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Studentofdeed
Today I only asked because it seemed like qadar. I kept seeing her name and felt like Allah might be guiding me so I wasnt sure.
Are you sure about that? It may be a whisper from Shaytan and it seems like that's the case.
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Studentofdeed
So I knew a nonmuslim woman who seemed nice with good character. This nonmuslim girl is very sweet, quiet , shy and she does not swear. She seems to have a good heart. the girl seems to be innocent and doesnt seem to go near boys.
You are starting by making a lot of assumptions.
Do you really know the character of this girl?
Do you know if she has dated before with anyone?
If you find that she did had previous relationships then do you think that is something you will be okay with?
Do you know if she is only interested for a date or is she serious for a marriage?
Will this work for your family and her family if both of you have different religions and cultures?
How will this affect your future and future of your kids?
Do you know if she will convert to Islam or if she even has any interest in Islam.
May be the best is to talk to that girl before setting any hopes. Give her some books to read about Islam before going too far.
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Studentofdeed
My mother is hesitant because she thinks I'm getting too desperate as the girl isn't that attractive.
I tend to agree with your mom's opinion on this.
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Studentofdeed
Because in the Muslim community none of the women want to marry due to my race.
You don't have to look for marriage in your own local Muslim community. There are several other options available.
Reach out to your relatives living in our places and see if they can help you find any suitable match. Or o
ne of the option is to set up your account on several Muslim Matrimonial websites which are available in today's internet based life style. You can chat with Muslims girls to see who fits into your culture and life goals. Once you narrow down your search, meet with the girl and her family couple of times and inshallah you will find something better for yourself than a non-Muslims girl. I think that is a much better way than going off the track to marry a non-Muslim girl with completely different religious and cultural beliefs assuming its qadr. Its not qadr, it is the choice you are making at your own.