:bism: (In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful)
:sl: (Peace be upon you)
First and foremost, welcome to Islamicboard. Thank you for entrusting us with your inquiries.
Secondly, to answer your question, no one here can give you accurate information as to how many Muslim women might be breaking the clear Qur'anic injunction on this matter, as none of us here are social scientists that have done research on the specifics of this matter or pollsters who have accumulated data on such. What I can say is I believe the percentage might be smaller than what you probably seem to imagine or might have been led to imagine. And what I personally hope is that the percentage is minuscule, but
Allah (God) alone knows best.
Thirdly, no matter who the social media influencer is, Dina Tokio or anyone else
(may Allah forgive and guide all peoples spreading erroneous information to the Straight Path), we do not extract our role models on Islam from modern-day peoples. Our Islam,
Alhamdhullilah (thanks, gratitude, and credit to Allah) has been beautified and exemplified to us in the lives of Prophet :saws:
(peace and blessings be upon him), next the Companions
(may Allah be pleased with them) of the Prophet :saws:
(peace and blessings be upon him), and, after that, the Tabi'un (people who saw the Companions) and Tabi' al-Tabi'in (the generation after the Tabi'un). We look to Qur'an and the
Sunnah (prophetic way of life) and the best generations as enumerated above to guide us to the Pleasure of
Allah (God). These are the best generations as a
hadith (prophetic tradition) attests; and as Muslims, we should know that these are sufficiently our role models for all Time.
Fourthly, we do not take our cue from modern (and often oppressive) regimes like Saudi Arabia or Iran or Taliban on how we ought to treat Muslim women or what freedoms we should or should not afford them. We have had a Caliphate for most of Islamic history, except in the last 100 years (with the eventual fall of the Ottoman Caliphate). So, we cannot subtract freedoms given to Muslim women on account of some women abusing their freedoms in the West.
However, what I can tell you is that Muslims in the last 100 years or so have moved to the West in unprecedented numbers in recent history and most for definitively worldly reasons; this is an innovative practice as, from what I understand, and
Allah (God) knows best, the only valid reason to move to non-Muslims lands is to give
dawah (invitation to Islam) or clear-cut extreme cases of oppression with no better remaining choice for Muslims to avail otherwise. So, of course, when Muslims live and work among their non-Muslim brethren, their children, often not brought up into households with an Islamic focus, regardless of gender, many times growing up in that environment, may incline toward non-Muslim school mates, co-workers, neighbors, or friends; this is natural from a worldly perspective but undesirable from a hereafter perspective because Muslims' end goal is pleasure of
Allah (God) rather than pleasure in fulfillment of any other inclinations. If anything, this shows the error of previous Muslim generations in bringing their children to the West without often (a) proper deliberation on the future state of subsequent generations of Muslims and (b) noble intentions of making
dawah (invitation to Islam) to our non-Muslim brethren or (c) rearing their children in Islam-centered households.
Allah is
Al-Wadud ("The Loving") and Allah has granted both men and women from among human beings the desire to love and be loved; there is nothing wrong in that desire if it is channeled as a means of attaining lasting fulfillment in both worlds; however, it is not from Islam to fulfill one's desires at the expense of the hereafter. So, women who do so are in the wrong. No excuse or justification is accepted in Islam from following or innovating errors into the religion.
May Allah guide them and us to the Straight Path and Allah's Pleasure.
Muslim women are people like you, with their real flaws and foibles and desires; they have their bad qualities and they have their good qualities. Many are outwardly religious and others are inwardly religious, but the optimal situation is for a Muslim women to embody both inward and outward the perfection of Islam in her intentions, thought patterns, and actions.
From our Muslim
ummah (brethren), many women undoubtedly err, and it is not the
hijab (headscarf) on their heads that indicate their true religiosity level but the
taqwa (God-consciousness) in their hearts. If you see a believing man or believing woman erring, it is your obligation to correct them if at all possible or out of mercy simply make supplications for their guidance as you may feel appropriate. Please do not extrapolate from some Muslim women being in or justifying this error to many or even most Muslim desiring to similarly err; it is not from Islam to carry bad thoughts about our sisters or brothers.
Allah (God) has given us freedom to make the right or wrong choices in life; if someone deliberately makes the wrong choices in life despite knowing the right from wrong,
Allah (God) and the ummah (brethren) are free from responsibility of the wrongdoer's wrong actions.
For the women who innovate such wrongs into the religion, enough is the reminder in the the Qur'an (
31:33), which says,
"Truly, the promise of God is True, so let not this present life delude you nor let the deluder delude you about God."
:wa: (And peace be upon you)
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CuriousonTruth
I did not ask for the ruling I know the ruling of course.
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CuriousonTruth
I'm asking how many break the ruling. Recently social media influencers like Dina Tokio have promoted marriage between Muslim women and non-muslim men.
And I had a look at the comments, far from criticizing her, many Muslim women came to support her, many were with hijab in their profile pic. They were saying comments like "It is our right to marry who we like."
So that I was curious on the truth (hence my user name) on this matter. Do a lot of Muslim women in the West want to marry non-muslim men? If so, what percentage of them in estimate?
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Another I would add and something that might piss a lot of people.......
If this is indeed how Muslim women act once they are given freedom like in the West, then wouldn't the Taliban, Saudi, Iranian stance on female freedom be the best way forward for Islam?
If you disagree please discuss why so?