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Studentofdeed
When I was in involved with someone and she was abusive...I started feeling miserable and lonely. To the point where I had desires for other women. I wished that to be with any other women because I knew they would have treated me.better and made me feel important. There were few girls into me but I did not want to leave her. I knew I would never leave her or cheat on her...but I had secret desires to just leave her because of the abuse and felt like I deserved someone better. Does having these thoughts at the time make me an adulterer or promiscuous. Please realize I have realized my mistake but I'm only asking these questions so that I know whether if I'm a bad person and if I should keep blaming myself. Alhamdullah I'm glad, Allah guided me but I'm asking these questions just to get these doubts out of mind. Regarding women that were into me. I was friendly with them.and polite but never made an active attempt to pursue them as I was already committed to someone and could not dare to leave her. Based off what I wrote...does it seem I'm adulterous or promiscuous?
Assalam O Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,
Some of the members who replied above probably have no background information about you. But those who have been regular on this forum know that who have already cut your ties from the girl who basically abused you and slandered you. Alhamdulillah, Allah saved you and guided you to practice Islam.
Regarding the statement which I highlighted in bold, it appears that there were other girls who were interested in you but since you did not established any relationship with them. You just have thoughts and Allah does not punish us for anything which crosses our mind. Since
you did not act upon your thoughts, you will not be held accountable for what crossed your mind. Al-Bukhaari (6491) and Muslim (131) narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said, relating from his Lord, may He be glorified and exalted:
Allah decreed good deeds and bad deeds, then He explained that. Whoever thinks of doing a good deed then does not do it, Allah will write it down as one complete good deed. If he thinks of doing a good deed and then does it, Allah [may He be glorified and exalted] will write it down between ten and seven hundred fold, or many more. If he thinks of doing a bad deed then he does not do it, Allah will write it down as one complete good deed, and if he thinks of it then does it, Allah will write it down as one bad deed.
Al-Bukhaari (5269) and Muslim (127) also narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, will forgive my ummah for whatever crosses their minds so long as they do not act upon it or speak of it.
These are all whispers from shytan because he want you to feel low and give up on practicing Islam. He wants you to loose hope in Allah's Mercy. Just don't pay any attention to such negative thoughts. Thank Allah that He guided you and saved you from these fitnas and continue to put Islamic teachings in practice. May Allah make it easy for you and reward you for the sacrifices you are making and hardships you are going through. Ameen!
Ma’aSalaam