format_quote Originally Posted by
ameerkam
So is there no maintenance the mother has to pay? What if the mother earns more than the father.
:D It does not matter how much money she have. She could be the richest women on Earth and you are making 30,000 a year...she have full right to let the children starve to death right in front of her by not paying them a dime and it is obligatory on you as the father to pay for the children even if you make 30k or less a year. Now if you are dead for some apparent reason, cancer, hit by car or sudden death syndrome ...simply put...you died. Then the next relative male it is obligatory on him to pay for the children it could be your brothers, uncle, etc. Now naturally the mother will not let her children starve to death when she is sitting on billions of dollars however....it is obligatory on you to pay and not her.
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format_quote Originally Posted by
ameerkam
Haha I'm actually the child in this situation. And believe me the situation isn't pretty. What I meant was if it's impermissible for the mother to pay for the child I.e buy the child food or give it pocket money or something.
She can do with whatever she wants with the money. If she is spending it on you, she will be rewarded for every dime she spend it on you and you have to be thankful she did and appreciate her for spending the money on you. Do you have any relationship with your dad or you mother made sure you and your dad is disconnected?
By the way, the father have the right to ask where that money is spend. So if he is spending it on you and he is obliged to spend it on the necessary things, like food, cloth and education. He is not obliged to buy you an iphone or an ipad or give you salary so you can buy video games or cloth or go shopping or spend it on friends. His duty is to spend it on the essential and if the essential is bare minimum then so be it. If you ask him and he is a military soldier giving you lips about responsibility and how the money is to be spend on essentials and not toy stuff it is his full right. By the way in Islam, I cannot remember...the age limit but I read somewhere and I need someone to confirm this to me that ones the boy reaches balagh..meaning he can have babies the father can stop spending on the boy but the girl he is obliged to spend on her even if she can have babies.