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Tuba13
Assalamualaikum...I wanted to know if men and women are actually equal according to Islam...I want to be an social worker and my family asks me not to dream so big as the environment for a social worker is mixed...they say men and women can't work together...but the world keeps talking about feminism...this thing is actually making me mad...I am 14 but yet need to know what I want to do...I'm completely confused...and my question is if men and women can't work together how did khadija (rali) become a business women...she herself worked with men and she actually leaded all the men then why are my dreams known as too big?[emoji53] [emoji53]
Asalaamualaykum Tuba
I am in Support of you Career Choice however certain concepts of yours are misplaced.
Your question in reality has nothing to do with “feminism”. Feminism or Womans Lib is a party that started in western countries because the very basic right of woman was taken away within their own cultural strata. As a Muslim, your understanding would follow Shariah.
The second misconception is relating to Hz. Khadija RA. Hz. Khadija RA business was already established long before she married Rasool [SAW]. It was only 15 years later after her marriage that the formal Nabuwath of Rasool [SAW] started at the age of 40. It was only thereafter that the laws of hijab came in. I’m sure you will understand more as you read more about Shariah Law.
Thirdly – despite your parents’ reasons here, obedience to your parents is a Wajib. The Quran is very firm on this with numerous supporting Hadith.
The reason I am not going to get into detail explaining my support for your stance (provided Shariah conditions are met) is based on the fact that you are 14 and still have enough time to experience Islam within Society. Should I give you my reasons it might inadvertently lead to more misconceptions on your behalf.
This is not a Career Counselling forum whereby one can council you without recognition of the fact that you are Muslim.
Without sounding condescending or any disrespect inferred – You should be pick up this dilemma at a later age when your Islamic knowledge is more sound and experience in the world is more matured.
Don’t lose the dream – just add a few more dreams for now and return to your original dream later.