My physical self struggles to bear calamity after calamity

[Imraan]

Assalam Walaikum

Being met with calamity after calamity, the latest one being last night. I'm finding my physical self struggling to cope with serial and concentrated calamities, one followed by another due to human behaviour of other people.

I read and believe with conviction the following from surah bakarah.

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…” (02:286)

The nafs or the soul can take anything, I understand that, it's part of being spiritual, we can neither see it or touch it.

But what about our physical self? The stress and worry in our physical mind, the calamities affect way of life, eating and breathing habits and it brings our self esteem, our steadfastness and self esteem down.

Does the passage exclusively refer to the nafs / soul or is it supposed to refer to all entities attached to our existence spiritually and physically.

I am stuck brothers and sisters, it depresses me and makes me regret a lot of things.

I continue prayers, make sincere dua with tears, do istigfar,, losing the will to live, from what was a content and humble life I now face intimidation, deliberate damage, worry for lives I am responsible for and also always trying to do the right thing. Feel whole world is against me.

I appreciate all the prayers, I know they're all being heard but worried what lies ahead in this world.

I have immediate family members, nephews, nieces, got my own child.

How can wicked people get away with all this, I pray for it to all stop but it doesnt stop.

[taha_]

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

Remember this is world not Jannah. Prophets peace be upon them faced more difficulties than you. Read prophet ayyub, yusuf and his father Jacob peace be upon them.

Also prophet Muhammad peace be upon him faced so much difficulties yet he thanked his Lord. He lived life of poverty despite having rich companions.

Dont regret. Allah allowed it to happen. You csnt go back to there . When you are depressed, read surah dhuhaa..


Quran is best medicine physically and mentally. Dont doubt it. Put strong hope in Allah. Dont lose that hopes just have some patience.

[BeTheChange]

Walaikumasalaam

Yesterday something happened to me and my heart was shaken yet again. I find it hard to carry my heavy heart. Alhamdulilah. I struggled like you to physically get myself to the masjid this morning. I have been going every sunday with Allah's help for over 3 years now. I could not physically face the world. Luckily my mum asked me to get up and go and change my mind. If it was down to me i wouldn't have gone but Allah gave me tawfeeq and i went to masjid. I have come back home smiling and laughing. Why? Because there is another lady who was talking about her worries. I uplifted her and gave her words of comfort. Genuine caring words. i helped an elderly lady to her car. I offered another sister a lift. I gave my islamic book free of charge to another sister. Subhana Allah. You must go out and help people.

The more evil things that happen to me the more inclined i feel to help other people. I need to balance the good versus evil. I need to burn the light of hope in people's hearts and mind. You need to do the same. Islam teaches us to do these things. Smile even though your heart is crying. Smile even if this dunya is breaking you because actually you are stronger than you think.

These bullies feel intimated by you that's why they have attacked you in the first place. You should know you will always always have the upper hand because you are innocent and a patient man. Allah swt and jannah is with the ones who are patient. My brother you have already won if you continue to show patience and gratitude.

One last thing i have learnt. You will lose your family members, you will lose your wealth, your health will go eventually or rapidly, etc. Everything will go but your emaan the most treasured gold for us believers will never leave you. Focus on your emaan. Build your emaan and take Allah swt as your friend. Allah Hu Akbar.

I don't usually share such personal experiences however i feel it may help you insha Allah.

[Studentofdeed]

Same as me brother...Allah will save you from them and punish them eventually. It takes time and even as much we want to see then destroyed, Allah is so merciful that he gives even the bad people chances to repent and apologize. When he finishes all the chances he gives then he will destroy them in a such a way they could not even imagine. I was being oppressed like you and it may not have been severe but it was to point where I could not sleep and cried like everyday. I was slandered in the college, and harrassed to the point where I had to quit my job. They would even try to intimidate me in the library to the point where I had to study in the mosque. Only recently I found out they found to the other side of country. Allah saved me and he will save you I promise. Just please stay strong...its okay to feel frustrated as I was. You should need reassurances just like I Do. May Allah bless you with the best in the both worlds

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[Imraan]

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

Remember this is world not Jannah. Prophets peace be upon them faced more difficulties than you. Read prophet ayyub, yusuf and his father Jacob peace be upon them.

Also prophet Muhammad peace be upon him faced so much difficulties yet he thanked his Lord. He lived life of poverty despite having rich companions.

Dont regret. Allah allowed it to happen. You csnt go back to there . When you are depressed, read surah dhuhaa..


Quran is best medicine physically and mentally. Dont doubt it. Put strong hope in Allah. Dont lose that hopes just have some patience.

The prophets had a special connection with Allah swt, subhanAllah, they had a exclusive communication channel with him, how can you not have strong taqwa after that... what a privilege that was.

there will always be regret, i did not take my precautions to how a god fearing muslim is supposed to nor did i base my judgements intellectually. I was blindly focused on getting married and having a child, i say to myself the intention was always good, why did it then go downhill after that... the stuff i see now from my decision making makes me think how unfortunate I am, yes it could have been worse, but this is a bad scenario itself, just when you think it was going to get better it got way worse...

[Imraan]

Walaikumasalaam

Yesterday something happened to me and my heart was shaken yet again. I find it hard to carry my heavy heart. Alhamdulilah. I struggled like you to physically get myself to the masjid this morning. I have been going every sunday with Allah's help for over 3 years now. I could not physically face the world. Luckily my mum asked me to get up and go and change my mind. If it was down to me i wouldn't have gone but Allah gave me tawfeeq and i went to masjid. I have come back home smiling and laughing. Why? Because there is another lady who was talking about her worries. I uplifted her and gave her words of comfort. Genuine caring words. i helped an elderly lady to her car. I offered another sister a lift. I gave my islamic book free of charge to another sister. Subhana Allah. You must go out and help people.

The more evil things that happen to me the more inclined i feel to help other people. I need to balance the good versus evil. I need to burn the light of hope in people's hearts and mind. You need to do the same. Islam teaches us to do these things. Smile even though your heart is crying. Smile even if this dunya is breaking you because actually you are stronger than you think.

These bullies feel intimated by you that's why they have attacked you in the first place. You should know you will always always have the upper hand because you are innocent and a patient man. Allah swt and jannah is with the ones who are patient. My brother you have already won if you continue to show patience and gratitude.

One last thing i have learnt. You will lose your family members, you will lose your wealth, your health will go eventually or rapidly, etc. Everything will go but your emaan the most treasured gold for us believers will never leave you. Focus on your emaan. Build your emaan and take Allah swt as your friend. Allah Hu Akbar.

I don't usually share such personal experiences however i feel it may help you insha Allah.

No one from the mother's side seems to be happy I've got a court order giving me access to my daughter, are people that bad? To force me to give a talaaq amongst other rumours they resort to self justified criminal damage over and over again. I just can't stand bein a sitting duck while people time and time again oppress me. Yes @BeTheChange we will lose all family members, but not at this moment in time when they're right in front of me, I see them suffering along side me.

Thank you for sharing your personal experience, keep up the good work, i used to have the same mentality, help others, lighten up someone else's day, surprise them, put a smile on their face, smile at the them. Right now Im worried whats next and fed up of having to deal with the recurring damage to my home.

[Imraan]

Same as me brother...Allah will save you from them and punish them eventually. It takes time and even as much we want to see then destroyed, Allah is so merciful that he gives even the bad people chances to repent and apologize. When he finishes all the chances he gives then he will destroy them in a such a way they could not even imagine. I was being oppressed like you and it may not have been severe but it was to point where I could not sleep and cried like everyday. I was slandered in the college, and harrassed to the point where I had to quit my job. They would even try to intimidate me in the library to the point where I had to study in the mosque. Only recently I found out they found to the other side of country. Allah saved me and he will save you I promise. Just please stay strong...its okay to feel frustrated as I was. You should need reassurances just like I Do. May Allah bless you with the best in the both worlds

Good to hear your calamity was overcome and that you are in a better place. Praise Allah swt daily and never forget.
I always say if i ever come out of my situation, i would never go astray ever again insh Allah.
When will that day come?

[BeTheChange]

Aslamualylum

Your experience is not unique. I know other brothers who have also suffered and they were also innocent. You are lucky you are not physically in a prison. Yes you are mentally but you have the power and the onus to change your mindset. This is in your hands.

The pressure to get married and the worry one is getting old and has no children is a normal fear. This is exactly the same vulnerability these other brothers showed that's why they have fallen victim. Mostly it is always about getting pregnant and then rinsing the brother dry financially. It is a real shame you learnt the hard way but at least next time when you feel pressue you will dismiss this emotion and think with your brain.

Even though this is hard for you....do this... Number 1 you must pray 5 times a day. Perform your obligatory dutiess. Number 2 take as much action as you possibly can. Number 3 Spread happiness and love amongst family members. Don't talk about painful subjects. Talk about happy memories insha Allah. Number 4 continue to make dua. Your duas are being answered. You just can't see it yet.

[Ahmed.]

:wa:

That elder was right. We fear Allah from the heart and the fear that people might cause harm is natural and this is an outer fear (not from heart but just a worry).

In Quran it says Musa (as) ran after killing one of pharoan's men, out of fear.... And exegettes have explained this was an 'outer fear'.

[Mahir Adnan]

La tahzan,brother. don't be sad. have sabr(patience). try to hear some words from mufti menk, at least, those may console your heart
https://download-islamic-book.blogsp...-al-qarni.html

[Ahmed.]

Yeah don't go down the path of retaliation brother as them youths are ready to stone for ages, are you ready to do the same?

And its stones now, what if they decide to chuck something far worse, like a petrol bomb?

So escalating it is not wise at all

Opps sorry wrong thread!

[Imraan]

Assalam Walaikum

Being met with calamity after calamity, the latest one being last night. I'm finding my physical self struggling to cope with serial and concentrated calamities, one followed by another due to human behaviour of other people.

I read and believe with conviction the following from surah bakarah.

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…” (02:286)

The nafs or the soul can take anything, I understand that, it's part of being spiritual, we can neither see it or touch it.

But what about our physical self? The stress and worry in our physical mind, the calamities affect way of life, eating and breathing habits and it brings our self esteem, our steadfastness and self esteem down.

Does the passage exclusively refer to the nafs / soul or is it supposed to refer to all entities attached to our existence spiritually and physically.

I am stuck brothers and sisters, it depresses me and makes me regret a lot of things.

I continue prayers, make sincere dua with tears, do istigfar,, losing the will to live, from what was a content and humble life I now face intimidation, deliberate damage, worry for lives I am responsible for and also always trying to do the right thing. Feel whole world is against me.

I appreciate all the prayers, I know they're all being heard but worried what lies ahead in this world.

I have immediate family members, nephews, nieces, got my own child.

How can wicked people get away with all this, I pray for it to all stop but it doesnt stop.

Correction I was referring to the 'ruh' /soul, not the nafs (translated as ego / psyche)

[bint e aisha]

I feel sad after reading this, I wish I could do something for you. But I can make du'a. May Allah ta’ala make everything easy for you.

[Imraan]

I feel sad after reading this, I wish I could do something for you. But I can make du'a. May Allah ta’ala make everything easy for you.

Sister that's all that you can do, put in the effort in your prayers.. Leave the rest to Allah swt.

We know these circumstances are going to stick around for a while, I mean what a life, just have to live with it and take the hits.

If Allah swt makes the journey easier....... Alhamdulillah

If by miracle these circumstances of oppression are completely removed.... Alhamdulillah to that too... Though that is one in a million chance... But never lose faith... As we never know what the future holds....

May Allah swt avert other pitfalls and calamities that were destined.. Insh Allah.

The physical self / body will suffer only what Allah swt has permitted... The soul is the spectator / the traveller in this temporary world....

[Islami.Mu'mina]

You know, this dunya can get very hard. I've only read some of your posts and so much has happened to you. I could imagine how lonely you can feel inside sometimes. Even though Allah is with us, we do have those days, and it is hard. Just keep in mind that this is a test, the greater the test, the more you are loved. Soon ease will come, and you may be tested with something else.

I get anxiety towards the future about this problem too. I'm giving you this advice, yet I can't even follow it myself. So you aren't alone. You are very strong!


When our attachment is strong to those we love to the point where we forget that this is just the dunya, it'll end up with us being heart broken. That's because reality hits. This is the dunya. Keep that in mind.

I myself am struggling so much, and I haven't even gotten to your level as in what you have dealt with! I really mean it! I'm pretty weak.. I couldn't imagine what I would do if I had to experience what you did. I started off so well when I started practicing Islam like I should and I did so well with my previous problems until a new problem hit me.. I just couldn't correctly deal with it. I'm falling as a muslim since I am forgetting that life is a test. I let my problem get to me to the point where I became too depressed, wasting every day a lot of the time laying in bed and moping around, started suddenly losing much hair too now. I get scared for the future, for what'll happen to me next... Am i going to lose everything I love? What else could I be tested with... How much worse could it get? These thoughts fill my mind. And I lose motivation to continue.. But there are sometimes.. Some rare moments. Where I wake up. I get a hold of myself, I realize who I am..

I'm not a failure. I am not weak. Its not over for me yet. I wont give up just yet...

I am Muslim. I'm strengthening my character, my perseverance to move on. I am the one who is carrying the burdens Allah placed specifically on me because I am the one who can handle this. These burdens are going to gradually take the bad out of me and reform me into something better. That is if, I put my trust in Allah.

This is who you are. Keep it strong in your heart because.. You are Muslim. You are enduring through your difficulties that Allah specifically placed on YOU because YOU are the one who can handle this deep down. It isn't gonna be easy. But nothing good comes easy. So don't you dare lose hope.

I heard this reference before.

You can clean the minor impurities on silver/gold on the outside by easily wiping it and doing some maintenance. But what its really all about, is those major impurities on the inside. Those that lie deep within. In order to purify what is on inside, you have to put it through extreme heat to melt it and take those impurities out.

nothing good comes easy... But know that soon.. It'll all pay off.

[Imraan]

You know, this dunya can get very hard. I've only read some of your posts and so much has happened to you. I could imagine how lonely you can feel inside sometimes. Even though Allah is with us, we do have those days, and it is hard. Just keep in mind that this is a test, the greater the test, the more you are loved. Soon ease will come, and you may be tested with something else.

I get anxiety towards the future about this problem too. I'm giving you this advice, yet I can't even follow it myself. So you aren't alone. You are very strong!


When our attachment is strong to those we love to the point where we forget that this is just the dunya, it'll end up with us being heart broken. That's because reality hits. This is the dunya. Keep that in mind.

I myself am struggling so much, and I haven't even gotten to your level as in what you have dealt with! I really mean it! I'm pretty weak.. I couldn't imagine what I would do if I had to experience what you did. I started off so well when I started practicing Islam like I should and I did so well with my previous problems until a new problem hit me.. I just couldn't correctly deal with it. I'm falling as a muslim since I am forgetting that life is a test. I let my problem get to me to the point where I became too depressed, wasting every day a lot of the time laying in bed and moping around, started suddenly losing much hair too now. I get scared for the future, for what'll happen to me next... Am i going to lose everything I love? What else could I be tested with... How much worse could it get? These thoughts fill my mind. And I lose motivation to continue.. But there are sometimes.. Some rare moments. Where I wake up. I get a hold of myself, I realize who I am..

I'm not a failure. I am not weak. Its not over for me yet. I wont give up just yet...

I am Muslim. I'm strengthening my character, my perseverance to move on. I am the one who is carrying the burdens Allah placed specifically on me because I am the one who can handle this. These burdens are going to gradually take the bad out of me and reform me into something better. That is if, I put my trust in Allah.

This is who you are. Keep it strong in your heart because.. You are Muslim. You are enduring through your difficulties that Allah specifically placed on YOU because YOU are the one who can handle this deep down. It isn't gonna be easy. But nothing good comes easy. So don't you dare lose hope.

I heard this reference before.

You can clean the minor impurities on silver/gold on the outside by easily wiping it and doing some maintenance. But what its really all about, is those major impurities on the inside. Those that lie deep within. In order to purify what is on inside, you have to put it through extreme heat to melt it and take those impurities out.

nothing good comes easy... But know that soon.. It'll all pay off.

What can I say sister. Its a struggle.

Carrying the burden of being tested, striving to withstand persecution and affliction, while all this is going on its hard progressing with life.

On one hand I'm on the defense and striving for justice, on the other hand I'm contemplating how to progress with life. Progression in terms of raising a family unit, raising righteous pious kind hearted children, I want to raise children how I was raised but with added wisdoms gained from my life experiences ... Career wise It affects my performance, productivity, skill and progression at times...

Right now I count my blessings and try to apply it where needed to help me fulfill my purpose in this life based on my circumstances and priorities.

Hard to focus on both.

After every salaah, my duas are long. Repeatedly asking for the same things, it's good that I'm persevering, it gives me hope.

My age is a big factor in my thought process, nearly 40, I always tell myself "tomorrow is never guaranteed", live for the moment, don't make any plans anymore just have desires. Insh Allah they'll be fulfilled....

Maintaining and improving health is also a priority, just can't let the evils of this world break me down... Psychologically or physiologically..

Continuous duas to Allah swt are made not to test us physically or spiritually, to make it easy for all those suffering...

I know even miracles can't make us superhuman, we are mere mortals and ageing, death and illnesses are inevitable...

May he guide us and protect us all In sha Allah..

[MazharShafiq]

In sha Allah..

What can I say sister. Its a struggle.

Carrying the burden of being tested, striving to withstand persecution and affliction, while all this is going on its hard progressing with life.

On one hand I'm on the defense and striving for justice, on the other hand I'm contemplating how to progress with life. Progression in terms of raising a family unit, raising righteous pious kind hearted children, I want to raise children how I was raised but with added wisdoms gained from my life experiences ... Career wise It affects my performance, productivity, skill and progression at times...

Right now I count my blessings and try to apply it where needed to help me fulfill my purpose in this life based on my circumstances and priorities.

Hard to focus on both.

After every salaah, my duas are long. Repeatedly asking for the same things, it's good that I'm persevering, it gives me hope.

My age is a big factor in my thought process, nearly 40, I always tell myself "tomorrow is never guaranteed", live for the moment, don't make any plans anymore just have desires. Insh Allah they'll be fulfilled....

Maintaining and improving health is also a priority, just can't let the evils of this world break me down... Psychologically or physiologically..

Continuous duas to Allah swt are made not to test us physically or spiritually, to make it easy for all those suffering...

I know even miracles can't make us superhuman, we are mere mortals and ageing, death and illnesses are inevitable...

May he guide us and protect us all In sha Allah..

[Imraan]

Assalam Walaikum

been a while i know.

came across a scholar today who expands on this ayah from his learned perspective.

"Dr Shadee ElMasry Al Maliki"

he says the ayah is referring to sharia law being imposed upon 'man' / humans, nothing more, nothing less. He says that Allah swt is saying the following : shariah law is reasonable and can be imposed on us and that every human being can bear it.

this coming from a learned scholar does confuse me.

for a while I thought it meant lifes challenges and difficulties but now I am confused.

I want to believe that Allah swt does not burden a soul with challenges and tests in life that it cannot bear...... because it makes sense from my perspective... I could be wrong.

hope everyone and their family is in good health and imaan..
please remember me and my family in your prayers. Jazak Allah Khair.

[Labayk]

Assalaam 'Alaykum

Ibn Kathir stated about the Ayah:

"Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. "Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us (Jews and Christians); our Lord! Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Mawla (Patron, Supporter and Protector) and give us victory over the disbelieving people." (al-Baqarah: 286)

"Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope) means, Allah does not ask a soul what is beyond its ability. This only demonstrates Allah's kindness, compassion and generosity towards His creation...This indicates that although Allah will question His servants and judge them, He will only punish for what one is able to protect himself from. As for what one cannot protect himself from, such as what one says to himself - or passing thoughts - they will not be punished for that. We should state here that to dislike the evil thoughts that cross one's mind is a part of faith."

Ease comes in many different ways. When the Prophet (Salalahu 'Alaihi wa Salaam) said: 'Hasbunullah wa Naima wakil ALLah protected him from all harm from the Quraish and other than them. When Ibrahim said the same, Allah allowed him to be captured by his enemies and thrown into the fire, however, Allah made the fire cool for Ibrahim 'Alaihis Salaam. Many times Allah will ward off difficulties for us by simply not allowing them to reach us and sometimes Allah makes it easy by allowing the hardship to come but giving us the ability to endure it and make it easy.

[SoldierAmatUllah]

Yes:
Intimidation
Extreme paranormal inside&outside life
Physically & mentally exhausted
A trouble for my loving & beautiful mommy(I hurt her so much & she loves me so much MashaAllah- This does trigger me about why Allah doesn't likes me? My daddy was always loving too while he was alive! & here I witness,after all the attempts little,big- I'm in extreme flaring punishments & 24/7 tortures)
After around 2 decades,in troubles & punishments for which I was trying to da
save myself, i landed on the curse- done with more exhausting myself with more ibadah & doing other secret deeds

I got dreams upon dreams but when will they come true?Always the same pattern & fears of hellfire.Only big dreams --& mom seen too for me,but when!?

We are told,we are not held accountable for speaking words in torture,if its beyond burden,no oppression on us if we take simple revenge in our thoughts even.(for enemies)

What's going on!?! Where is all this coming from?

@Labayk please talk of something that can be a Ray of hope,if only a minute...

[Labayk]

...the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress? He will say: No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.” (Muslim)

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “When Allah completed the creation, He wrote in His book with Him upon the Throne: Verily, My mercy prevails over My wrath.” (Bukhari & Muslim)

Those who suffered the most in this life will completely forget absolutely all of their suffering as soon as they see al-Jannah. As great as Allah's Wrath truly is, His Mercy is far greater. No matter how long we tarry in this life, even if for 100 years or more, it is not but the blink of an eye and then all of our suffering in this Dunya will be forgotten. This life is truly short. It seems like a long time, but it truly isn't.

Anyway, my words are of little value. I myself have no hope except from the words of Allah and His Prophet (Salalahu 'Alaihi wa Salaam). If it weren't for these words I would be the most cynical of the cynics. I have abandoned hope in this lowly, miserable pathetic life a very long time ago. I am seriously waiting for the Day of Judgement, while in the meantime trying desperately to keep my own heart, tongue and limbs from engaging in that which displeases Him and trying to stay busy doing any good deed whatsoever that could earn His Forgiveness.
@SoldierAmatUllah
No one can worship Allah on Fear alone. The Quran and Sunnah are full of Hope. More hope than anywhere else. Pay closer attention to the innumerable ayat and hadith that show the Greatness of Allah's Mercy. I just showed that His Mercy is even greater than His Wrath, even though His Wrath is Great indeed. I think that shaitan has seen that you fear Allah and is trying to emphasize this while making you forget His Rahmah. Shaitan is a loser and has despaired of Allah's Mercy and wants you to be a loser like him even though you are much closer to Allah's Mercy than he is.

Allah said in a hadith Qudsi:

Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Satan said: By Your might, O Lord, I will continue to mislead the children of Adam, as long as their souls are in their bodies. The Lord said: By My might and majesty, I will continue to forgive them, as long as they seek My forgiveness.” (Ahmed)
@SoldierAmatUllah
If you are terrified of Allah's Wrath and Anger, then Ask Allah to forgive you. Ask for His Forgiveness again and again. Allah said He Will keep forgiving us as long as we keep asking. One of the Sunnah Duas that we say: "Oh Allah, you are the most forgiving and you Love to Forgive so Forgive me"

Say that dua frequently and constantly remind yourself of Allah's Rahmah in the next life especially (as this life was always meant to be a cruel barren wasteland) and Allah Will surely forgive you and protect you from His Wrath.

Seriously, I know of so many stories past and present of people whom I am very sure are far worse than you who sought Allah's Forgiveness and became of those who earned Allah's Love. Put your hope in Allah.

May Allah Forgive us and overlook our wrongdoings
Ameen

[SoldierAmatUllah]

Actually its that crippling fear of Allah that reaches me at weird times & mocking feelings like he mocks at kuffar in Quran

Its all very closely checked by me & belief in this qadr ,that "what if its hell" After all,iys also very frightful.Im aging & ofcourse death is coming near- after shedding tears & long duas,loads of durood,I'm only triggered to sins - everything brings torture,so I seen people without much deen but end good.I want to relax too...I'm about 34,I'm not married I'm having fears of hereafter- the only good thing left is that I visit linkedin and read,post & talks about deen....i have made a little consultancy with a linkedin member and I try to keep optimism....in my heart & for others sufferings, posts pieces from various places,connecting with deen in someway or other.I spend time in learning and sharing my experiences etc.


This is one way how I escape.As I said,people are v beloved to Allah even they don't wear hijab and make bf's -then they are doing little good deeds (no pride,just complain why am I forced to obey and obey when future is so bleak?)and whoa- Support,love& love of God,despite no obedience.This is injustice as I'm gifted with a 1000 dunya trials & a lack deen trials and forced to obey?Then sending me to tortures and bad end feelings,thrown hate & my body starts to shiver because of ALLAH!!!

Why He picks up on every little sin I do for which I always make up to?Not an angel to never sin or always be an cute decent kid

So ain't I crazy that I'm already uptodeen(no kibr please don't misunderstand)and yet I suffer hate and Mockery of God on me as He mocks at Kuffar,for not letting me in a good life - neither Deen nor letting me proceed in dunya.(Just that all chances whether education or wealth,job,marriage)everything gets ruined - And I was promised THIS THAT includes marriage that I think became a source of fitna for me
FROM 21st year to 34 years- no guy that fulfills basic criteria has reached my place...And it used to be for someone known (i knew him from Syria)but then it changed into something that's horrifying.Im tired- why I don't get married?I understand it maybe qadr but so beautiful dreams since 21st year of my life,all these years- I can't believe how evil n ugly this trial seems I've.


My worst decision was my covering head at 15,then worst of decisions in 16th year an Islamic forum that finished me

Duhayma Fitan knocked me down!

Hell..can I give up Hijab for sometime & breathe?Try to be easy?because this isn't how I'm being in the right track even!

P.S:I have tonnes of sacrifices for ALLAH,tonnes of good deeds,tonnes of aiding His Religion,Tonnes of alot - so where did and do they go for which He gave me dreams ?Tonnes , No lies,all this is correct,not telling for riyaa!

Excuse me for my tone!

I'm tired & sick of ever micro second torture...I can't survive without taking high dosage of sleeping pills without my familys knowledge.No one can let go of me unless they let mevi for rehabs.Its all due to fears & 24/7 torment.I can't go out without high dosaged.

I'm done with suicides attempts too in order He saves me from any sort of kufr - 8 times attempts for Him & 2 for my family to be relieved.


I gave Him best of my life's years & love respect ❤? What He gave me!

Azaab!Humiliation!Regardless!Oppression and hopelessness!
No one deserves this kinda life even not mine worst enemy

[Pure Purple]

Assalam Alaikum
Jazakallahu khairan to all for sharing your experiences.

[Ixsaan]

Actually its that crippling fear of Allah that reaches me at weird times & mocking feelings like he mocks at kuffar in Quran

Its all very closely checked by me & belief in this qadr ,that "what if its hell" After all,iys also very frightful.Im aging & ofcourse death is coming near- after shedding tears & long duas,loads of durood,I'm only triggered to sins - everything brings torture,so I seen people without much deen but end good.I want to relax too...I'm about 34,I'm not married I'm having fears of hereafter- the only good thing left is that I visit linkedin and read,post & talks about deen....i have made a little consultancy with a linkedin member and I try to keep optimism....in my heart & for others sufferings, posts pieces from various places,connecting with deen in someway or other.I spend time in learning and sharing my experiences etc.


This is one way how I escape.As I said,people are v beloved to Allah even they don't wear hijab and make bf's -then they are doing little good deeds (no pride,just complain why am I forced to obey and obey when future is so bleak?)and whoa- Support,love& love of God,despite no obedience.This is injustice as I'm gifted with a 1000 dunya trials & a lack deen trials and forced to obey?Then sending me to tortures and bad end feelings,thrown hate & my body starts to shiver because of ALLAH!!!

Why He picks up on every little sin I do for which I always make up to?Not an angel to never sin or always be an cute decent kid

So ain't I crazy that I'm already uptodeen(no kibr please don't misunderstand)and yet I suffer hate and Mockery of God on me as He mocks at Kuffar,for not letting me in a good life - neither Deen nor letting me proceed in dunya.(Just that all chances whether education or wealth,job,marriage)everything gets ruined - And I was promised THIS THAT includes marriage that I think became a source of fitna for me
FROM 21st year to 34 years- no guy that fulfills basic criteria has reached my place...And it used to be for someone known (i knew him from Syria)but then it changed into something that's horrifying.Im tired- why I don't get married?I understand it maybe qadr but so beautiful dreams since 21st year of my life,all these years- I can't believe how evil n ugly this trial seems I've.


My worst decision was my covering head at 15,then worst of decisions in 16th year an Islamic forum that finished me

Duhayma Fitan knocked me down!

Hell..can I give up Hijab for sometime & breathe?Try to be easy?because this isn't how I'm being in the right track even!

P.S:I have tonnes of sacrifices for ALLAH,tonnes of good deeds,tonnes of aiding His Religion,Tonnes of alot - so where did and do they go for which He gave me dreams ?Tonnes , No lies,all this is correct,not telling for riyaa!

Excuse me for my tone!

I'm tired & sick of ever micro second torture...I can't survive without taking high dosage of sleeping pills without my familys knowledge.No one can let go of me unless they let mevi for rehabs.Its all due to fears & 24/7 torment.I can't go out without high dosaged.

I'm done with suicides attempts too in order He saves me from any sort of kufr - 8 times attempts for Him & 2 for my family to be relieved.


I gave Him best of my life's years & love respect ❤? What He gave me!

Azaab!Humiliation!Regardless!Oppression and hopelessness!
No one deserves this kinda life even not mine worst enemy

asalaamu aleykum
yaa muslimah your post is indeed gravely concerning
you should not argue with the decision of ALLAH ta alaa
He gives risqi which ofcause includes marriage to whoever he wants and deprives others
the wisdom behind is only know to no one but allah despite others who claim to guess it
you may lament and cry your misfortune but never argue with ALlah swt
Allah is the owner of everything in the universe and beyond. He does what he want,punish whoever he wishes in this world or herafter or both and also pardon whoever He wishes in this world or hereafter or both
also note this world is testing place
note some great sahaba died while never married nor enjoyed in this world
while some pious ulama died having spent all their life blind and tortured in prison
sheikh ibnu taimiyah died in prison never married and he was indeed God fearing person

[Ixsaan]

Actually its that crippling fear of Allah that reaches me at weird times & mocking feelings like he mocks at kuffar in Quran

Its all very closely checked by me & belief in this qadr ,that "what if its hell" After all,iys also very frightful.Im aging & ofcourse death is coming near- after shedding tears & long duas,loads of durood,I'm only triggered to sins - everything brings torture,so I seen people without much deen but end good.I want to relax too...I'm about 34,I'm not married I'm having fears of hereafter- the only good thing left is that I visit linkedin and read,post & talks about deen....i have made a little consultancy with a linkedin member and I try to keep optimism....in my heart & for others sufferings, posts pieces from various places,connecting with deen in someway or other.I spend time in learning and sharing my experiences etc.


This is one way how I escape.As I said,people are v beloved to Allah even they don't wear hijab and make bf's -then they are doing little good deeds (no pride,just complain why am I forced to obey and obey when future is so bleak?)and whoa- Support,love& love of God,despite no obedience.This is injustice as I'm gifted with a 1000 dunya trials & a lack deen trials and forced to obey?Then sending me to tortures and bad end feelings,thrown hate & my body starts to shiver because of ALLAH!!!

Why He picks up on every little sin I do for which I always make up to?Not an angel to never sin or always be an cute decent kid

So ain't I crazy that I'm already uptodeen(no kibr please don't misunderstand)and yet I suffer hate and Mockery of God on me as He mocks at Kuffar,for not letting me in a good life - neither Deen nor letting me proceed in dunya.(Just that all chances whether education or wealth,job,marriage)everything gets ruined - And I was promised THIS THAT includes marriage that I think became a source of fitna for me
FROM 21st year to 34 years- no guy that fulfills basic criteria has reached my place...And it used to be for someone known (i knew him from Syria)but then it changed into something that's horrifying.Im tired- why I don't get married?I understand it maybe qadr but so beautiful dreams since 21st year of my life,all these years- I can't believe how evil n ugly this trial seems I've.


My worst decision was my covering head at 15,then worst of decisions in 16th year an Islamic forum that finished me

Duhayma Fitan knocked me down!

Hell..can I give up Hijab for sometime & breathe?Try to be easy?because this isn't how I'm being in the right track even!

P.S:I have tonnes of sacrifices for ALLAH,tonnes of good deeds,tonnes of aiding His Religion,Tonnes of alot - so where did and do they go for which He gave me dreams ?Tonnes , No lies,all this is correct,not telling for riyaa!

Excuse me for my tone!

I'm tired & sick of ever micro second torture...I can't survive without taking high dosage of sleeping pills without my familys knowledge.No one can let go of me unless they let mevi for rehabs.Its all due to fears & 24/7 torment.I can't go out without high dosaged.

I'm done with suicides attempts too in order He saves me from any sort of kufr - 8 times attempts for Him & 2 for my family to be relieved.


I gave Him best of my life's years & love respect ❤? What He gave me!

Azaab!Humiliation!Regardless!Oppression and hopelessness!
No one deserves this kinda life even not mine worst enemy

يَـٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱصْبِرُوا۟ وَصَابِرُوا۟ وَرَابِطُوا۟ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

[SoldierAmatUllah]

Sorry but you didn't understand my post...et al!

I'm not lamenting for marriage first of all & last to all those who are believing this...ENOUGH!


Atleast know the situation before you give a fatwa!

[SoldierAmatUllah]

Well,InshaAllah things seem to get in order...I say Shukr to Allah, & keep myself busy...because this torment needs to stop - We are taught Allah doesn't oppresses so this azzaab that's giving me chills must be stopped...Ya Allah,help me!

In not antagonist, this is well only grown more after a decade of my Islamic life- yeah I believe my good dreams are true..InshaAllah as many times they been.

Rest Allah knows the best!

I commit tawbah to Him Who Alone can lift this hardship!

BTW,do read up on "DUHAYMA Fitan".
.open your eyes....this imaan kufr is "Happening"& we see who stayed solid on imaan again & who totally let all be ruined!

[SoldierAmatUllah]

Regarding Duhayma Fitan-many Muslim are under its effect - the best of people I have seen and they (Well,it was there on Islamic Awakening forums too) said same ,feared to lose imaan & advising others- I used to advise too,maybe that's why I have seen Allah always my priority because its from Him & His Goodness!

Duhayma is a horrifying trial & it's true- in the Ahadeeth & we all should be aware of the Duhayma Fitan before we lose

P.S:The trial I'm facing is exactl the peak of my trials- seen good dreams that relief me...I'm not kafir- I'm overwhelmed -Thus, it's happening to others too,some even left Religion & others tried hard stlll

Bismillaah,

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه said:

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:

“Be prompt in doing good deeds [ before you are overtaken] by turbulence which would be like a part of the dark night. During a man would be a Believer in the morning and an unbeliever in the evening or he would be a Believer in the evening and an unbeliever in the morning, selling his faith for worldly things.”

Takhreej:

{ Imam Muslim in his Saheeh #169 }

Shaykh Muhammad Naasir ud Deen Al Albaani رحمه اللّه commented:

This Hadeeth is a warning from the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم to his Ummah about the Fitan (trials), which the minds cannot conceive. Great Trials! “which would be like a part of the dark night”, by which the Muslims will be tried. He would be a Believer in the morning and by evening would become a Kaafir, and vice-versa.

And His صلى الله عليه وسلم saying:

“Hasten to perform deeds”, meaning: good deeds. He صلى الله عليه وسلم is prompting his Ummah (to do good deeds), especially in the times of the later generations which, with the passing of time, are getting closer (to the prophecy). The more the time passes, the more the trials and the more close we get to the Major Signs of the (approaching) Hour ). The Prophet, صلى الله عليه وسلم in this Authentic Hadeeth, is instructing us to hasten to do good deeds before we are overtaken by these trials, i.e. we face them with righteous deeds. So that if these trials come upon us all of a sudden, we can face them armed with our righteous deeds which we had done previously. And that these righteous deeds (by Allaah’s Will) will come in between us and the trials so that we do not fall into these trials which are described as: “which would be like a part of the dark night”.

{ Sharh Saheeh ut Targheeb wa Tarheeb }

** And Allaahعزوجل knows best **

[Sunshineday]

I think that this is an area of people growing up, thinking that things have to work in a certain way -here are some points:

1. Do you not put your trust in Allah-believers place their trust, then they are not worried. If you think that evil doers have the upperhand-then you are wrong, when Allah is best of planners.
2. If you choose to fight and do something-then you can't complain that it doesn't work out or it is too hard, it is upto you to see an amicable situation as possible and keep it simple. If you can't, then you have to bear with patients it is an injury but no where does it say in the Quran, you're going to get what you want in this world, or you should have something-that is immature. We are supposed to be servants of Allah, giving up our whole lives, what do you think that even people meant in the past when they said to the Prophet they would ransom such an such.

If you are oppressed and cannot change your condition, you just need to hold onto belief and look for the life of the next world. If there are things you can do to change a situation, then try so. If you wish to fight for something, you can't complain that others are not making it easier-if you wish, where there is not a weakness take a more peaceful option, and place your trust in Allah. There are options but it is what sits you with. Remember it is gratitude that Allah likes not your complaints, have you not heard of those when their children died, that the praised Allah, if there children are dying, they praised Allah. Whatever Allah wills-People say Insha Allah but they don't mean it-it means whatever Allah wills-it isn't only what you accept, which means you haven't submitted to Allah as much as you think you have, and then deem fit to judge your own test. Unfortuanately, people lack maturity and understanding this is a huge problem in this world for Muslims and non-Muslims. This is your journey onto Allah-not for whatever is in this world.

[Flos]

@SoldierAmatUllah

Sister, we have already spoken about this. As long as your opinion of Allah is like this, you're never gonna leave your state. If you think He's torturing you, He will torture you. If you think He's punishing you for every little sin, He will punish you.

If you finally start understanding Quran and Sunnah and change your way of thinking of Allah, things will change. I was tricked by shaytan for short period of time, I was fearing Allah like you. I was thinking that if I make a little, little, little mistake or sin that He's going to give me hardship and it was happening. I say something, I repent but panic and expect the worst to happen and IT HAPPENS.

When I stopped it stopped.

You do a sin? Repent and do your best not to repeat that sin and THAT'S IT! Move on!

Please, let's not talk about this again. It's maybe 3rd time I'm repeating this to you.

Don't forget that Allah is not punishing those who repent!

[SoldierAmatUllah]

@Moderator s

Please ban my account.Filled with ignorant crowd,passing fatwas on others situations & conditions without full knowledge of Islamic texts!
Thanks

[Pure Purple]

Assalam Alaikum
Sister, I think you are being so negative. People here trying to give you some genuine advice as per there understanding of your situation. Give yourself some time inshaAllah things will change and you will be able to understand there point of view.
Please don't ban yourself. :)

[SoldierAmatUllah]

You guys don't understand a thing,so anyone would feel going away, not going to get advices for issues that doesn't exist


- I am able to prove it acc.to Islamic texts but don't want the people here upset as very few understand duhayma & give me fatwas acc.to their no knowledge of my situation- the condition that I am in which is now most 2 decades...I have received big gladtidings,by Allah's Fadl & Rahma....Only that I get upset bcz it's 24/7 & I swear I don't want to talk of anything specials I got because people feel upset.

I'm biggest sinner,I have amongst hardest trial,I have received a to me of punishments and I have seen His Rahma,Fadl in tonnes since beginning .Although my place maybe hell but I couldn't help letting know people it's ok to speak outta torture,outta pain,outta constant oppression, out of force,outta trial....its OK as many others maybe in same trials of duhayma fitan so it's ok.There's a hadeeth that talks of a Believer first reaction be not good but he stays in Islam

Sift it with Duhayma,ofcourse I respect Allah much,that's why I would trust Him for good that keeps on coming & why I stand for Him as much as I can.Stop saying things in a negative way- somethings work for someone & it may not be of benefit for me - & vice versa



Please all people here,read on duhayma fitan

Don't want to argue with anyone here.

Thanks

[Flos]

@Sol dieramatullah

You're forgetting that I'm also tested with that. I'm unable to give fatwas, I'm not alim, I'm just sharing with you as always. If I'd tell in public what imaan trials I go through from time to time and obviously coming directly from Allah - people, just by reading would lose imaan.

Your state of mind, currently, is affected by it. Just hear me sister! Change your opinion of Allah and things will be different.

You know what I'm seeing now? Allah destroying means of sinning in front of my eyes and I celebrate.

[SoldierAmatUllah]

I have read your case,sister please don't mix and confuse everything

I'm not available for more discussions with people with no indepth knowledge & own experiences on others.
I

[Pure Purple]

@Sol dieramatullah

You know what I'm seeing now? Allah destroying means of sinning in front of my eyes and I celebrate.

Exactly how I am feeling now.I am unable to speak much so yeah I am being prevented from sinning by idle talk

[SoldierAmatUllah]

Allah,I miss Your Mercies ! ❤

[SoldierAmatUllah]

I love ALLAH- for life! Always,FRIENDS ❤

[Pure Purple]

Sister please do understand that after all these suffering if you question Allah's decree you will loose all the reward which you will get from these suffering.
It's ok feel frustrated at some point of life.Every one faces difficulty in their life.But you are wrong here
Please do understand this and believe in this ayah.
"Allah does not burden a soul beyond it can bear it."
Surah baqrah vs 286

I can say I am woman who had phobia to even visit a doc.I rember when I first time visited a dentist around 10 years back I was literally shaking my hands feet turn cold.After 3 days he called me for extraction.I was so scared I started praying tahajjud.It was like getting major surgery.I have always had phobia woth hospital or doctors.I don't know why.Ya for you what's the big deal if I went to a dentist and extracted my tooth.But during those 3 days I couldn't even sleep properly in the night.For others it's not a big deal, for me it was because I had fear which I couldn't control.Same way other's trial might look easier to you but he might be suffering more than you.
After so many years now i am in a position when I visit doc I don't feel scared at all because now I have much more bigger problem to deal with.All those fear vanished and I don't even th8nk about injection or extraction how painful procedure will be. I just go to doctors in search of cure.

[SoldierAmatUllah]

I have repented & not going to complain- Allah gave & gives lacs of material blessings to spiritual-

Don't want more trials....Aameen

[Flos]

Exactly how I am feeling now.I am unable to speak much so yeah I am being prevented from sinning by idle talk

Subhanallah! I've had throat incident earlier for similar thing.
In the earliest times of my deen, looong time ago, when I started learning Quran I used to have same throat incident, unable to speak. Now, it's the opposite :)

[SoldierAmatUllah]

Was out and I started to think of the rewards from Islamic texts, for the believers - my dreams said same
An article shared same by a member & I'm very much happy with Allah Tabarak Wa Ta'ala to be actually my Creator.

JazakAllah hu khayr all the people who advised me here.Thanks alot!

Just a bit messed up in brain certain days but Alhamdulillah to be a Muslim ❤

[SoldierAmatUllah]

You know what I'm seeing now? Allah destroying means of sinning in front of my eyes and I celebrate


HAPPENING

Thanks to Allah for the years of dreams telling me about it all!

[Imraan]

Assalam walaikum...

disheartened days come and go, right now it is here and reading this post again helped me a lot.

Jazak Allah Khair

[mrfantastic23]

Assalam walaikum...

disheartened days come and go, right now it is here and reading this post again helped me a lot.

Jazak Allah Khair

as salam alaikum, things will get better for you inshaAllah bad days come and go, my advice stay away from sin and say astagfirullah often, some calamities happen as a punishment others are a test, some calamities happen because of our own misdeeds. correct me if im wrong

[Imraan]

as salam alaikum, things will get better for you inshaAllah bad days come and go, my advice stay away from sin and say astagfirullah often, some calamities happen as a punishment others are a test, some calamities happen because of our own misdeeds. correct me if im wrong

Makes me ponder if I have been forgiven for my sins or not as the test / punishment continues.... which wears me down every now and then .

[mrfantastic23]

Makes me ponder if I have been forgiven for my sins or not as the test / punishment continues.... which wears me down every now and then .

watch this inshaAllah https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uapYARjQjIA

[SoldierAmatUllah]

im aging 36 next year,i see my life is already passed.What remains is nothing but years of battling fears of death unless gets a guaranteed dreams of Jannah that momineen do get by the mercy of ALLAH.

Though i do hope & make dua for good times & bit of dunya rewards from Allah - He Ta'ala,promised us in His Qur'an & Ahadeeth,if we do taqwa,repent,shed tears & do good.
We are living in times of extreme hardship where our faiths get extremely punctured.It's a mess & good things don't come to many of us upon Deen,so easy & soon.

Won't we be patient & take joy in doing good deeds by trying even?

Kindness is bestest happiness bringing act. Smile & give regular dawah online esp on all platforms . It's so easy & simple to copy/paste Daily Aayat & Ahadeeth on all social medias.

An excellent act,InshaAllah - in the Sight of Allah Most High.

My focus is hereafter.Was,is & undeniably true that im passing to hereafter life & it should not be a trouble afyer years of painful pangs 24/7.

I can't do anything about anything that happens to me.Just sideline though as in the hadeeth:

"Dua is worship"

I try a bit of ibadah routine as when I'm in good state of imaan - ALLAH knows my tries.I know He knows me in terribly horrible situation - extremely paranormal so i just leave it on to Him & engage in worldly things.

Total Escape.


Azaan brings me back & at times im grateful to Allah Almighty for obligation of namaaz.

Shukr Alhamdulillah

Prophet (sallAllahu alayhe wasallam) told us :

"Thinking well of Allah is an act of ibadah"

Think good.Think ALLAH will never abondon you.Think of meeting ALLAH Most Compassionate with your daughter.Think that it's a tŕial.Think,good because how we assume of ALLAH - He is that.

May Allah Ta'ala protect & bless you in both lives!Aameen

[Tawheed]

As Salam alaikum

Brother try obtaining the book

"Don't be sad"

do not live in the past

Start life a new...

Forget the past

Start fresh new

Be happy stop worrying...