format_quote Originally Posted by
Ahmed.
I have proper background insight into the brothers family life and background and mentality of wife as he told us in previous threads/post.
Brother, all I can say is, take xboxes advice, and just be ready for her to eventually tell you she wants out, I hope it doesn't happen, but be mentally prepared just in case
Let me guess, it's her house and you are somewhat dependent on her?
No woman who wants to spend the rest of her life with a man will want him to live in abject humiliation like this :Emoji29:
OH WAIT! Hold on! Wait, wait, wait....I didn't know this. The OP is living in the house that belongs to this wife and not his and he is dependent on her (meaning she is Qayama over him)?
OOooh boy! This is not going to work. I am surprised he lasted this long. Ones the role is reversed the foundation of this marriage is going to be build on a very shaky ground. First the wife is going to resent her husband. She will disrespect him. She will be ultra-controlling, she will look at him like he is a big child and not a grown man which multiply the disrespect to him. She resents the fact that she is taking of all the affair....when have a grown man she have to take care of. She feels she doesn't need you which adds further formula for making the foundation of marriage even more shaken. The more she is qayama the more she loses he femininity and the more masculinity will rub on her and her face. Even her facial features will be more masculine. She will treat him like a child and therefore nick pick at very fault he makes and it amplifies 800 times over. Scenarios such as:
"WHY DIDN'T YOU CLEAN THE DISHES?"
"I TOLD you the spoons goes here!!?"
"Didn't I tell you to throw the garbage!!?"
She will magnify everything a hundred times over. That is why I believe education should be pushed for boys such as science, engineering, doctors, lawyers, reading, writing, etc. and they get high end salary wages. They need to be in the front. They need to be leaders. It have to be a patriarchal society...otherwise the entire system will fail...family breakup will fail..society will fail....marriage will fail. Not only men want it but women want it too. The mere fact women ruling at homes fails and marriage is miserable and break up and is a great statistical research and proof that it doesn't work and the man have to be head of the household. Whether the man or woman like it or not. I told my mom if I do ever get married and I have no decision making to raising the children or in the house affair..I said to her...I better off let her stay with her mother and father and I live alone and pay money from far. I will be happy and she will be happy.
You my friend IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE of not been the head of the household...you act like a child and she is your mother...get your things straighten out. Go back to school if you must and get proper skills and education...make more money...move out of her home and have her be in your home instead. If she is working, tell her all the money she makes she get to keep it. You do not want any help from her, thank her for the time she helped you and you be responsible in bringing the money and proper decision making. Be the head of the household! Take as much as the load of responsibility from her shoulder and you put them on your shoulder instead. Let her return back to her feminine state! She should focus on beautifying herself, act feminine, she wants to take the money she is working to buy shoes and knickknacks and if that makes her happy let her do it. You are the one who should be going under the rain and cold temperature and get risk of been hit on the car to go out and work and build society!
But maybe it is too late for this marriage. I am unsure.