format_quote Originally Posted by
Mustafa16
my mother speaks of her 26 and 27 year old friends who complain that no men ask to court them for marriage, but it seems like girls my age (ages 15-19) don't care one bit about the opposite sex while boys are the ones who struggle with......certain sins I can not mention......for fear my post will be regarded as immodest......as well as the temptation of dating and free mixing......basically, men have greater romantic and sexual desire. in fact i wouldn't be surprised if women had NO sexual desire
The thing is, its not a problem with the women of our generation. its a problem with the culture of today and how it affects the thinking of most women. The women of today are being pushed towards the, so called "independent women". This is because women have grown a resentment towards needing to depend on men for financial support and being under his mercy for most of the things (to be honest, that kind of the faults of are male ancestors who used to oppress women, up untill islam came and taught us whats right but a lot of us still dont abide by those teachings). Now the women of today would rather be independent. Part of them dont want to depend on men for anything but at the same time they dont want men to depend on them. They would like to be privileged without consequence.
Note: This is probably why she rejected you. When u start to show her a needy attitude and desire for her, she feels like u will be more of a leech on her and a burden than a good investment. Thats why most girls go for the "bad boy" type of guys ... because they think that they are so independent and strong, no emotional needs and stable. They(girls) seek the thrill of being the ones to actually change them and soften their hearts, but the truth is that most bad boys are actually using them for their pleasure and dont give a damn about these young girls. So dont be discouraged as these types of women are immature and wont be of any benefit to you.
You see this happening with the western women, where one would start working and provide for herself, yet still search for a male partner that would spend on her and provide for her. Why? because her nature is to want to be sheltered by a man and provided for, while her conscious mind tells her not to depend on anyone and have her own financial backup to support her if she ever loses her male provider. You also see them trying to find the next best provider, hopping from one relationship to the other, having to settle with abusers and druggies so long as they are better than their previous male providers. And at the end of the day, you see them ending up single for life with 3 to 4 kids ... a single mom for life (or in some cases, ending up being a crazy cat lady). All because she was too focused on the wrong status of men (their wealth and worldly success), instead of the things that truly make a man a real one (not being afraid of commitment, being a man to your word, respecting women, not being afraid to owning up your mistakes ... all these things).
In essence, these symptoms that your observing in women are not because of what you think, they are because of something else. Your wrong to assume that they dont have sexual desires ... They actually do feel those things and much more than men. The thing is that women have shyness much more than men thats why they dont show easily. But the badboys are able to break through that because they have no decency and encourage women to let go of their modesty while most religious men feel shy themselves like women. Add to that, the effects of media and how they portray husbands and real men as fools and naive idiots who dont know know how to please women because they cant tap into their darker side of pleasure. That is why most of the girls and young women tend to choose badboys over real men unfortunately. The best place to look for a real woman with proper values are in arab countries where all this Fasaad hasnt spread. but dont be fooled though, just because your looking in the arab region doesnt mean you will find them all good ... some of them are worse than those women in the west or even worse (a double faced women who act as modest in the beginning and then veils their ugly personality after uve married them) ... thats why its extremely important to background check the woman plan to marry and likewise for women too). Hope this makes sense cause im posting this in a rush ...
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format_quote Originally Posted by
Mustafa16
my mother speaks of her 26 and 27 year old friends who complain that no men ask to court them for marriage, but it seems like girls my age (ages 15-19) don't care one bit about the opposite sex while boys are the ones who struggle with......certain sins I can not mention......for fear my post will be regarded as immodest......as well as the temptation of dating and free mixing......basically, men have greater romantic and sexual desire. in fact i wouldn't be surprised if women had NO sexual desire
The thing is, its not a problem with the women of our generation. its a problem with the culture of today and how it affects the thinking of most women. The women of today are being pushed towards the, so called "independent women". This is because women have grown a resentment towards needing to depend on men for financial support and being under his mercy for most of the things (to be honest, that kind of the faults of are male ancestors who used to oppress women, up untill islam came and taught us whats right but a lot of us still dont abide by those teachings). Now the women of today would rather be independent. Part of them dont want to depend on men for anything but at the same time they dont want men to depend on them. They would like to be privileged without consequence.
Note: This is probably why she rejected you. When u start to show her a needy attitude and desire for her, she feels like u will be more of a leech on her and a burden than a good investment. Thats why most girls go for the "bad boy" type of guys ... because they think that they are so independent and strong, no emotional needs and stable. They(girls) seek the thrill of being the ones to actually change them and soften their hearts, but the truth is that most bad boys are actually using them for their pleasure and dont give a damn about these young girls. So dont be discouraged as these types of women are immature and wont be of any benefit to you.
You see this happening with the western women, where one would start working and provide for herself, yet still search for a male partner that would spend on her and provide for her. Why? because her nature is to want to be sheltered by a man and provided for, while her conscious mind tells her not to depend on anyone and have her own financial backup to support her if she ever loses her male provider. You also see them trying to find the next best provider, hopping from one relationship to the other, having to settle with abusers and druggies so long as they are better than their previous male providers. And at the end of the day, you see them ending up single for life with 3 to 4 kids ... a single mom for life (or in some cases, ending up being a crazy cat lady). All because she was too focused on the wrong status of men (their wealth and worldly success), instead of the things that truly make a man a real one (not being afraid of commitment, being a man to your word, respecting women, not being afraid to owning up your mistakes ... all these things).
In essence, these symptoms that your observing in women are not because of what you think, they are because of something else. Your wrong to assume that they dont have sexual desires ... They actually do feel those things and much more than men. The thing is that women have shyness much more than men thats why they dont show easily. But the badboys are able to break through that because they have no decency and encourage women to let go of their modesty while most religious men feel shy themselves like women. Add to that, the effects of media and how they portray husbands and real men as fools and naive idiots who dont know know how to please women because they cant tap into their darker side of pleasure. That is why most of the girls and young women tend to choose badboys over real men unfortunately. The best place to look for a real woman with proper values are in arab countries where all this Fasaad hasnt spread. but dont be fooled though, just because your looking in the arab region doesnt mean you will find them all good ... some of them are worse than those women in the west or even worse (a double faced women who act as modest in the beginning and then veils their ugly personality after uve married them) ... thats why its extremely important to background check the woman plan to marry and likewise for women too). Hope this makes sense cause im posting this in a rush ...