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anonymous
I know "introvert" gets thrown around a lot but this is not some new thing that has happened to me. I'm nearing in my 40s and I can remember for most of my life that I have always wanted to be separate from other people, whether that be in school, on the playground, at work, in family gatherings, and so on. I always hated being forced to socialize with other people or go to certain gatherings. As I'm getting older, this worries me more because I understand Islam to be a religion that is all about family and being there for the community. This is a big problem for me as for most of my adult life, I have lived alone. I don't think this is something that I can change about myself but it is also something that I never learned to accept simply because it goes against the religion and in general, basically the social environment we live in. This creates a sense of stress and anxiety for me because I feel I'm doing something wrong, and maybe I am, but I don't know what to do about it other than living a false life for forcing myself to be around other people.
always remember there are people in situations far worse than you or far worse than you could possibly imagine.
did you know the less you interact with people the poorer your character judgement of people is?... there is a definete correlation. i never really had many experience with girls outside my family, only my sisters and relatives and some college/uni friends... that wasnt enough to prepare me for women in the real world...... it came to me very late in the day, now look what situation im in.
i had friends but i kept my circle very small.... only let people in i could trust or that i had known for a long time... i still follow this rule and i never stop people giving the basic respect whenever i encounter them whoever they are, be it ar masjid or in public.
you need to interact with different people more, the more you interact the more you learn about people, their behaviours, their decisions and their varying characters, however you will never know whats in their heart. bottom line is you have to decide what their moral values are like.
trust me you'll need judgement skills when you come to marry or when you come to marry off somebody that is (part or full) your responsibility.