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Muslimahb
Asalaamu alaikum sisters and brothers
I really need advice and also a few attentive ears/eyes please. I have a really bad problem of over thinking and becoming paranoid about people around me. So much so, that it affects how I interact and relate to people and then I spend so much time dwelling on my interactions and become regretful towards how I behaved, reacted etc....
Some examples:
Sisters in a gathering didn't seem that enthusiastic to do Salaam with me....omg do they all hate me??
Trying to visit someone's house to congratulate them on something and we can't seem to find the right day that we're free and so are they, in order to visit their house. So I approach the sister and she says the fact you thought about us is enough, no need for formalities, but youre welcome to pop down whenever.... does this mean she rather we not come...why does she not like me (then I start to go through my history of interactions with her...and I conclude in my head that she doesn't like me cos of X Y and Z and then start to feel remorseful and further think of all the other people who don't like me...or are avoiding me)
Sending messages to a sister after making a joke in a group...and she doesn't respond or only after a whole and I start to regret sending the joke...Maybe it was in ill taste...
Questions asked or examples given during a gathering...omg are they discussing our recent interaction???
No one responding to my input in the group but previously responded to another sister...am I seen as a outcast?? Why are they not commenting to mine..???
Does anybody else have a similar problem ?? What do I do??
Please help, jazakh Allah khair
Yes, similar here..
Mine got so bad that I would look out of the window and see someone's nephew.. and know that his uncle would be passing through the day after.
It was awful.
In the end I just stopped reacting.
Stopped sinning.. I dont want to be the enabler or the excuse.
Stopped imposing myself on people or even trying to make conversation.
Put me to work.
..Let me forget.
I feel I'm not nearly clever enough to hit as hard as they do..
Or never really planned to do so anyway.
Anyway, when so many things are willing to tell you what you are..
You just have to show them differently to stop it.
The more doors in your head you leave open, the more comfortable the shaitan will be in it.
..I suppose the opposite is also true, maybe god works through everyone..
I just think I was a lot happier for 26 years of my life not having to think or hear a thought..or worry about what I'm doing and what iv done.
I don't buy into being crazy though..
I'm a scientist.
It's always better to give the textbook answer.. because knowing and being are two different things.
Nobody really knows what tomorrow holds..
“The evil eye is true, and if there is anything that would precede Predestination, it would be the evil eye.''
I feel bad because the tenet of faith is predestination..
Not the evil eye.
So I hope and pray everything will fall away in due time..
Allah swt distance our sins from us and lead us to success.