it's often arranged by their families. Since that family aspect/culture is not there for you to utilize, it will be a bit more challenging, but not impossible. If you know any other muslims at all, you should let them know you're looking for a spouse. You can also ask at your local mosque. The other thing I suggest would be joining social media groups where conversations take place (like on facebook). You'd have to be careful about keeping things halal though. There are a lot of reverts out there who are in your same shoes looking for a spouse as well.
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DyingLight
Ps: Despite agreeing they liked the way I looked and my personality,I have been rejected more than once for not being an arab and poor,so I am just waiting till I get rich,if I do,in shaa Allah
Just as poor people can become rich, rich people can also become poor. It shouldn't be about the money. I understand that in general we all want someone who is financially stable, but it's not the most important thing out there. So don't feel hung up just because you are rejected due to your financial status. In the end, we all take what is destined for us regardless of what is in our pockets. May Allah make things easy on you brother and grant you with a wonderful spouse who compliments you in every way ameen. Also never forget to pray about it and leave it in His hands. :)