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muslimah546
Asalamu Alaikum wr wb,
Just today i found out something that has me shattered in all ways. i was using my father’s phone when he received a message which was from some woman i didn’t know. it wasn’t the kind of message a married man should be receiving. i’m the youngest in my family and i can’t tell my mother, she’s extremely sensitive. i haven’t had a chance to tell my older siblings but i’m really contemplating if i should or if i shouldn’t. i don’t know what to do. i love my family way too much and i fear that if i say anything, it might cause trouble at home and i’m just generally not ready for anything negative. it hurts so much that i can’t put it into words. i don’t understand how to deal with this. i would really appreciate somebody’s help
What would I do.....?
Email him or message him anonymously saying his secret is out. If the worst has happened then yes you cant reverse time. Give him a warning or a scare and tell him to give it up, remind him he has a family and that his sin has been revealed for a reason, maybe this reason, who knows.... can you imagine if something like this got out into the community, I mean he got caught some other way... it would bring disgrace to the family, by which time it may be too late, your sensitive mom wouldn't be able to hack shame and embarrassment like that.
human behaviour, when they realise they're doing something wrong and they are confronted with it, they think twice before doing it again. This applies to people with conscience off course. Hopefully your dad refrains from it and gives it up. People can give stuff up, people can change, you have to give them a chance first though to find out if they are willing to change they're ways....
Remind him anonymously ASAP before it progresses or gets worse.
I'm worried if he is at a point of no return. But you shouldnt jump to conclusions..
I've learnt calamities come for you whether you like it or not, for some unknown reason it happens to the unlikelisest people, only Allah knows...
I pray things get better for you and your family insh Allah. I hate seeing families break up, absolutely hate it.
Bound by unconditional love, memories, DNA and blood, something people tend to forget easily.