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Mustafa16
12-08-2017, 07:57 PM
I feel like imaan and taqwa and religion no longer excites me. islam no longer excites me. im just tired of it all. i get so tried of backstabbing politics, backwards cultural practices, constantly having to explain myself with apologetics and dawah, and being seduced by the wonders of this world.
it has gotten to the point where if i see, on a forum, (a secular one),
a parent complaining that their 16 year old son is doing something haram, i feel like shouting "why is it any of your business????"
it has gotten to the point where when i have left the islamic side of youtube out of disgust for their politics and cultural backwardsness and general backwardsness, that i turn to the secular side, and i even turned to quora (a leftist leaning information site) before i was banned, to the point that now whenever i see a video about a gay couple and how much they love each other, i feel like writing, "awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww <3" like one video i saw today ... (i only saw a few seconds, but got bored).
it has gotten to the point where i feel disgusted where evolution is banned in muslim nations' school curriculula, simply because i despise their leader, and because i mysefl have started to believe in evolution.
it has gotten to the point where i have started to believe in rights for gays even in muslim countries, despite believing (in principle, i no longer feel disgust for the lifestyle), that gays will go to hell.
it has gotten to the point where i have started to idolize romantic love in the manner played out by westerners, in the form of western style dating, and have even made goals to date, with the aid of my mother, who was even disappointed to hear i cut off plans with one girl out of fear of Allah, as well as fear of the unknown.

it has gotten to the point where i have started to idolize Ataturk more than Said Nursi, and even considered if the dajjal and mahdi system were all based on weak hadeeth or all fulfillfed by Umar II. (RA)

it has gotten to the point where I no longer pay attention the events in filisteen, (I think of them as backwards, islamist supporting terrorists astaghfirullah),
or syria (punishment for betraying ottomans, punishment for aiding sunni terrorists who are just as bad as assad astaghfirullah)
or yemen (all i know about them is that they marry off 10 year old girls like nujood ali, let them kill each other, i say to myself, astaghfirulah")
i have become numb to the suffering o the ummah


what should i do?
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JustTime
01-07-2018, 10:01 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Mustafa16
I feel like imaan and taqwa and religion no longer excites me. islam no longer excites me. im just tired of it all. i get so tried of backstabbing politics, backwards cultural practices, constantly having to explain myself with apologetics and dawah, and being seduced by the wonders of this world.
it has gotten to the point where if i see, on a forum, (a secular one),
a parent complaining that their 16 year old son is doing something haram, i feel like shouting "why is it any of your business????"
it has gotten to the point where when i have left the islamic side of youtube out of disgust for their politics and cultural backwardsness and general backwardsness, that i turn to the secular side, and i even turned to quora (a leftist leaning information site) before i was banned, to the point that now whenever i see a video about a gay couple and how much they love each other, i feel like writing, "awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww <3" like one video i saw today ... (i only saw a few seconds, but got bored).
it has gotten to the point where i feel disgusted where evolution is banned in muslim nations' school curriculula, simply because i despise their leader, and because i mysefl have started to believe in evolution.
it has gotten to the point where i have started to believe in rights for gays even in muslim countries, despite believing (in principle, i no longer feel disgust for the lifestyle), that gays will go to hell.
it has gotten to the point where i have started to idolize romantic love in the manner played out by westerners, in the form of western style dating, and have even made goals to date, with the aid of my mother, who was even disappointed to hear i cut off plans with one girl out of fear of Allah, as well as fear of the unknown.

it has gotten to the point where i have started to idolize Ataturk more than Said Nursi, and even considered if the dajjal and mahdi system were all based on weak hadeeth or all fulfillfed by Umar II. (RA)

it has gotten to the point where I no longer pay attention the events in filisteen, (I think of them as backwards, islamist supporting terrorists astaghfirullah),
or syria (punishment for betraying ottomans, punishment for aiding sunni terrorists who are just as bad as assad astaghfirullah)
or yemen (all i know about them is that they marry off 10 year old girls like nujood ali, let them kill each other, i say to myself, astaghfirulah")
i have become numb to the suffering o the ummah


what should i do?
Through acts of Ibadah
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Pure Purple
01-08-2018, 06:46 AM
One thing personally helps me whenver i feel weakness in iman by having company of pious Muslim, it means going to religious gathering , having face to face conversation and not online discussion.
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azc
01-09-2018, 04:56 PM
May Allah swt protect you from Satan. Ameen
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01-09-2018, 05:44 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Mustafa16
what should i do?
Tahajjud salaat in the final portion of the night. Ask Allah to forgive you and to guide you - and also, make sure you keep the regular salaat as well.

Focus on your self, and your heart. Speak less, listen more. Appreciate HIS mercy upon you. And see each test and trial as an opportunity to build your character.

And should you fail at any one thing. Stop, and reflect on why you failed, and ponder, ways which you can improve your focus and resolve for the next attempt.

And... be kind to your parents.
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Mahir Adnan
02-12-2018, 04:03 PM
brother,you can ask me whatever you want about evolution
listen to ustadh nouman ali khan
---
1. It is greater for a thing to exist in the mind and in reality than in the mind alone.
2. "God" means "that than which a greater cannot be thought."
3. Suppose that God exists in the mind but not in reality.
4. Then a greater than God could be thought (namely, a being that has all the qualities our thought of God has plus real existence).
5. But this is impossible, for God is "that than which a greater cannot be thought."
6. Therefore God exists in the mind and in reality.
-----------++-----
The expression "that being than which a greater cannot be thought" (GCB, for short) expresses a consistent concept.
GCB cannot be thought of as: a. necessarily nonexistent; or as b. contingently existing but only as c. necessarily existing.
So GCB can only be thought of as the kind of being that cannot not exist, that must exist.
But what must be so is so.
Therefore, GCB (i.e., God) exists.
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Mustafa16
02-12-2018, 11:17 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Mahir Adnan
brother,you can ask me whatever you want about evolution
listen to ustadh nouman ali khan
---
1. It is greater for a thing to exist in the mind and in reality than in the mind alone.
2. "God" means "that than which a greater cannot be thought."
3. Suppose that God exists in the mind but not in reality.
4. Then a greater than God could be thought (namely, a being that has all the qualities our thought of God has plus real existence).
5. But this is impossible, for God is "that than which a greater cannot be thought."
6. Therefore God exists in the mind and in reality.
-----------++-----
The expression "that being than which a greater cannot be thought" (GCB, for short) expresses a consistent concept.
GCB cannot be thought of as: a. necessarily nonexistent; or as b. contingently existing but only as c. necessarily existing.
So GCB can only be thought of as the kind of being that cannot not exist, that must exist.
But what must be so is so.
Therefore, GCB (i.e., God) exists.
Brother I wrote this a long time ago, and my imaan is much higher now, so you are long overdue, and besides, Nouman Ali Khan is a hypocrite as he has numerously warned youth on avoiding the opposite sex when he got in trouble for sexually harassing women, confessing to other shaikhs, being told to not publish more videos, and then publishing more videos, which led to them releasing the info.
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space
02-13-2018, 02:04 AM
1) Be kind and polite and avoid sinful things
2) Improve yourself and make strong your iman everyday, the day tomorrow should be more better than the day today and yesterday, etc
3) Dhikr, dhikr, dhikr..takbir, tahlil, tasbih. Dhikr is the one most beloved by Allah swt
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Reminder
02-13-2018, 03:10 AM
We don't change our way as disbelievers do every day. When Isa (pbuh) returns, he will permit things that are currently haram, and only then are they allow.
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azc
02-13-2018, 08:02 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Reminder
We don't change our way as disbelievers do every day. When Isa (pbuh) returns, he will permit things that are currently haram, and only then are they allow.
Wil you explain this matter of halal and haram with examples
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Reminder
02-13-2018, 10:21 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by azc
Wil you explain this matter of halal and haram with examples
I don't have it on me at the moment, but it's in the official English Quran hadiths. I've read it 100 times.
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Misbah-Abd
02-13-2018, 11:02 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Reminder
We don't change our way as disbelievers do every day. When Isa (pbuh) returns, he will permit things that are currently haram, and only then are they allow.
We know the Isa will abolish the jizya tax on the disbelievers and that Islam will only be allowed, what else is he abrogating?
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azc
02-13-2018, 11:33 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Misbah-Abd
We know the Isa will abolish the jizya tax on the disbelievers and that Islam will only be allowed, what else is he abrogating?
He is saying opposite to it...
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cinnamonrolls1
02-13-2018, 06:31 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Mustafa16
I feel like imaan and taqwa and religion no longer excites me. islam no longer excites me. im just tired of it all. i get so tried of backstabbing politics, backwards cultural practices, constantly having to explain myself with apologetics and dawah, and being seduced by the wonders of this world.
it has gotten to the point where if i see, on a forum, (a secular one),
a parent complaining that their 16 year old son is doing something haram, i feel like shouting "why is it any of your business????"
it has gotten to the point where when i have left the islamic side of youtube out of disgust for their politics and cultural backwardsness and general backwardsness, that i turn to the secular side, and i even turned to quora (a leftist leaning information site) before i was banned, to the point that now whenever i see a video about a gay couple and how much they love each other, i feel like writing, "awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww <3" like one video i saw today ... (i only saw a few seconds, but got bored).
it has gotten to the point where i feel disgusted where evolution is banned in muslim nations' school curriculula, simply because i despise their leader, and because i mysefl have started to believe in evolution.
it has gotten to the point where i have started to believe in rights for gays even in muslim countries, despite believing (in principle, i no longer feel disgust for the lifestyle), that gays will go to hell.
it has gotten to the point where i have started to idolize romantic love in the manner played out by westerners, in the form of western style dating, and have even made goals to date, with the aid of my mother, who was even disappointed to hear i cut off plans with one girl out of fear of Allah, as well as fear of the unknown.

it has gotten to the point where i have started to idolize Ataturk more than Said Nursi, and even considered if the dajjal and mahdi system were all based on weak hadeeth or all fulfillfed by Umar II. (RA)

it has gotten to the point where I no longer pay attention the events in filisteen, (I think of them as backwards, islamist supporting terrorists astaghfirullah),
or syria (punishment for betraying ottomans, punishment for aiding sunni terrorists who are just as bad as assad astaghfirullah)
or yemen (all i know about them is that they marry off 10 year old girls like nujood ali, let them kill each other, i say to myself, astaghfirulah")
i have become numb to the suffering o the ummah


what should i do?
Salam brother, im saying this as a sister who wasn't properly "invested" in her deen until abt a couple of years back- i prayed fasted and knew the basics but that was it tbh- i wasnt a very spiritual person tbh and i felt a bit weird making dua- i felt i wasnt being listened to and it was all a bit silly( astaghfirullah). Anyway i digress
Here's what helped me:
You have to make Islam personal to you: eg salah, i remember once freaking out because i didnt have this super amazing connection with God during salah but you gotta make it personal: i see my salah now as "catchup time" between me and God: i literally just pour my heart out tbh, or i give thanks, or i make dua etc. Salah isnt a clear cut thing, you have to make it personal to you.

Read the Quran in ur first language, even if u can read Arabic: i cannot recomend this enough!! I personally love the Muhammad Asad translation and i quite enjoy the Saheeh international one( thats the one i use when reading online, or an app etc) and the Asad one when im just chilling at home.

Set aside a bit of time to read some Quran daily, for me its before bed. It doesnt matter how much you read but what you're gaining from it. Legit i read like 3 to 4 pages- sure it may take me longer to finish a surah, but its a lot better than just rushing through.

Read the hadith and Sunnah; this is great as well; dont overwhelm urself tho lol

Other advice: be nicer to ppl, listen to ur mum and dad, be more patient. Stop arguing when u know ur right, basically this:

As for world events, id say make sure ur not reading biased news sites( from both sides!)

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cinnamonrolls1
02-13-2018, 06:36 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Mustafa16
Brother I wrote this a long time ago, and my imaan is much higher now, so you are long overdue, and besides, Nouman Ali Khan is a hypocrite as he has numerously warned youth on avoiding the opposite sex when he got in trouble for sexually harassing women, confessing to other shaikhs, being told to not publish more videos, and then publishing more videos, which led to them releasing the info.
Maybe we should avoid slandering a fellow muslim: if its true what NAK did then thats very obvs a bad thing. But what if its not true? I really hope its not because i was starting to like his lectures tbh
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azc
02-13-2018, 06:51 PM
Brother, calling any scholar as hypocrite is a big big allegation.
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Mustafa16
02-13-2018, 07:41 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by cinnamonrolls1
Maybe we should avoid slandering a fellow muslim: if its true what NAK did then thats very obvs a bad thing. But what if its not true? I really hope its not because i was starting to like his lectures tbh
true, i shouldn't be so hasty. thanks for the advice!
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Mustafa16
02-13-2018, 07:41 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by cinnamonrolls1
Salam brother, im saying this as a sister who wasn't properly "invested" in her deen until abt a couple of years back- i prayed fasted and knew the basics but that was it tbh- i wasnt a very spiritual person tbh and i felt a bit weird making dua- i felt i wasnt being listened to and it was all a bit silly( astaghfirullah). Anyway i digress
Here's what helped me:
You have to make Islam personal to you: eg salah, i remember once freaking out because i didnt have this super amazing connection with God during salah but you gotta make it personal: i see my salah now as "catchup time" between me and God: i literally just pour my heart out tbh, or i give thanks, or i make dua etc. Salah isnt a clear cut thing, you have to make it personal to you.

Read the Quran in ur first language, even if u can read Arabic: i cannot recomend this enough!! I personally love the Muhammad Asad translation and i quite enjoy the Saheeh international one( thats the one i use when reading online, or an app etc) and the Asad one when im just chilling at home.

Set aside a bit of time to read some Quran daily, for me its before bed. It doesnt matter how much you read but what you're gaining from it. Legit i read like 3 to 4 pages- sure it may take me longer to finish a surah, but its a lot better than just rushing through.

Read the hadith and Sunnah; this is great as well; dont overwhelm urself tho lol

Other advice: be nicer to ppl, listen to ur mum and dad, be more patient. Stop arguing when u know ur right, basically this:

As for world events, id say make sure ur not reading biased news sites( from both sides!)

Attachment 6359
thanks for the advice, sister!
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cinnamonrolls1
02-13-2018, 08:37 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Mustafa16
thanks for the advice, sister!
You're more than welcome, im happy i could help
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Reminder
02-13-2018, 09:25 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Misbah-Abd
We know the Isa will abolish the jizya tax on the disbelievers and that Islam will only be allowed, what else is he abrogating?
It's in the Noble Quran (http://www.nooresunnat.com/Audio/Com...ly%20Quran.gif), annotation to 3:85 or one of the linking Hadith.

...
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cinnamonrolls1
02-13-2018, 09:37 PM
Hmm in regards to evolution: there are some muslims who believe in it. Im not sure personally tbh but do your research and find what u agree with
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A786
02-14-2018, 01:16 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Mustafa16
I feel like imaan and taqwa and religion no longer excites me. islam no longer excites me. im just tired of it all. i get so tried of backstabbing politics, backwards cultural practices, constantly having to explain myself with apologetics and dawah, and being seduced by the wonders of this world.
it has gotten to the point where if i see, on a forum, (a secular one),
a parent complaining that their 16 year old son is doing something haram, i feel like shouting "why is it any of your business????"
it has gotten to the point where when i have left the islamic side of youtube out of disgust for their politics and cultural backwardsness and general backwardsness, that i turn to the secular side, and i even turned to quora (a leftist leaning information site) before i was banned, to the point that now whenever i see a video about a gay couple and how much they love each other, i feel like writing, "awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww <3" like one video i saw today ... (i only saw a few seconds, but got bored).
it has gotten to the point where i feel disgusted where evolution is banned in muslim nations' school curriculula, simply because i despise their leader, and because i mysefl have started to believe in evolution.
it has gotten to the point where i have started to believe in rights for gays even in muslim countries, despite believing (in principle, i no longer feel disgust for the lifestyle), that gays will go to hell.
it has gotten to the point where i have started to idolize romantic love in the manner played out by westerners, in the form of western style dating, and have even made goals to date, with the aid of my mother, who was even disappointed to hear i cut off plans with one girl out of fear of Allah, as well as fear of the unknown.

it has gotten to the point where i have started to idolize Ataturk more than Said Nursi, and even considered if the dajjal and mahdi system were all based on weak hadeeth or all fulfillfed by Umar II. (RA)

it has gotten to the point where I no longer pay attention the events in filisteen, (I think of them as backwards, islamist supporting terrorists astaghfirullah),
or syria (punishment for betraying ottomans, punishment for aiding sunni terrorists who are just as bad as assad astaghfirullah)
or yemen (all i know about them is that they marry off 10 year old girls like nujood ali, let them kill each other, i say to myself, astaghfirulah")
i have become numb to the suffering o the ummah


what should i do?

Brother, everyone has ups and downs of their Imaan. Sometimes we are so involved in ibadaat that we promise not to do anything else than to worship Allah. And other times, we find ourselves so involved in worldly pleasures that we start becoming numb of Allah and his greatness.

whatever you to get close to Allah REQUIRES your OWN self initiative FIRST. Allah will not send angels to bring you your imaan on a silver platter, YOU must RE-EARN Allah's trust again.

Brother, we are all humans and we all go astray sometimes and make mistakes. It is good however, that you are feeling slightly regretful and that you recognize where you mistakes lie.

What you could do to once again be CLOSER TO ALLAH (in my opinion):

1. Do not miss your 5 daily prayers (these prayers are seen as BEST deeds in the eyes of Allah)
2. go the extra mile. Pray 2 rakat tawba astaghfar (at min) and sincerely ask Allah for forgiveness and tell him what you are doing that you feel regretful for.
3. Try to replace your bad deed for good deed. (ie, make more donations in the Mosque/needy foundations; smile at somebody with the neeyat that Allah might be pleased; let a driver take you over; help somebody out' bring groceries for family; pay a bill; tell your family how much they mean to you ETC.. (no deed is small in the eyes of Allah)

InshAllah do these with a sincere heart and Allah will open your heart once again and strengthen your imaan.
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