format_quote Originally Posted by
P.K.
As-salamu alaykum,
I'd really appreciate some advice, I reverted in May 2017 and took the shahada at a trusted friends house in the presence of 6 Muslims. I recently went to a marriage talk (alongside one of my closest Muslim-born friends who led my shahada) where my future mother in law asked me if I could retake my shahada in a mosque with her & her family present for her "own peace of mind". What started as a simple discussion about me asking what her reason was for this (I suspect she doesn't believe I have reverted), turned into a heated debate and ended with me refusing to retake the shahada simply for her own satisfaction (her words, not mine), and with the future mother in law refusing to give the marriage her blessing unless I retook the shahada in a mosque for her to witness.
Does she have any basis in Islam for asking me to retake my shahada for her to witness?
Please help!
Asalaamualaykum
Its not you that needs the help - its actually your mother-in-law that needs help !!!
She has no basis and Islamic right of asking you to take Shahada again.
Print my answer and show it to her.
1. Who has she declared her Shahada in front of and who are the witnesses of her very own Shahada ?
2. If she is asking you to take Shahada now in front of others, she is missing the point of Shahada. Your very own testimony that you have reverted is shahada on its own.
3. I assume she was raised in a Muslim family - and automatically thinks her Shahada is "Automatic" !!!!
This is what you need to do to prove your point.
Tell her you have no problem "declaring" the shahada again in front of her family under the 3 conditions
a) The family must be told publically BEFORE you declare that Shahada that you have ALREADY taken the Shahada before hence this is not the first time you becoming a Muslim but rather it is REDECLARATION for her own Nafs and desires. In other words you are already a Muslim and doing it for own peace of mind (For whatever that's worth)
b) Since you are being asked to re-declare your Shahada, in return you want the "peace of mind" to know that HER OWN DAUGHTER is a Muslim too - hence your (future wife, ie. her own daughter) must also re-declare her very own Shahada
c) The Mother-in-law herself re-declares her own Shahada in that very gathering for your own "peace of mind"
Believe you me - they will be so embarrassed on conditions that they would get the point !!! and the entire thing will subside.
My personal advice is if they don't get the point, without judgement here but everything points to the fact that utter Jahils and in my opinion, find another spouse.
If they don't accept the conditions in exactness as I have suggested then it points out clearly they have segregation type mentality between Reverts and Non-Reverts. This will in turn mean they will make your marriage (If it even goes ahead) a nightmare and not even consider you Muslim.
What is making my tummy turn here, is the fact that they asking you to re-declare your shahada, means they consider your a Kafir at this very moment. According to Ahadith, any Muslim calling another a Kafir - Rasool SAW has explained that one of them is definitely a Kaafir. It means that if the accuser is correct then he is correct, but if the accuser is in correct, then the Kufr comes back on them.
Inform your mother-in-law of this hadith. If she still rejects this stance, then levy the conditions I have stated.