Seems as though you don't like these mentioned situations rather than just Eid. ;) And, I can somewhat relate to those things, which is why sometimes Eid preparations take a week beforehand at the very least. Arranging the house, food, clothing and gifts. All of it takes time rather than done on the day or before. There's always the option of ordering your meal and desserts, rather than cooking or ordering some and doing the rest yourself or with family. Irregardless, all the personal situations you can still enjoy your Eid. Or at least make it somewhat tolerable and Insha'Allah blessings will fall into place.
Overcoming grief and healing is one aspect that needs to be looked into.
Probably best to make the time to make Eid (and all other important celebrations, milestones etc) a wonderful memory for either yourself or those around you. The truth is we don't know which one of us will leave this world first. It could be the young, or the old......nobody really knows. And, I am truly certain, we will all want to be remembered lovingly and missed, similarly we would want to treasure those who are still remaining in our lives before it's too late. Aside from this,the first ten day of Dhul Hijja is important as well as the
celebration of Eid Ul Adha is truly a significant one.
So, whilst I mentioned somethings are similar; there are those relatives that are kept minimum contact with (very formal and brief exchanges) and those whom I welcome with loving arms and spend much more quality time with. One thing that really helps is remembering that I can never change the hearts or behaviors of others but can always change myself, directing my actions and thoughts not to be harmful but at the same time taking measures to keep harm away.
I really hope you enjoy your Eid in
the recommended ways in which it ought to be celebrated. :love: