format_quote Originally Posted by
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apologize for what? it's his God given right. Tell her if she isn't happy she can find another hubby.
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The Brother has commited Haram because he has to inform the first wife that his getting married to a second one and she (1st wife) can chose whether she agrees to it or not by giving him two options either her or me and in that case he has to chose one of the two and this process has to happen before he married the second wife but he messed up without the first wife not knowing he did it by jumping over this process.
In all honesty this is a mess.
My advice to the brother is to make confession to both of them and try to reason with them if they are willing to accept being in polygomy and if they accept being both your wives then Alhamdullah you may proceed your marriage to them both but if one of them says no me or her then release one of them..
By the way it's a god given right ONLY if the women involved agree with it otherwise they can refuse saying NO to it. Most of the time 1st wife can either reject it by saying either me or her and the husband has to chose between them and if he wants to keep his 1st wife then he declines the potential marriage with the second wife and if he wants the 2nd potential wife then he releases his 1st wife.
polygamy has never been compulsory in Islam even tho it's halal it has never been compulsory and women still have the right to reject it if they feel greedy or not wanting to share their husbands they have commiting no crime in doing so also.
There is huge reward for them tho by commiting the self-sacrifice of sharing their husbands and believe me it's not an easy thing for women to do and may Allah reward for these who chose that because they treasure the herafter more then this dunya